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sitting in the hospital waiting room.....
I get grumpy at my friends who don't get it. They say "Oh my gosh why are you texting me wanting to chat about things???? Shouldn't you be with [the sick person]????" Dude, the sick person is heavily sedated. Am I supposed to stare at their unconscious body for the next 10 hours? It's not even an option to "be with them." I'm not even PoA. I'm not being negligent if I go down to the hospital cafeteria and eat, or if I sit on my phone and shitpost rather than.... idk, pretending I'm in a soap opera and freaking out, I guess.

Betonhaus said:
Right now I'm rewriting my resume for retail work, but I don't know how to delicately put that most of my relevant experience is over ten years ago.
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Besides extremely technical and specific skills, basically every job can have a description written that lends itself well to applying for other jobs.

Say you worked as a gardener, since you worked in retail last.
You still utilized time-management skills and worked efficiently in individual and group settings, and maintained proper safety procedures when handling hazardous materials and equipment. You positively represented a company by maintaining a professional demeanor and abiding by outlined workplace policies.

I always prefer using the format of "This was my role, and these were my duties" in a resume to just listing each job you've had. Because "time management, following policies, working efficiently, professional demeanor" really means a lot more than "MEDLINE ASSOCIATE PHONE REPRESENTATIVE 2019-2023. I PICKED UP DA PHONE."

If you got ANY award or accolade, even if it was employee of the month in a company with 4 employees, it's good to include. If you took ANY training, including bullshit online training videos you only pretended to watch, it's good to include. Anything to make you look actively accomplished as an employee and not a bum.

If you are trying to work your way up the job ladder and are in need of resume fluff, AARP offers quite a few very cheap online certifications. One person can work for 12 years as just an associate, while another can work for 6 years as an associate, then take a 100 dollar "Management Skills" class and use a bit of charisma and get hired for 4 dollars more an hour as a supervisor. There are lots of expensive scammy certifications but in the world of retail and jobs where you don't need a degree to become the supervisor/shift lead/etc, why not aim to become the supervisor ASAP?

The difference between a 13 dollar an hour job, and a promotion to a 45k a year salary job, for one person in my workplace, was just a 200 dollar two-week online grant-writing course, after just one year of experience with the company.

Also, everyone seems to prefer EXTREMELY conservative resumes. Conservative format-wise.

I cannot recommend FlowCV enough, and it's free.
Unironically, this is the type of "they just want to hear the right popular buzzwords" writing that ChatGPT is pretty good at, too, although you should only ask it for ideas, not ask it to write the whole resume for you. Like, as a prompt, "I worked as a delivery driver/scuba instructor/dog groomer, how can I phrase my job duties in my resume to help me get a retail job?"
 
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bliblblblbbllb said:
Besides extremely technical and specific skills, basically every job can have a description written that lends itself well to applying for other jobs.

Say you worked as a gardener, since you worked in retail last.
You still utilized time-management skills and worked efficiently in individual and group settings, and maintained proper safety procedures when handling hazardous materials and equipment. You positively represented a company by maintaining a professional demeanor and abiding by outlined workplace policies.
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Thank you, I got a resume good enough to do applications tomorrow.

They probably won't ask for references. I hope not, as my references are out of date and I don't even remember my last retail boss's name.
 
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Been thinking about working towards getting my Master Electrician license. The company I work for would give me a significant pay raise if I got it. I'm not sure if I'm gonna be doing this forever, since the missus and I have talked about one of us partially retiring to raise the kids, and she makes more than me. But our pay wouldn't be that far away if I got it, and I think she'd be better for them.

Baby number 3 just arrived, though, so I'm taking time off to help with him and the others. Gonna be busy for a while.
 
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Larry Potterfield said:
Been thinking about working towards getting my Master Electrician license. The company I work for would give me a significant pay raise if I got it. I'm not sure if I'm gonna be doing this forever, since the missus and I have talked about one of us partially retiring to raise the kids, and she makes more than me. But our pay wouldn't be that far away if I got it, and I think she'd be better for them.

Baby number 3 just arrived, though, so I'm taking time off to help with him and the others. Gonna be busy for a while.
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Question would be who is the better cook, more organized and tidy, and willing to change diapers?
 
I'm going to get the rest of the stuff out of my car today, as well as start the legal shit with my car crash. Things have been going relatively smoothly. Had a good labor day, watched Shrek in honor of Smash Mouth with the nephews and nieces, searched for cars and think i found one i liked, and read a bit of manga to round it off. Won't say life is perfect but it's going solid

I'm just worried about my insurance. I'm going to lose half my points at the end of this. They might just downgrade me. Can't even blame em too much tbh. But I'll press on.
 
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My two orders arrived today (Because I have such a hard on for physical releases). The Toxic Avenger 1-4 on DVD and Cannibal Holocaust. I'm such a fucking retard though because I didn't read the description for the Toxic Avenger collection. So I only recently found out that the version I ordered is fucking Swedish, and I don't know Swedish

tl;dr, local retard doesn't read description of item he intended on ordering.
 
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Can I say I'm dealing with manic Mondays ghetto ass brother called tiring Tuesdays? Cus I'm tired
 
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I was reading through some of my old writings from a few years back and it's somewhat surreal to see how my disposition toward everything has changed over the last 3 years. I went from someone concerned about the state of things into someone who has a sort of "whatever happens happens" sort of mentality.

I don't really subscribe into the "things will just work themselves out" mantra, but I do think things in the world are always in a state of flux and change constantly. Things that bother us today may become irrelevant in the future.


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Just trying to move forward because what else can we do, right?
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I suppose it's all we can do sometimes.
 
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Yamamura Video Rental said:
I was reading through some of my old writings from a few years back and it's somewhat surreal to see how my disposition toward everything has changed over the last 3 years. I went from someone concerned about the state of things into someone who has a sort of "whatever happens happens" sort of mentality.

I don't really subscribe into the "things will just work themselves out" mantra, but I do think things in the world are always in a state of flux and change constantly. Things that bother us today may become irrelevant in the future.
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I feel that man, I feel that a lot. Life has gone crazy for me in the past week, and I'm just in the shrugging stage. If it had been in the past, I'd still be freaking out about my crash.

Speaking of, found more car listing in the $2000-$4000 range today. You'd be surprised what can still be found if you only look. And on looking, I retrieved the rest of my stuff from the car yesterday. It was sad letting the old girl go, but I sucked it up and did it. Surprisingly I got most of my shit the day of the crash. Left some sketchbooks in there, which got a little rain, but they'll dry. Have some good memories in there, so I'm happy I got them back.

Other than that, talked to insurance a lot yesterday. That was... fun. As suspected, the car is totaled, still don't have a estimate but it should be today or tomorrow, so that's nice to know. After all that, I read a bit. Good to keep my mind engaged
 
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WelperHelper99 said:
It was sad letting the old girl go, but I sucked it up and did it. Surprisingly I got most of my shit the day of the crash. Left some sketchbooks in there, which got a little rain, but they'll dry. Have some good memories in there, so I'm happy I got them back.
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I know how you feel, my Subaru was the first sort of non-shitty car I had. It's a lot like having your first dog. Of course there will be other dogs in the future, but on some days you'll always think back to the moments of times gone past. It will always hold special reverence to you even if no one else quite understands it.
 
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Yamamura Video Rental said:
I know how you feel, my Subaru was the first sort of non-shitty car I had. It's a lot like having your first dog. Of course there will be other dogs in the future, but on some days you'll always think back to the moments of times gone past. It will always hold special reverence to you even if no one else quite understands it.
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So true man. I had got her running right, and now she's gone. At least there is a future. Paid the fine this morning; only 160 bucks and no court case. Now I have some breathing room to find a new pup
 
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Can't tell if I have horrible allergies or if I'm genuinely getting sick. I also can feel a migraine coming on. This year really has been a series of physical ailments huh.
 
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I need to vent and let off some steam bc right now, I'm absolutely MATI and in full hate mode. It's unreal how much MATI I'm so I'm not doing fine right now and this thread seems like the perfect one to rage.

It's going to be a long ass post so I'll hide it behind a spoiler so you guys don't have to scroll for hours and also it deals with CP so it's better that you don't read if this topic upsets you.

A few days ago a well-known Austrian actor got sentenced.

His crime: Possession of 75000 images and textes of child pornography. He also created new CP by writing fanfics about raping children and photoshopping his own images into images of real CP.

The sentence: 2 years on probation plus therapy and regular drug checks.

I'm talking about the case of Florian Teichtmeister (German Wiki entry, no english one available, sorry).

1) The story

tl;dr of the case
2021 Teichtmeister got accused of domestic abuse by his then-gf. She also discovered the CP and reported him to police.
Teichtmeister's home got raided and the cops found 100g of cocaine and later the CP stuff.
The case for domestic abuse and drug possession got scrubbed.
While he got investigated he still got acting jobs. During the whole story it got uncovered that people in the acting industry covered his ass, lied to cops and so on.
Teichtmeister explained himself and his doings this way: He has pedophile tendencies for a long time. During covid and the time of the lockdowns he couldn't work as actor. He spent this time with doing a shitload of coke and jerking off to CP. His behavior got more and more extreme over the time and the CP stuff he consumed got more and more extreme and brutal.
Teichtmeister fully confussed to everything he got accused of and was fully cooperative.
This lead to the final sentence of 2 years of probation plus he has to undergo therapy and do regularly drug tests. The judge also acknowledged that Teichtmeister didn't share CP stuff with others (which would be another crime) and that Teichtmeister is "full of remorse". The sentence means if he does ok within these 2 years he will be fine. No further punishment.

So this story alone makes my fucking blood boil. 75000+ images of real CP. There are real human beings, kids, behind these images. Kids that suffered real sexual abuse and got raped.

2) It get's worse

Here is a news article I read a few minutes ago. It's in German but I have translated it with DeepL:

Teichtmeister expert Prof. Hofmann: "Children can cope well with pedophilic assaults".
To the inconsistencies in the process against the child porn picture collector Teichtmeister questions come to the court psychiatrist Univ. Professor Dr. Peter Hofmann in addition. Especially from the platform of affected church violence heavy reproaches had been raised already years ago. In the context of a symposium Hofmann had expressed that children could deal well with pedophilic assaults.

Of all people, it was a Green deputy who railed the loudest. In 2011, Albert Steinhauser quoted the kath.net site, which again quoted Hofmann:

"Today, there is a tendency in public opinion to think that all victims of pedophiles are severely traumatized. Hofmann: "That is not the case. Pedophilic acts - in his experience - often remain at the touch level." Research also shows that half of the children affected can cope well with pedophilic assaults. They place them in their biography and do not get post-traumatic stress disorder."
Albert Steinhauser quoted Kath.net, July 5, 2011 (insecure website).

Numerous civil society actors expressed outrage at the statements, which would trivialize violence and abuse against children. The original article on Kath.net from 2010 is also still available. There you can see the original source of the quote: The interdisciplinary congress Religiosity in Psychiatry and Psychotherapy from October 11 to 13, 2007. Even then, Hofmann made clear what he also testified in court at the Teichtmeister trial: "Pedophilia cannot be treated away. As a rule, it accompanies a person throughout his or her life. Therapeutically, however, one can limit the effects of pedophilia."

Hofmann's statements have been quoted ever since, most recently in 2021 on the occasion of the civil trial about ritual abuse at the Catholic monastery of Admont. At that time, Hofmann's expert opinions and statements supported the position of the perpetrator's side. A request for bias by a victim was rejected, although the mere appearance of bias should actually be sufficient. The victim had argued that Hofmann was a member of the extreme Catholic apron organization Opus Dei, but the forensic psychiatrist vehemently denied this. At the time, disciplinary charges were also pending. Hofmann had published an expert opinion or parts of it, which was perceived by one of the victims as an insult and damage to her reputation as well as a violation of medical secrecy.

In the context of this trial, the Platform of Victims of Ecclesiastical Violence published a press release in which it was also listed that Hofmann had given an expert opinion in the scandalous abuse case involving a Styrian doctor whose brother was at the same time a high-ranking ÖVP politician (name known to the editors). In this private expert opinion he had attested a borderline disorder to the victims of the doctor without ever having examined them or ever having seen them. After many trial days and repetitions the physician L. was in the meantime legally condemned.

In another case, where a leader of "Missio" at that time was accused of abuse, Hofmann attested to the victim likewise by remote diagnosis a Borderline disturbance, continued the platform.

In the Teichmeister case, the trial observers noticed that expert witness Hofmann fought more for the defendant than his celebrity lawyers themselves. He also addressed the jurors directly on several occasions, quoted numerous paragraphs and gave clear instructions for action, although he initially qualified himself ("I am a legal layman, not a lawyer."). In the end, the court completely followed his explanations and suspended all imposed sentences and measures on probation and conditions. These conditions were also formulated by expert witness Hofmann.

tl; dr of the news article
- the psychiatrist for the case has said stuff like "half of the kids who suffer sexual abuse can handle it pretty well" in the past
- the same psychiatrist is involved in other highly dubious cases that revolve around CP and SA of kids
- the same psychiatrist says pedophilia can't be cured
- the same psychiatrist gave testiment in the Teichtmeister trial and was more often arguing for Teichtmeister than against him

The same psychiatrist also made an official expertise about Teichtmeister confirming that he is a pedophile with massive sadistic tendencies. This expertise was accepted and acknowledged by the judge.

So let this sink in: A psychiatrist, who says pedophilia can't be cured and who was involved in other shady cases that dealt with pedophilia, acknowledged that Teichtmeister is dangerous pedophile and this dangerous pedophile got sentenced to therapy.

3) It still get's worse

Yes, it still gets worse.
You simply have no fucking idea how social media (Twitter mostly) is fucking burning bc of this story.

Obliviously who have a good chunk of people that are massively upset about this whole story and the sentencing. Like really, really upset. Calls to fucking lynch Teichtmeister, the judge and/or the psychiatrists are common right now. Mind to remind you calling for violent action against someone is not covered by free speach laws in Austria or Germany.

And then there is the other side: people being more upset about people being upset with this case and venting on the internet and saying mean stuff
There are legit people who think that the sentence is even to harsh. Because of all the evil rightwinger Nazifascists that think the sentence is to soft and who are upset with all the shit coming to daylight.

And I simply can't take it anymore. I cannot fathom how people can even just think about defending Teichtmeister or attacking the judge for a "sentence too harsh".
I'm legit MATI. I know it's stupid bc I live in Germany and it happened in Austria and a good chunk of the shit pissing me off only happens on fucking Twitter. On the internet. Where I could easily avoid it by just not fucking reading about it.
But I can't. I simply can't avoid this topic and all the shit around it. I cannot let it creep into my mind how fucking rotten this world has become. My blood is boiling and I can't calm down. I have no proper words to describe how fucking mad I am.

So I'm legit not doing well right now.

Thx for reading.
 
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