Same, my degree is in STEM so I feel like all these years spent studying instead of working will be a waste of time if I don't end up using it. But at this point, I think I'd rather be abroad working some random job, than here working in my field. I'd probably get paid better too
I've read of recruiters say they got their pick of PhDs to fill their factories and yet wondering why they don't find another job down the line, being worn to death after work. I self-harm by reading this Q&A type subreddit now and then, and likewise you'll see young people be like "Um... I'm gonna make 3x that of my partner, is that weird? :/". Yea, as if life doesn't come in the way of projected salaries. You can't find a job; your partner leaves you, you have to relocate, mom dies, you're broke. Suddenly that lowly sous chef hubby of yours had the long end of the stick. There's always a need for chefs and they of all people build a reputation bouncing between gigs and they can find work in any small town.
the problem is that wherever you go, you’re there. The urge to move abroad and burn everything down is like the urge to cut your hair off - it’s a sign that you’re unhappy.
Whenever I see a picturesque location, I think "someone is on the verge of suicide from living here". Imagine living near and working at Google Campus. You may be rich but you're around people who're
really rich. Though, the worst example is going on holiday in my own country. Driving through run-down empty towns only to see the most amazing lake and forest, knowing the only way anyone could feasibly live here is if they own the property since the 70s or work remotely in IT. Jobs are moving away from anywhere worth living to another concrete hellscape, and even the rich people who own houses in those amazing places are only there 8 weeks a year, a 4 hour drive each way.
And again - your life partner and new social circle could be living 250 meters from you right now, as we're seeing with dear ((NOT A JEW)). Happiness is one yes away, but much like dating, you need tens of those offers a year to have a realistic chance of finding the right one. You need to put yourself into situations where you get to say yes. I've been looking up events on facebook and all things considered, there's quite a few "why not" type events around. Why not go watch retards larp as vikings? Japan-con may be cringe but you'll enjoy it more than a night at the pub. It is however much more appealing to go to these things if you bring a friend, volunteer there yourself or generally are extroverted as hell.
We're all depressed but not enough that we try out clubs or go to whatever is happening 5 minutes away. I checked out this app made for adults to meet new people, and it's honestly surprising how many attractive, functional people are still lonely and devoid of passions. Yet, these people cling to their unhappy childhood relations while the rest of us uproot them and then wonder why we're alone. Ultimately I've come to the realization I'd rather give local normies a shot than try to find some magical connection through apps and Discord, but lack the balls to act on it.
