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I decided to power level in this thread some more, hoping that it will prevent me from ever telling this story IRL.
I am a middle aged man, and I have reasons to believe that I was sexually abused during a recent hospital stay. I get how funny and stereotypical this may sound. @Sped Xing alluded to nurses having sex with their patients in regards to my situation in this very thread. But the reality of the situation still leaves me somewhat confused.
Sexual abuse of men is one of those topics that nobody ever thinks or talks about. And nobody ever talks about it in clear words. So it took a while for me, the possible victim, to even understand that people were trying to explain to me that it actually happened to me. Never mind that the people who tried to make me aware of the situation are also aware of how ridiculous the story sounds, and, most likely, want to protect their employer from a lawsuit.
I won't go into too much detail, but four people: A male doctor, a male ICU nurse, a male ER nurse who was with me from admission to after care, and a female auxiliary nurse made vague statements to me about two female nurses and a female doctor "misbehaving" when I was unconscious. I also overheard the ICU nurse make a pretty clear sarcastic statement about what they have witnessed to a colleague, which I wrote off as a crude joke when I heard it. And I overheard the male doctor and the ER nurse discussing whether they should tell me "something", the doctor ended the discussion with the conclusion that it was not a medical issue.
The accused female doctor also "misbehaved" (i.e. groped me in very explicit and inappropriate place and manner (OK, I don't want to get into erotic fiction here, but we are talking grabbing my dick and making faces and noises. )) twice more when I was fully conscious and we were alone. And one of the accused nurses repeatedly groped me in less explicit, but still inappropriate, ways during my stay. At the time I just wrote their behavior off as awkward attempts at flirting, and acted accordingly with the mildest and friendliest dismissals I could muster. I have not had to deal with it in a while, but I am used to women having troubles with seeing boundaries, and trying to cope a feel much earlier than it would be appropriate.
In the end, I am left confused. There is the threat of a paternity suit. I doubt it went this far, and it would expose the crime, but you never know with women. Most likely they just waggled around a bit down there, and I could not care less because I don't remember it and probably would have approved (If only to indulge them). But still, the whole thing feels off. It's... You know... I am not the kind of guy who sees himself as a victim.
 
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Leonard Helplessness said:
Wednesday evening I got home from work and a guy‘s car was trapped in the snow outside my place. I spent a half hour shoveling, salting, and pushing until he was free.

This morning, my car got trapped in the snow when trying to leave for work. THE SAME GUY I HELPED had just pulled in, recognized me, and helped me get my car freed and get going.

I guess I believe in karma now. :)
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It's been a year since I made this post. I thought of it again this evening, after driving home from the grocery store. I'd been flagged down in the parking lot by a man asking if I had any jumper cables.

I helped him jump-start his car and get on the road while his wife waited in the passenger seat. The entire time I was doing it, I was scared shitless. I doubt I would have even lent a hand if not for that the parking lot was brightly lit, the car was in a parking space closest to the store, the store was open and not shady, and there were other people around. This is not how I felt about other fucking people in this fucking city a fucking year ago.

During the course of the year since I helped that guy out in the snow, I watched all of humanity become terrified of being around each other in person, suspicious that any other person they meet could be secretly carrying a killer germ. I watched my city turn completely apeshit and set itself ablaze because a man overdosed on fentanyl and died before the ambulance could arrive. I watched the news screaming over every channel that it was right, just, and even obligatory for people all over the country to fuck with each other, break each other's shit, and harm each other's persons based on their fucking skin color. I watched a presidential election whose news coverage all but outright threatened a nationwide bloodbath if the wrong candidate won.

Over the course of that fucking year, I became very acutely aware of just how tenuous is humanity's grasp on sanity. How quickly everything can turn to shit. How little an excuse people need to revert to fucking murderous caveman behavior.

Shit like this evening reminds me that the only way for things to get better is for people to be decent to each other, to help each other out when we need to be helped out. But we're fucking afraid to do that. We're fucking afraid to even lend a hand, because the recipient might grab our wrist and yank us into a fucking alley and rape us.

It's tiring. But it feels good to have helped someone.
 
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I decided to power level in this thread some more, hoping that it will prevent me from ever telling this story IRL.
I am a middle aged man, and I have reasons to believe that I was sexually abused during a recent hospital stay. I get how funny and stereotypical this may sound. @Sped Xing alluded to nurses having sex with their patients in regards to my situation in this very thread. But the reality of the situation still leaves me somewhat confused.
Sexual abuse of men is one of those topics that nobody ever thinks or talks about. And nobody ever talks about it in clear words. So it took a while for me, the possible victim, to even understand that people were trying to explain to me that it actually happened to me. Never mind that the people who tried to make me aware of the situation are also aware of how ridiculous the story sounds, and, most likely, want to protect their employer from a lawsuit.
I won't go into too much detail, but four people: A male doctor, a male ICU nurse, a male ER nurse who was with me from admission to after care, and a female auxiliary nurse made vague statements to me about two female nurses and a female doctor "misbehaving" when I was unconscious. I also overheard the ICU nurse make a pretty clear sarcastic statement about what they have witnessed to a colleague, which I wrote off as a crude joke when I heard it. And I overheard the male doctor and the ER nurse discussing whether they should tell me "something", the doctor ended the discussion with the conclusion that it was not a medical issue.
The accused female doctor also "misbehaved" (i.e. groped me in very explicit and inappropriate place and manner (OK, I don't want to get into erotic fiction here, but we are talking grabbing my dick and making faces and noises. )) twice more when I was fully conscious and we were alone. And one of the accused nurses repeatedly groped me in less explicit, but still inappropriate, ways during my stay. At the time I just wrote their behavior off as awkward attempts at flirting, and acted accordingly with the mildest and friendliest dismissals I could muster. I have not had to deal with it in a while, but I am used to women having troubles with seeing boundaries, and trying to cope a feel much earlier than it would be appropriate.
In the end, I am left confused. There is the threat of a paternity suit. I doubt it went this far, and it would expose the crime, but you never know with women. Most likely they just waggled around a bit down there, and I could not care less because I don't remember it and probably would have approved (If only to indulge them). But still, the whole thing feels off. It's... You know... I am not the kind of guy who sees himself as a victim.
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Was it a "Who's your boyfriend tonight?" type of nursing situation? Were they fully aware that you were conscious?


Anyway, I felt really, really bad for a week or so and couldn't figure out why so I knew it was bullshit and just rode it out. It cleared up.
 
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Could be better this week. A close friend of mine is absolutely livid with me right now since she feels like I'm not being helpful or comforting when she needs it. She's right, but I don't really know how to fix that. I'm trying to but its slow going and I'm pretty scared she's going to just outright drop me over this.

In other news, the fuckers upstairs are still being loud as shit. I talked to the building manager last week about it and he told me to call the cops if they're obstructing the peace again. Today they were so loud that it shook my desk, so now the cops have been notified. That should be interesting.
 
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My minimum wage job suddenly cut just about everyone but the managers' hours recently without giving us a reason, and on Monday I missed the only 4 hour shift I was scheduled for this week due to not being able to get an uber. This hasn't happened in months, and fortunately for me, the few times it happened before it didn't really matter, but this time they were pretty understaffed and it was actually a bit of an issue I couldn't make it. For the next two weeks I'm only scheduled for a total of 8 hours, and I'm unsure if this is partly my consequence for missing a shift or if it's just what my decreased hours were going to be any way. I'm used to working around 20 hours a week and I'm currently trying to save for some admittedly lofty goals I'd like to achieve by the end of the year, so I'm wondering how long I should wait to see how things go before I just put in my 2 weeks and start looking for another job. I kind of liked my job too so this is a bit disappointing.
 
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I'm living in constant fear my boss is gonna take aside one of these days and say she's gonna have to let me go...i mean i work hard i show up everyday im supposed to give it all i can but it feels like it's not enough for her. I'm overworked and unappreciated and living with the constant paranoia that im gonna be axed soon.


Especially since some new cooks got hired recently (although he have been understaffed before) the other managers and coworkers have said it;s nothing to worry about and i can't just be replaced. plus the last guy who got terminated was an even bigger fuckup who was either late or never showing up for work at all but...i just dont know.


especially since this month marks one year since the first time i ever was fired. and one year at my current job...I just need something to put my mind at ease and stop worrying about it so much.
 
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Damien Thorne said:
I spent the day alone drinking beer and binge watching the Resident Evil movies because I do not enjoy watching football. I had fun wasting the day, as I do not get to do things like this very often.
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Believe me, unlike me, your day was not wasted. I deigned to watch the Superb Owl and am now blistering MATW for doing so. The Chiefs sucked, the refs sucked, the commercials sucked, the virtue signaling sucked.
 
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