How do I get a girlfriend?

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Don't get wrapped around the axle over a particular girl, because that will blind you to any that might be throwing themselves at you (it happens).

Stop being fat.

Start being rich.

It sounds silly, but take care of yourself and get a job; you're 80% of the way there. Then just talk to people, and ask out girls you aren't "in love" with (because that'll be easier if they say no) and get comfortable being around people unlike you.
 
Get a friend first. Be building your life towards something. Anything. Whether its a career or a simple hobby. Put yourself in social positions. Not just for women, but for other men too. The benefits of simply talking to others is enormous.

The end goals of a mission in life come later. Dont worry about the girl; Working towards something will make you happier in life, as will changing your life around. You'll make friends, get good at something, or at the very least have fun and learn something.

The very worst thing to do in life is to lounge around in your misery, feeling slighted by your existence. You don't realize it, but it can even make you happy. It's a very easy trap to fall into, to feel like your life is one long Morrissey song. Turn that shit off and listen to The Pixies. Have fun.

And if you don't believe in yourself, Believe in the me that believes in you.

Also some great advice I was once told, "If you don't feel good, you might as well look good."
 
“You have to focus on yourself first” is the most chalk advice of all time, but it’s repeated a lot for a reason. Think about what it is that makes you attracted to certain women. Generally, and I’m speaking from my own experience, I’m attracted to women I find pretty and that don’t have a lot of outward facing problems (ie they have a job, they have a drivers license, they live on their own/independently, they don’t smoke weed, etc.).

Now think about your own life. Are you put together? Do you have a job? Do you have a car? Are you moved of your parents? Do you have friends? Do you have hobbies outside of work?

Women are attracted to men that have something to offer. What that something is is going to vary woman by woman. Everytime I’ve found myself in a relationship in the past couple years, I’ve had a lot going on at the time. I think it just happens naturally once you start getting after it in life.

I would recommend that you take away importance from the idea of losing your virginity. That shouldn’t be something to focus on or to think too hard about. Also don’t worry or focus on or about getting a girlfriend. There’s more important things to fill your time with.

EDIT: the non-ass patting version of this: go on a diet, lift weights and learn how to weld nigga
 
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Fishnumm said:
talk to women and dont be a dick come on too strong
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FTFY. Women don't respond well to desperation, it either comes off as pathetic desperation or we see you as a potential threat.
Remember that women are socialised in a different way, and that even the weakest of spindly incels can be a potential danger to us. When a man can easily strangle you out and there's little you can do to defend yourself, you learn to keep a healthy distance from walking red flags, unless you are ridiculously attractive and/or you're into mentally ill chicks.

Depending on the type of woman you want to attract, there are multiple ways to approach the problem. I would recommend you socialise, simple as that. Join a bookclub, a cooking class or a sport you enjoy, there's a good chance you'll meet women.
Befriend them. Don't make it seem transactional. Women don't respond well to men who only want sex and we can smell that from a mile away. Be genuine in your friendly interactions.
 
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