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How do you fight depression? - Let's help each other
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I'm writing. Probably all my ideas & feelings are put into a narrative. Many people readed the completed parts and they're liking. But is a long road ahead yet.
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Play music or sing with other people. You can sing for free in most churches. They even put the words up and have music.
I have taught people in their 70s how to play instruments for the first time in adult beginner band.
Hell, play rock band or go to karaoke.
Humans are sensitive to noise. Music is about taming the entropy of sound.
I have taught people in their 70s how to play instruments for the first time in adult beginner band.
Hell, play rock band or go to karaoke.
Humans are sensitive to noise. Music is about taming the entropy of sound.
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It depends on the source of the depression I think. There is the clinical kind that you can’t do much about but very few people have that.
So, assuming that is not the case, your source of depression likely stems from having a shit/no job, being out of shape, having few friends, or not having a real interest in anything.
All of these things are addressable, and the simple act of forcing yourself to resolve these problems will help you start feeling better. No matter how much you don’t want to, go exercise, touch grass, and try to strike up conversations with people you don’t know. Maybe join a club or something— you’ll find that most people are generally pretty cool.
So, assuming that is not the case, your source of depression likely stems from having a shit/no job, being out of shape, having few friends, or not having a real interest in anything.
All of these things are addressable, and the simple act of forcing yourself to resolve these problems will help you start feeling better. No matter how much you don’t want to, go exercise, touch grass, and try to strike up conversations with people you don’t know. Maybe join a club or something— you’ll find that most people are generally pretty cool.
Funny, because I like walking through big, bustling cities with my music on. I find it more therapeutic than walking out in nature for some reason, so to each their own I suppose.
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Start exercising.
It doesn’t have to be anything hardcore. If you’re particularly out of shape, even just walking for half an hour a day and doing some basic dumbbell exercises with 5lb weights is a good start to get a routine going.
A lot of depression revolves around feeling powerless to change anything about your situation, and I think physical exercise is one of the best ways to internalize that your effort will see near-immediate improvements. While you’re not gonna get ripped in a month, what you WILL see is a rapid increase in the amount and intensity of exercise you’re able to handle. After a week or two working out with 5lb weights, you’ll notice that suddenly that five pounds doesn’t feel so heavy anymore, and it provides a very natural path of progression for you to move forward (e.g. add 5 pounds). For the autists, it’s literally like leveling up your muscles in real life, complete with a number value to go along with it.
Unless you’re literally bedbound and dying from cancer-AIDS, regular physical activity no matter how low-intensity WILL benefit you.
It doesn’t have to be anything hardcore. If you’re particularly out of shape, even just walking for half an hour a day and doing some basic dumbbell exercises with 5lb weights is a good start to get a routine going.
A lot of depression revolves around feeling powerless to change anything about your situation, and I think physical exercise is one of the best ways to internalize that your effort will see near-immediate improvements. While you’re not gonna get ripped in a month, what you WILL see is a rapid increase in the amount and intensity of exercise you’re able to handle. After a week or two working out with 5lb weights, you’ll notice that suddenly that five pounds doesn’t feel so heavy anymore, and it provides a very natural path of progression for you to move forward (e.g. add 5 pounds). For the autists, it’s literally like leveling up your muscles in real life, complete with a number value to go along with it.
Unless you’re literally bedbound and dying from cancer-AIDS, regular physical activity no matter how low-intensity WILL benefit you.
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Came in here to say this.
If you identify as a depressed person, or one who has always been susceptible to it, you are flat out RETARDED if you aren't doing some kind of regular exercise. It's basically as close to a magic potion or philtre as you can get.
Doesn't matter what it is - lifting weights, running, road cycling, even fucking tennis or badminton. Anything will turn your mind around and give you that high. The endless positives from being physically active and taking care of yourself are virtually limitless.
Or we could take the Reddit approach: make a list of five basic details ablutions that even a sub-80 IQ chimp can check off, and do one per day. Make sure its after your Cheeto and Pepsi wank, champ, as you might just lose motivation. That's progress!
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PROTIP: To defeat the depression brain, shoot it until it dies.
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Go outside. The biggest, most destructive aspect of depression is social isolation. Go out for a walk, get some vitamin D (which btw if it's deficient, can be the cause of depression) and talk to real life, tangible people with whom you can establish a proper human relationship.
Oh and also, get out of bed when you wake up (don't fuck around in there) and remember to Make Your Bed when you get up.
Oh and also, get out of bed when you wake up (don't fuck around in there) and remember to Make Your Bed when you get up.
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I'll assume given the question I'm older than you OP (I'm 31) and maybe I can impart some wisdom or w/e.
I've found in my life that like others have said, staying busy is a good way for you avoid depression, but I feel like if you're just doing busywork for the sake of being busy, that's really only putting a Band-Aid on your real problem. What has had the biggest impact in my life is setting goals. As gay as this sounds, in my bedroom I have a visionboard with all the shit I wanted to accomplish this year; with the things I've succeeded in doing being crossed out. And these don't have to be massive life-altering goals either, literally one of mine was painting my bedroom since I hated the color of it previously.
What goals do you want to accomplish in your life? Is it getting a job. getting married, starting a cult, learning an instrument, etc etc. Whatever those are, write them down. Are they long-term, or short-term goals? If they're long-term, what steps will you have to take to accomplish them? How many smaller sub-goals will you need to get to first before finishing this larger goal? I think just putting active thought into where you want your life to go instead of just coasting will take you a long way.
I've discovered that when it comes to the world at large, you and I really don't have that much agency. There's not a whole lotta shit about things that I can change. What I can change however is the trajectory of my own life: I never went to college. I grew up in a shitty white trash area, and my parents hated each other before getting divorced. My mom is both BPD and manic-depressive and would at best be distant to me, and at worst, outright abusive. All of these factors on paper would set someone up like myself for a not-so great life. But after getting my shit together and taking stock of things, setting realistic goals and getting some self-esteem from seeing them through, I'm now a homeowner, and have a job that doesn't make me want to kill myself nor does it eat away at my freetime.
It's very easy to feel trapped by life, especially if you're young and feel demotivated. But I truly believe that life is what you make of it. I don't think I'm that smart or that ambitious, If a fat gay retard like myself can have a good life, so can you.
I've found in my life that like others have said, staying busy is a good way for you avoid depression, but I feel like if you're just doing busywork for the sake of being busy, that's really only putting a Band-Aid on your real problem. What has had the biggest impact in my life is setting goals. As gay as this sounds, in my bedroom I have a visionboard with all the shit I wanted to accomplish this year; with the things I've succeeded in doing being crossed out. And these don't have to be massive life-altering goals either, literally one of mine was painting my bedroom since I hated the color of it previously.
What goals do you want to accomplish in your life? Is it getting a job. getting married, starting a cult, learning an instrument, etc etc. Whatever those are, write them down. Are they long-term, or short-term goals? If they're long-term, what steps will you have to take to accomplish them? How many smaller sub-goals will you need to get to first before finishing this larger goal? I think just putting active thought into where you want your life to go instead of just coasting will take you a long way.
I've discovered that when it comes to the world at large, you and I really don't have that much agency. There's not a whole lotta shit about things that I can change. What I can change however is the trajectory of my own life: I never went to college. I grew up in a shitty white trash area, and my parents hated each other before getting divorced. My mom is both BPD and manic-depressive and would at best be distant to me, and at worst, outright abusive. All of these factors on paper would set someone up like myself for a not-so great life. But after getting my shit together and taking stock of things, setting realistic goals and getting some self-esteem from seeing them through, I'm now a homeowner, and have a job that doesn't make me want to kill myself nor does it eat away at my freetime.
It's very easy to feel trapped by life, especially if you're young and feel demotivated. But I truly believe that life is what you make of it. I don't think I'm that smart or that ambitious, If a fat gay retard like myself can have a good life, so can you.
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In college I buried myself in work, and when I wasn't working, I would drink alone and watch bad movies. When covid hit and the lockdowns kept me from freelancing, I ended up finding work at a warehouse so I didn't have to move back home. Turns out the raised stakes of losing my ability to live independently coupled with a physically demanding job pushed me to take a more pragmatic approach to living where I would stop comparing myself to others and stressing out about how hopeless the state of the world is.
Granted, I still do all of these things, but I drink less because I wanna save money. I guess the ultimate takeaway from my post is that the prospect of voluntary eviction is a good short-term motivator, however temporary.
Granted, I still do all of these things, but I drink less because I wanna save money. I guess the ultimate takeaway from my post is that the prospect of voluntary eviction is a good short-term motivator, however temporary.
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Pound energy drinks and go running
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I'm big on fitness for all sorts of reasons, from physical to mental health. Having a set routine is important especially if you're in a situation where you work remotely or are a NEET. If you're prone to feeling down, not necessarily full-on depression, working out can regulate your mood or just make you too tired to be stressed about anything.
Actual depressive episodes can be harder to work through, my brain is an asshole to me sometimes and when you have The Big Sad it's an effort to get motivation to do anything at all, but anything is still better than nothing. Doing a short walk, eating clean and drinking enough water so you're not putting shit in your system that will make you feel worse, etc. Also, "self-care" gets thrown around a lot by some of our lazier and more corpulent cows and often is used to mean "I need to eat a whole pint of ice cream because I'm stressed". Self-care for me has a lot to do with staying active and eating well, maybe spoiling yourself with facemasks and bath bombs, but I think there are also times where getting comfy in blankets with some cookies and a terrible, terrible, movie is just what you need.
PL but I notice that I get really down when I'm facing transitionary periods in my life, leaving high school, leaving college, wondering how I'm going to find a job, etc. Sometime in my late-college years slump I saw my friend post on instagram about volunteering at a local wildlife clinic and I was like well damn, I could try doing that so I feel like I'm not a useless slob. Very glad I did, volunteering can give you a lot of life skills in a (hopefully!) low-stress environment and it's hard to feel like a waste of space when you've got older ladies telling you how wonderful you are.
Good vibes and hugs to all my kiwi frens
Actual depressive episodes can be harder to work through, my brain is an asshole to me sometimes and when you have The Big Sad it's an effort to get motivation to do anything at all, but anything is still better than nothing. Doing a short walk, eating clean and drinking enough water so you're not putting shit in your system that will make you feel worse, etc. Also, "self-care" gets thrown around a lot by some of our lazier and more corpulent cows and often is used to mean "I need to eat a whole pint of ice cream because I'm stressed". Self-care for me has a lot to do with staying active and eating well, maybe spoiling yourself with facemasks and bath bombs, but I think there are also times where getting comfy in blankets with some cookies and a terrible, terrible, movie is just what you need.
PL but I notice that I get really down when I'm facing transitionary periods in my life, leaving high school, leaving college, wondering how I'm going to find a job, etc. Sometime in my late-college years slump I saw my friend post on instagram about volunteering at a local wildlife clinic and I was like well damn, I could try doing that so I feel like I'm not a useless slob. Very glad I did, volunteering can give you a lot of life skills in a (hopefully!) low-stress environment and it's hard to feel like a waste of space when you've got older ladies telling you how wonderful you are.
Good vibes and hugs to all my kiwi frens
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1. I make sure I am always moving forward.
I get fucking depressed if I feel I'm going nowhere. The happiness is in the journey, not the destination. Have a goal, work towards that goal. If you start getting depressed again, you aren't working hard enough.
2. Physical labor.
Feels fucking good. If your in an office, neck yourself. If your in IT, neck yourself. If your in retail, neck yourself. If your in finance, neck yourself. If you are whitecollar in general, neck yourself. If you are in factory work that is repetative, neck yourself.
I move boxes all day, and its the best choice I ever made. Looking at an unloaded trailer feels fucking awsome, and when I'm tossing boxes like the worlds ending, I'm too tired to give into such a jewish concept like depression.
3. I fucking stay away from everyone, and socially isolate myself to the best of my abilities while still talking to people.
People are exhausting. Thirty minutes of social interaction is all I can handle. I interact, reconnect, then fuck off for the rest of the day. If they really care about you, they'll understand.
If you love yourself, you'll be quite comfortable.
If you rely on others for validation, either figure out how to stop, or neck yourself.
4. I write.
The writing isn't important, self expression is.
Do art. Fucking do art you massive fag. Making something feels good. Its hard. The rewards are little. But the meaning is in the journey of self discovery. Theres a reason self expression is on maslovs hierachy of needs. If you aren't self expressing in a way you recognize as self expressing, start self expressing, or neck yourself.
5. Hate woman.
If you feel bad because "no GF", become a misogynist. You should hate anyone having that much power over you. The idea of being depressed because you don't have a girlfriend should make you seethe with a burning hatred. Fuck woman. Fuck that power. Why should a whiney cunt make you depressed?
TLDR: Be less of a faggot, hate woman.
I get fucking depressed if I feel I'm going nowhere. The happiness is in the journey, not the destination. Have a goal, work towards that goal. If you start getting depressed again, you aren't working hard enough.
2. Physical labor.
Feels fucking good. If your in an office, neck yourself. If your in IT, neck yourself. If your in retail, neck yourself. If your in finance, neck yourself. If you are whitecollar in general, neck yourself. If you are in factory work that is repetative, neck yourself.
I move boxes all day, and its the best choice I ever made. Looking at an unloaded trailer feels fucking awsome, and when I'm tossing boxes like the worlds ending, I'm too tired to give into such a jewish concept like depression.
3. I fucking stay away from everyone, and socially isolate myself to the best of my abilities while still talking to people.
People are exhausting. Thirty minutes of social interaction is all I can handle. I interact, reconnect, then fuck off for the rest of the day. If they really care about you, they'll understand.
If you love yourself, you'll be quite comfortable.
If you rely on others for validation, either figure out how to stop, or neck yourself.
4. I write.
The writing isn't important, self expression is.
Do art. Fucking do art you massive fag. Making something feels good. Its hard. The rewards are little. But the meaning is in the journey of self discovery. Theres a reason self expression is on maslovs hierachy of needs. If you aren't self expressing in a way you recognize as self expressing, start self expressing, or neck yourself.
5. Hate woman.
If you feel bad because "no GF", become a misogynist. You should hate anyone having that much power over you. The idea of being depressed because you don't have a girlfriend should make you seethe with a burning hatred. Fuck woman. Fuck that power. Why should a whiney cunt make you depressed?
TLDR: Be less of a faggot, hate woman.
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I hate to be a Debbie Downer, but if you have to keep yourself constantly occupied to distract from the unbearable reality of your own existence, doesn't that seem to indicate something important?
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During the lockdown, it was pretty jarring to just stay inside all day, so I just went on runs everyday and it made me feel a lot better. I wasn't depressed or anything, but it definitely helped control my emotions.
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I feed the neighborhood cats, helps sometimes. My boss gave me a whole honey glazed ham today and I was chucking pieces of it at the cats on my way home.