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- Mar 26, 2014
Hi, so I've been appointed by Null to be the forum drama officer or something because we can all agree that his approach is a bit lacking in handling these subjects well. The best way to deal with forum drama is to prevent it, so I figured I'd give it a shot and give some advice to y'all. I've been fucking around on message boards and chatrooms for nearly 20 years, so I hope my advice and the mistakes I have made and observed can help make this forum a better place.
#1. THIS IS NOT OKCUPID. For every @FramerGirl420 and @cat there are dozens of [some random person] and Waifus out there that just result in drama, hard feelings, and general shitting up of the forums. This is not a matchmaking site. There are a lot of attractive women and some attractive men here. There are also probably some unattractive men posing at attractive women in order to bait and find the next halal cow. Either way, that attractive person you want to
all over probably does not live anywhere near your zipcode or even country. Unless you live in a research station in Antarctica, I'm almost certain there are plenty of hot singles in your area who are looking for some. Get a tinder/okcupid/grindr whatever and find them instead of here. Even if things work out and they're not @DNJACK , it is very possible that you'll break up with them and then have to see their shitposts all over your favorite threads and the forums will be a less enjoyable place for you. Also, your mutual friends may be forced to pick sides in this situation and you might lose friends over this.
#2. DISAGREE WITH SOMEONE? THATS OKAY PEOPLE DISAGREE WITH YOU. One thing that makes this place fascinating is the diversity. We have trisexual transethnic otherkin, we have people with klan robes in the closet, and we even tolerated a dude who wished he was a maxi pad. We have people of all races from different countries and different political leanings from fascist all the way to #analchest. People are going to say things offend you, if they're really offensive, you have the option to report that post and the staff will take care of it and possibly threadban them. IF they're simply rustling your jimmies, you should remember the age old saying that arguing with someone on the internet is like the Special Olympics: even if you win, you're still retarded. Especially if you're getting mad at someone for using Chris' preferred pronouns.
#3. TRANNY DRAMA RUINS COMMUNITIES. Remember the Laverne Cox thread? That was fucking horrible on all sides. Does someone chopping their penis off really cause you that much butthurt? Let people live their life and don't worry about it. If people want to go rant about how trannies are crazy, let them. What people on the internet say shouldn't bother you. If you are a true and honest trans person, you should be angry at people like Brianna Wu and ADF because they contribute to the negative stigmata against transwomen.
#4. REPORT AND IGNORE ARE YOUR FRIENDS. If someone is being spergy, report their posts. Staff probably agrees with you, but they're too busy locking @Dynastia threads to notice. If they really rustle your jimmies, ignore them. That's what most people do with @cat here.
#5. TALK TO STAFF IS YOUR FRIEND. I've made a few talk to staff threads in my day about random things. It's gotten terrible users banned, people acting a fool warned, and they're pretty willing to listen to you. If you don't want Null reading your messages or whatever, I'd recommend talking to me. If you hate me, talk to Compy, Surter, or Saney because they've shown behavior that is awesome. Say what you want about Null, but he picks great people to be green mods.
#6. I HEARD U WERE TALKING SHIT. If you hear someone talking shit about you behind your back, message me about it with proof and I'll deal with it. If someone talks shit to you to your face, congratulate them for having the cajones to do so and then take caps and send it to me or alert staff so they can issue a "drunk tank ban" which is a one day chat ban until someone sobers up.
#7. LEARN TO HANDLE YOUR LIQUOR. "I was drunk" is not an acceptable abuse for shitty behavior. I'm typing this two margaritas deep in a bar while waiting for my friend to get out of work. When my friend shows up, we are going to drink more while I help him roll up a character for our game of Pathfinder that we will play later. I am a functional alcoholic which means I can drink a 12 pack of beer and be completely fine. I know other people who drink six beers and get kicked out of the bar for being an asshole and then try to fight random people on the street. Some people here can't handle their liquor and flip the fuck out in chat and say stupid shit they later regret. You can't undo threatening to rape someone. If you are one of those people, I would recommend you go out to a bar instead of drinking at home and let the police deal with you rather than staff.
#8. IF YOU DON'T LIKE WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING IN CHAT COME BACK IN FIVE MINUTES. Nothing is more annoying than someone in chat bitching about what other people are talking about. This forum has hundreds of threads about weird people. Go read that, come back and people are probably talking about a different subject that may interest you.
FINAL THOUGHTS: One of the biggest problems of the internet is that it affords people the ability to say things to people they wouldn't have the courage say to someone's face. Before hitting the send button, you should ask yourself "if I said this to someone's face, would they punch me?"
I might add more later if they come to mind.
#1. THIS IS NOT OKCUPID. For every @FramerGirl420 and @cat there are dozens of [some random person] and Waifus out there that just result in drama, hard feelings, and general shitting up of the forums. This is not a matchmaking site. There are a lot of attractive women and some attractive men here. There are also probably some unattractive men posing at attractive women in order to bait and find the next halal cow. Either way, that attractive person you want to
all over probably does not live anywhere near your zipcode or even country. Unless you live in a research station in Antarctica, I'm almost certain there are plenty of hot singles in your area who are looking for some. Get a tinder/okcupid/grindr whatever and find them instead of here. Even if things work out and they're not @DNJACK , it is very possible that you'll break up with them and then have to see their shitposts all over your favorite threads and the forums will be a less enjoyable place for you. Also, your mutual friends may be forced to pick sides in this situation and you might lose friends over this.#2. DISAGREE WITH SOMEONE? THATS OKAY PEOPLE DISAGREE WITH YOU. One thing that makes this place fascinating is the diversity. We have trisexual transethnic otherkin, we have people with klan robes in the closet, and we even tolerated a dude who wished he was a maxi pad. We have people of all races from different countries and different political leanings from fascist all the way to #analchest. People are going to say things offend you, if they're really offensive, you have the option to report that post and the staff will take care of it and possibly threadban them. IF they're simply rustling your jimmies, you should remember the age old saying that arguing with someone on the internet is like the Special Olympics: even if you win, you're still retarded. Especially if you're getting mad at someone for using Chris' preferred pronouns.
#3. TRANNY DRAMA RUINS COMMUNITIES. Remember the Laverne Cox thread? That was fucking horrible on all sides. Does someone chopping their penis off really cause you that much butthurt? Let people live their life and don't worry about it. If people want to go rant about how trannies are crazy, let them. What people on the internet say shouldn't bother you. If you are a true and honest trans person, you should be angry at people like Brianna Wu and ADF because they contribute to the negative stigmata against transwomen.
#4. REPORT AND IGNORE ARE YOUR FRIENDS. If someone is being spergy, report their posts. Staff probably agrees with you, but they're too busy locking @Dynastia threads to notice. If they really rustle your jimmies, ignore them. That's what most people do with @cat here.
#5. TALK TO STAFF IS YOUR FRIEND. I've made a few talk to staff threads in my day about random things. It's gotten terrible users banned, people acting a fool warned, and they're pretty willing to listen to you. If you don't want Null reading your messages or whatever, I'd recommend talking to me. If you hate me, talk to Compy, Surter, or Saney because they've shown behavior that is awesome. Say what you want about Null, but he picks great people to be green mods.
#6. I HEARD U WERE TALKING SHIT. If you hear someone talking shit about you behind your back, message me about it with proof and I'll deal with it. If someone talks shit to you to your face, congratulate them for having the cajones to do so and then take caps and send it to me or alert staff so they can issue a "drunk tank ban" which is a one day chat ban until someone sobers up.
#7. LEARN TO HANDLE YOUR LIQUOR. "I was drunk" is not an acceptable abuse for shitty behavior. I'm typing this two margaritas deep in a bar while waiting for my friend to get out of work. When my friend shows up, we are going to drink more while I help him roll up a character for our game of Pathfinder that we will play later. I am a functional alcoholic which means I can drink a 12 pack of beer and be completely fine. I know other people who drink six beers and get kicked out of the bar for being an asshole and then try to fight random people on the street. Some people here can't handle their liquor and flip the fuck out in chat and say stupid shit they later regret. You can't undo threatening to rape someone. If you are one of those people, I would recommend you go out to a bar instead of drinking at home and let the police deal with you rather than staff.
#8. IF YOU DON'T LIKE WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING IN CHAT COME BACK IN FIVE MINUTES. Nothing is more annoying than someone in chat bitching about what other people are talking about. This forum has hundreds of threads about weird people. Go read that, come back and people are probably talking about a different subject that may interest you.
FINAL THOUGHTS: One of the biggest problems of the internet is that it affords people the ability to say things to people they wouldn't have the courage say to someone's face. Before hitting the send button, you should ask yourself "if I said this to someone's face, would they punch me?"
I might add more later if they come to mind.
