tldr; guy makes me uncomfortable and tried reporting it to school admin but they won't do anything about it.
I feel like I'm at a loss with dealing with school admin. What should I do?
I apologize for the paranoid effort post; I have some life experience in being stalked/followed and it sounds like that to me. Once or twice is coincidence, often is most likely not, if he’s not expected there, why is he?
Not surprised, you said he looks like a jeet so it’s out of the window that they would even think to suppose a minority of any kind could be violent.
Wild how we will leave people out to dry for no reason other than a not wanting to seem racist.
Anyhow I digress; ignore any desire to believe yourself physically capable of defending yourself. As others have recommended a weapon is the best option, if not at the BEAR (lol) MINIMUM get some bear spray.
Even then you will need some luck; running is always the best option. Never leave your car unlocked, never leave keys unattended, never leave anything that will enter your body unattended either.
Do not go out alone; suffer a caddy bitch if it means you aren’t alone. Never leave without your phone (charged!), cash ($100 minimum, 20s and smaller) and your ID.
It goes without saying, but never leave any mail or personally identifiable information out in the open, and shred your mail if you’re throwing it out. You don’t need him knowing what stores you go to or who your doctor is.
This is not the only thing you should do. I would recommend getting someone you trust to get a good idea of his movements. This can be done multiple ways, and while I entertain the idea that most women (and men for this matter) have 0 survival skills I believe they can learn it.
Do not get a man to do this, preferably a non-assuming ugly woman. Ugly women tend to be more trustworthy anyway, as long as she wasn’t molested… any woman with childhood trauma is unreliable for even the most basic things, especially self defense situations.
The simplest and easiest way to track his movements is to literally wait for him to show up, get up to go to class or whatever and have your friend wait till he leaves to follow. Record times and dates, does he show up at the library on a Wednesday when your around? If so you should ask, does he show up on Wednesday when I’m not around? If it’s yes, then you might just be a bit paranoid and overreacting, if not; you’re being stalked.
The idea is to gauge his intention; foreigners and Indians in particular are horny and those that don’t stop are plenty rapey. Given the repeated attempts at context he is clearly letting you know that your desire to be apart from him is less important than what he wants.
Before you or anyone says it’s a little over the top, ask yourself if you were in a room alone with him, would he rape you? (The answer is probably yes)
If it is a possibility, a reasonable one, you’re a fool not to go above and beyond.
I’ve been stalked before, and I know what it is like when you’re caught lacking, so when you say he appears out of nowhere it gives me reason to pause, don’t cope about it, get facts and then act accordingly.
People are capable of great evil and to think otherwise is to deny yourself your safety. You can’t rely on strength.
Another thing; before going anywhere keep your eyes out for exits. Walk the long way if you can have more options of escape, never get stuck in a kill funnel.
Stay far from darkness, let people know where you are going and when you expect to get back. Always share your location with a loved one, and a friend. (Your phone is capable of that)
Never go out after 8 PM and ALWAYS with a friend. Also never abandon your partner under any circumstance, just because he might be following you won’t mean he can’t settle for less (in the event that he really is sick)
In the event that he follows you after you leave, and it happens more than once; do not slack. Get a gun whether it’s ok to or not (for legal reasons this is a joke).
Better to be judged by 12 than carried by 6.
And yes, the type of person who would go that far doesn’t usually just rape.
There are a lot of good material on the Internet for what I’m describing, it’s called “counter-surveillance” and there are entire play books applicable to almost every situation.
“Oh but I’m being followed, maybe even stalked! I’m not being surveilled!”
This strawman is something I’ve seen before, nigga surveillance is stalking, just by a government or an institution.
Surveillance is stalking, learn surveillance and counter-surveillance if you feel you are being stalked.
