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How To Find Out If You Conform To Toxic Masculinity: A Hilarious Checklist For A Serious Topic

Have you ever wondered what it means to be a “real man”? It’s not just about having muscles of steel and a fearless gaze but also a whole bunch of social stereotypes that can limit, and sometimes seriously harm, your life and those around you.

Toxic masculinity is that sneaky little worm that slowly gnaws away at your identity and your relationships with the world. Today, we’re offering you a funny checklist to help you figure out whether you’re showing signs of toxic masculinity. Ready?

Masculinity and Toxicity: Where’s The Line?​

It’s not even “not all men” – it’s not “all masculinity”, either! There are beautiful displays associated with masculinity, such as being a good provider, a good dad, and having the courage to display vulnerability—but there is another side to this, too.

Superman Or Villain?​

We all want to be the heroes of our own lives, but sometimes, heroism can turn into something dark. Toxic masculinity is like trying to be superman but ending up as the villain. It’s the pressure to live up to ideals that no one set, but everyone somehow tries to follow.

What Is Toxic Masculinity And How Does It Manifest?​

Toxic masculinity is when you feel like you have to be tough, emotionless, and always in control. It’s when you believe that emotions are for the weak and that the world should bow at your feet. But that’s far from true strength.

Here’s Our Checklist: 10 Questions to Understand If You Display Toxic Masculinity​

Now, let’s figure out where you stand on the scale, from a nice guy to a “nice guy”, from “good guy Greg” to “an alpha”.

1. Your Attitude Towards Emotions: “Real Men Don’t Cry”?​

If you believe that crying is a sign of weakness, it’s time to rethink your views. Real men know that emotions aren’t a weakness but a part of being human.

2. Do You Believe A Man Should Be The “Head Of The Family”?​

If you believe that a man is the only one who should make all the critical decisions in the family, you might be forgetting about partnership. In healthy relationships, people should be equals, partners who support each other.

3. How Do You React To Failures – Do You Explode Or Bottle Up Emotions?​

Toxic masculinity often shows in how we deal with failures. If you explode when things go wrong, or conversely, hide your feelings so no one sees your vulnerability, it’s a red flag.

4. Your Opinion On Male Friendships – Just “Beer With The Buddies”?​

If, in your view, male friendship should be limited to get rowdy together and watching sports and any display of vulnerability from your buddies makes you wanna barf or laugh at them, you’re missing out on a whole world of deep and meaningful relationships that can exist between men.

5. How Do You Feel About Sex And Sex Toys?​

Do you feel that women owe you sex if you’re being nice to them? Do you believe that a man with multiple partners is a god and a woman with the same amount of partners is a tramp?

Do you think that women who use sex toys are automatically cheating on their partners? Do you feel you can replace sex with a loved one with realistic male sex toysbecause “at least those always say yes”?

If your answer to any of these questions is yes, we’ve got a problem. Sex and sexual pleasure are personal matters, and if you equate toys to infidelity, you might be looking at things too narrowly.

6. How Do You Feel About Women Leaders?​

Do you feel uncomfortable around women who hold leadership positions? This could be a sign that you’re holding onto outdated views on gender roles.

7. Do You Believe Men Should Be Physically Strong?​

Muscles are great, but they don’t make you a better or worse person. If you believe that strength defines a man’s worth, you might be under the influence of toxic masculinity.

8. How Do You Perceive Tenderness And Affection In Relationships?​

If you think that tenderness and affection are feminine traits, it might be time to rethink what it means to be a man.

9. Do You Feel Pressured To Be A “Real Man’”?​

If you constantly feel like you have to be a “real man,” following some imaginary standards, this might be a sign that toxic masculinity is weighing on you more than you think.

10. How Do You Feel About Men Who Go Against Traditional Roles?​

If you believe that a man who chooses a non-traditional path is weak or doesn’t deserve respect, you might be a victim of stereotypes.

Change Begins With Awareness​

Recognizing that you hold toxic views is the first step toward change. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, but it gives you the chance to be better, to free yourself from stereotypes, and to live a fuller life.

The Best Version Of Yourself: Be Authentic, Not Stereotypical​

Instead of striving to be the image of a “real man,” try being just real. A real man is someone who isn’t afraid to be himself, who respects himself and others, and who understands that masculinity isn’t about strength but about confidence paired with respect for others.

And now, you’re ready to be better, more aware, and freer.

 

[Snekposter]

Why yes, I fit all of those classifications. How could you tell?

 

[Would]

Instead of striving to be the image of a “real man,” try being just real.

- A real faggot

 

[Alexander Thaut]

1. Your Attitude Towards Emotions: “Real Men Don’t Cry”?​

If you believe that crying is a sign of weakness, it’s time to rethink your views. Real men know that emotions aren’t a weakness but a part of being human.

There's a time and place. Also, men operate differently and have different methods of coping. A man can cry, sure, but crying isn't something we normalize. It's saved for the real moments like the loss of a close loved one, or maybe in moments of sheer joy.

2. Do You Believe A Man Should Be The “Head Of The Family”?​

If you believe that a man is the only one who should make all the critical decisions in the family, you might be forgetting about partnership. In healthy relationships, people should be equals, partners who support each other.

Again, it should be left to whoever's the best at money management and managing the family. There's the occasion where the woman can do it but that's not the outright norm, unless we're talking household management.

3. How Do You React To Failures – Do You Explode Or Bottle Up Emotions?​

Toxic masculinity often shows in how we deal with failures. If you explode when things go wrong, or conversely, hide your feelings so no one sees your vulnerability, it’s a red flag.

You deal with it properly, like a man, in your own way. Some men turn to God, others turn to hobbies. Many turn to spending time with friends and family. Many men exercise. This is a no-brainer.

4. Your Opinion On Male Friendships – Just “Beer With The Buddies”?​

If, in your view, male friendship should be limited to get rowdy together and watching sports and any display of vulnerability from your buddies makes you wanna barf or laugh at them, you’re missing out on a whole world of deep and meaningful relationships that can exist between men.

I bet the writer thinks the Illiad is a gay love story and can't concieve of platonic love in friendships.

5. How Do You Feel About Sex And Sex Toys?​

Do you feel that women owe you sex if you’re being nice to them? Do you believe that a man with multiple partners is a god and a woman with the same amount of partners is a tramp?

Do you think that women who use sex toys are automatically cheating on their partners? Do you feel you can replace sex with a loved one with realistic male sex toysbecause “at least those always say yes”?

If your answer to any of these questions is yes, we’ve got a problem. Sex and sexual pleasure are personal matters, and if you equate toys to infidelity, you might be looking at things too narrowly.

I don't give a fuck about sex toys. I do think an adult's entitled to whatever sex toy they want, provided it's behind closed doors. I think multiple partners at the same time is whoring for either gender, but there's obvious reasons for it being worse for women.

No, women don't owe sex. Same as men.

Writer is a retard trying to create a "gotcha"

6. How Do You Feel About Women Leaders?​

Do you feel uncomfortable around women who hold leadership positions? This could be a sign that you’re holding onto outdated views on gender roles.

I think they can, but I don't think we should put them on a pedestal just because they're women.

7. Do You Believe Men Should Be Physically Strong?​

Muscles are great, but they don’t make you a better or worse person. If you believe that strength defines a man’s worth, you might be under the influence of toxic masculinity.

A man should at least be able to have enough strength to do their day to day work and life. If you need a fucking robot to help with opening bottles, you're obviously a mockery.

8. How Do You Perceive Tenderness And Affection In Relationships?​

If you think that tenderness and affection are feminine traits, it might be time to rethink what it means to be a man.

Again, nothing wrong with this. The fucking spaniards and italians and french have been stereotyped as tender and passionate lovers in media for a very long time.

9. Do You Feel Pressured To Be A “Real Man’”?​

If you constantly feel like you have to be a “real man,” following some imaginary standards, this might be a sign that toxic masculinity is weighing on you more than you think.

It's called checking myself to a standard. The standard, of course, is the pinnacle of manhood. It's the peak of the gender role. I'm comparing myself to my father, to John Wayne, to Conan the Barbarian, etc.

10. How Do You Feel About Men Who Go Against Traditional Roles?​

If you believe that a man who chooses a non-traditional path is weak or doesn’t deserve respect, you might be a victim of stereotypes.

stay at home dads can work. men as kindergarten teachers can work.

hell, men make up most of the staff in commercial kitchens.

 

[Broken Talisman]

Turned out the authentic version of me was the all shit you're whingeing into the void about. I will say there is a difference between crying in private over say a tragedy or as a relief valve if you've been locked into a high pressure situation, and crying in public over inane shit.

Can someone explain to me what the second line of number five is supposed to convey? You should be okay with women using sex toys, but then you shouldn't want to use sex toys when they're not putting out? What?

 

[Idiotron]

1. Your Attitude Towards Emotions: “Real Men Don’t Cry”?​

If you believe that crying is a sign of weakness, it’s time to rethink your views. Real men know that emotions aren’t a weakness but a part of being human.

The only people who ever told me that men shouldn't cry were women.
If it wasn't for women getting the ick when a man cries, men would be much more willing to do it.

2. Do You Believe A Man Should Be The “Head Of The Family”?​

If you believe that a man is the only one who should make all the critical decisions in the family, you might be forgetting about partnership. In healthy relationships, people should be equals, partners who support each other.

Depends on the man but in general, men leading families leads to the children being less dysfunctional.

3. How Do You React To Failures – Do You Explode Or Bottle Up Emotions?​

Toxic masculinity often shows in how we deal with failures. If you explode when things go wrong, or conversely, hide your feelings so no one sees your vulnerability, it’s a red flag.

So what am I supposed to do?
Smile when I fail?

4. Your Opinion On Male Friendships – Just “Beer With The Buddies”?​

If, in your view, male friendship should be limited to get rowdy together and watching sports and any display of vulnerability from your buddies makes you wanna barf or laugh at them, you’re missing out on a whole world of deep and meaningful relationships that can exist between men.

Nobody actually thinks that.
It's a stereotype that isn't real.

5. How Do You Feel About Sex And Sex Toys?

I'm not even going to entertain this question.
Keep your filthy fetishes away from me.

6. How Do You Feel About Women Leaders?​

Do you feel uncomfortable around women who hold leadership positions? This could be a sign that you’re holding onto outdated views on gender roles.

Dealing with women in leadership positions is very difficult.
They're often dismissive, condescending and generally rude.
Also, they tend to make decisions based on feels.
Remember when Angela Merkel flooded Germany with 3rd world savages because she felt bad for them?
that's scary, male leaders, unless they're cucks like Trudeau, don't act like that.

7. Do You Believe Men Should Be Physically Strong?​

Muscles are great, but they don’t make you a better or worse person. If you believe that strength defines a man’s worth, you might be under the influence of toxic masculinity.

It's better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.

8. How Do You Perceive Tenderness And Affection In Relationships?​

If you think that tenderness and affection are feminine traits, it might be time to rethink what it means to be a man.

Again, does anybody actually thinks that?
No, those idiots from Fresh & Fit don't count.

9. Do You Feel Pressured To Be A “Real Man’”?​

If you constantly feel like you have to be a “real man,” following some imaginary standards, this might be a sign that toxic masculinity is weighing on you more than you think.

I kind of do because there are so many weak men that allow bad things to happen these days.

10. How Do You Feel About Men Who Go Against Traditional Roles?​

If you believe that a man who chooses a non-traditional path is weak or doesn’t deserve respect, you might be a victim of stereotypes.

What are we walking about here?
A man who decides to be a male nurse or rainbow fags and troons?
Because I'm fine with the former but the latter should be heavily discouraged.

 

[mindlessobserver]

men make up most of the staff in commercial kitchens.

And there should be more male nurses, if only because of all the obese people that have to be hoisted in hospital beds. Ain't no way 115lb Allison is going to lift all that blubber and Shaniqua ain't got time for giving the fat rolls a sponge bath.

 

[Sithis]

If you believe that crying is a sign of weakness, it’s time to rethink your views.

Crying is literally a sign of weakness, especially in conflict or interpersonal interactions, it's a defense strat to try to compel the other person to want to help make things better. Crying because of emotional overload just lets the world know you waste time ruminating on negative shit instead of just processing it and moving forward. That's part of the gender disconnect in crying anyway, men handle emotion differently than women, we typically compartmentalize it and pack it away or vent it off so that we can be productive.

Do you think that women who use sex toys are automatically cheating on their partners? Do you feel you can replace sex with a loved one with realistic male sex toysbecause “at least those always say yes”?

The hypocrisy of women, right there. "If I use a dildo to get off on demand you're totally not allowed to be upset by that, but you're a piece of shit if you use a fleshlight"
Just have normal sex regularly you fucking gooner retards.

Muscles are great, but they don’t make you a better or worse person. If you believe that strength defines a man’s worth, you might be under the influence of toxic masculinity.

Fat fingers typed this article

 

[DoomsdayElite]

Crying is literally a sign of weakness, especially in conflict or interpersonal interactions, it's a defense strat to try to compel the other person to want to help make things better. Crying because of emotional overload just lets the world know you waste time ruminating on negative shit instead of just processing it and moving forward. That's part of the gender disconnect in crying anyway, men handle emotion differently than women, we typically compartmentalize it and pack it away or vent it off so that we can be productive.

The hypocrisy of women, right there. "If I use a dildo to get off on demand you're totally not allowed to be upset by that, but you're a piece of shit if you use a fleshlight"
Just have normal sex regularly you fucking gooner retards.


Fat fingers typed this article

Fat fingers slathered in lard.

 

[Eternal Gopnik]

This appears to be some kind of a literal Nigerian scam site hawking useless courses about how to become rich and successful in 10 easy steps.



LMAO those names

 

[OrionBalls]

I read these questions to my husband, and his only response was: "What do you tell a woman with two black eyes? Nothing! You already told her twice."

 

[Mr. Racewar1488]

1. Your Attitude Towards Emotions: “Real Men Don’t Cry”?​

If you believe that crying is a sign of weakness, it’s time to rethink your views. Real men know that emotions aren’t a weakness but a part of being human.

Men crying is only acceptable at funerals and at the Grand Canyon.

 

[Dog-O-Tron 5000v5.0]

Oh well, guess I'm a Toxic Male!



Pretty much agree with all those to some extent, except I would see a wife as equal partner, I'd have no interest in someone subservient to me...or vice versa. And I don't have a problem with female managers or leaders in general. I've hired and promoted and worked with a bunch of them that were good.

 

[ZeCommissar]

1. Your Attitude Towards Emotions: “Real Men Don’t Cry”?​

If you believe that crying is a sign of weakness, it’s time to rethink your views. Real men know that emotions aren’t a weakness but a part of being human.

Real men, and honestly just human beings with good emotional regulation cry when needed, not because they can. If you're constantly crying about shit and something serious like a death, financial ruin, or something similar hasn't happened recently you have some shit to work through. Also men may pressure each other to not cry, but that's mostly because we know that most people don't give a fuck. Cry infront of a woman you fancy before you get into the serious stages of the relationship and see what happens.

2. Do You Believe A Man Should Be The “Head Of The Family”?​

If you believe that a man is the only one who should make all the critical decisions in the family, you might be forgetting about partnership. In healthy relationships, people should be equals, partners who support each other.

I do think men should be head of the family, but obviously anyone with sense knows that the wife has very serious input in all matters. Any man that wants some slave that just says "yes" to everything is a fool, and any woman that puts up with that type of man is either biding her time to pull out the divorce papers, or is mentally damaged in some way.

3. How Do You React To Failures – Do You Explode Or Bottle Up Emotions?​

Toxic masculinity often shows in how we deal with failures. If you explode when things go wrong, or conversely, hide your feelings so no one sees your vulnerability, it’s a red flag.

This isn't about "toxic masculinity" but yet again just about being a mature adult with emotional regulation. I have seen plenty of women blow the fuck up and break down over stupid shit, are they suffering from "toxic masculinity" as well?

4. Your Opinion On Male Friendships – Just “Beer With The Buddies”​

No one thinks like this. A man nowadays is lucky if he even has more than 2 male friends that he truly feels like are his brothers. I would love to do autistic stupid shit for extended periods of time like making homemade (fedpost) with the boys, but we all have these things called real life problems that get in the way so sometimes we just have to settle with hanging around for a few hours cracking open a cold one.

6. How Do You Feel About Women Leaders?​

Do you feel uncomfortable around women who hold leadership positions? This could be a sign that you’re holding onto outdated views on gender roles.

Women can be good leaders, but it takes a specific personality of woman to be a good leader....oh wait that's just people in general. Anyway the modern cringe idea of a "good" woman leader is just some weird girlboss bitch that refuses to listen to anyone else (especially a man), does whatever she wants, and always has something sarcastic to say regardless of situation. That is not leadership that is being retarded.

7. Do You Believe Men Should Be Physically Strong?​

Muscles are great, but they don’t make you a better or worse person. If you believe that strength defines a man’s worth, you might be under the influence of toxic masculinity.

I believe EVERYONE man, woman, child, old, black, white, eskimo, or whatever type of flavor of person under this sun should be physically fit and healthy. A lack of physical discipline is a lack of mental discipline. Going through life being some skinny fuck, or some fat tub is a terrible existence and very very few people have excuses. Unless you have some crazy physical disorder like being a quadriplegic, or that one disease that turns injuries into bone you have NO EXCUSE.

You don't have to be "strong" but you do have to be fit. And yes being fit does infact make you a slightly "better" person than someone who is not. Why? Because it shows you have discipline the other person does not have. Of course you can be a horrible human being and be physically fit, but you have one positive characteristic most people do not. No one gets fit by sitting on their ass, and no one will stay fit if they don't have some sort of discipline.

 

[JohnnyG]

"Most Effeminate Society in Human History Declares Masculinity 'Toxic'"

 

[ZazietheBeast]

I have a far better method. Just play Duke Nukem. If you find the game offensive in any way then you were never a real man.

 

[The Ugly One]

Like I'm going to read through some woman's questionnaire and submit myself to her interrogation.

 

[Pentex]

Anyone who uses 'feel' and 'might' this many times in what is supposed to be a persuasive writing doesn't even believe their own bullshit.

 

[Dracula's Spirit Animal]

To think, whoever wrote this drivel probably proudly shared with everyone they know: "OMFG I'm a PUBLISHED JOURNALIST NOW!"

The whole thing is a caricature . It simply shows the author has zero understanding of men or anything other than a cartoon level Theory of the Male Mind. It's like a three year old describing their dolls' personalities.

 

[Ingmar Aspergman]

Motherfucker, there’s a world of difference between crying at a funeral for a loved and being a bitch-titted faggot crying to a Star Wars trailer