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How To Find Out If You Conform To Toxic Masculinity: A Hilarious Checklist For A Serious Topic

Have you ever wondered what it means to be a “real man”? It’s not just about having muscles of steel and a fearless gaze but also a whole bunch of social stereotypes that can limit, and sometimes seriously harm, your life and those around you.

Toxic masculinity is that sneaky little worm that slowly gnaws away at your identity and your relationships with the world. Today, we’re offering you a funny checklist to help you figure out whether you’re showing signs of toxic masculinity. Ready?

Masculinity and Toxicity: Where’s The Line?​

It’s not even “not all men” – it’s not “all masculinity”, either! There are beautiful displays associated with masculinity, such as being a good provider, a good dad, and having the courage to display vulnerability—but there is another side to this, too.

Superman Or Villain?​

We all want to be the heroes of our own lives, but sometimes, heroism can turn into something dark. Toxic masculinity is like trying to be superman but ending up as the villain. It’s the pressure to live up to ideals that no one set, but everyone somehow tries to follow.

What Is Toxic Masculinity And How Does It Manifest?​

Toxic masculinity is when you feel like you have to be tough, emotionless, and always in control. It’s when you believe that emotions are for the weak and that the world should bow at your feet. But that’s far from true strength.

Here’s Our Checklist: 10 Questions to Understand If You Display Toxic Masculinity​

Now, let’s figure out where you stand on the scale, from a nice guy to a “nice guy”, from “good guy Greg” to “an alpha”.

1. Your Attitude Towards Emotions: “Real Men Don’t Cry”?​

If you believe that crying is a sign of weakness, it’s time to rethink your views. Real men know that emotions aren’t a weakness but a part of being human.

2. Do You Believe A Man Should Be The “Head Of The Family”?​

If you believe that a man is the only one who should make all the critical decisions in the family, you might be forgetting about partnership. In healthy relationships, people should be equals, partners who support each other.

3. How Do You React To Failures – Do You Explode Or Bottle Up Emotions?​

Toxic masculinity often shows in how we deal with failures. If you explode when things go wrong, or conversely, hide your feelings so no one sees your vulnerability, it’s a red flag.

4. Your Opinion On Male Friendships – Just “Beer With The Buddies”?​

If, in your view, male friendship should be limited to get rowdy together and watching sports and any display of vulnerability from your buddies makes you wanna barf or laugh at them, you’re missing out on a whole world of deep and meaningful relationships that can exist between men.

5. How Do You Feel About Sex And Sex Toys?​

Do you feel that women owe you sex if you’re being nice to them? Do you believe that a man with multiple partners is a god and a woman with the same amount of partners is a tramp?

Do you think that women who use sex toys are automatically cheating on their partners? Do you feel you can replace sex with a loved one with realistic male sex toysbecause “at least those always say yes”?

If your answer to any of these questions is yes, we’ve got a problem. Sex and sexual pleasure are personal matters, and if you equate toys to infidelity, you might be looking at things too narrowly.

6. How Do You Feel About Women Leaders?​

Do you feel uncomfortable around women who hold leadership positions? This could be a sign that you’re holding onto outdated views on gender roles.

7. Do You Believe Men Should Be Physically Strong?​

Muscles are great, but they don’t make you a better or worse person. If you believe that strength defines a man’s worth, you might be under the influence of toxic masculinity.

8. How Do You Perceive Tenderness And Affection In Relationships?​

If you think that tenderness and affection are feminine traits, it might be time to rethink what it means to be a man.

9. Do You Feel Pressured To Be A “Real Man’”?​

If you constantly feel like you have to be a “real man,” following some imaginary standards, this might be a sign that toxic masculinity is weighing on you more than you think.

10. How Do You Feel About Men Who Go Against Traditional Roles?​

If you believe that a man who chooses a non-traditional path is weak or doesn’t deserve respect, you might be a victim of stereotypes.

Change Begins With Awareness​

Recognizing that you hold toxic views is the first step toward change. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, but it gives you the chance to be better, to free yourself from stereotypes, and to live a fuller life.

The Best Version Of Yourself: Be Authentic, Not Stereotypical​

Instead of striving to be the image of a “real man,” try being just real. A real man is someone who isn’t afraid to be himself, who respects himself and others, and who understands that masculinity isn’t about strength but about confidence paired with respect for others.

And now, you’re ready to be better, more aware, and freer.
 

1. Your Attitude Towards Emotions: “Real Men Don’t Cry”?​

If you believe that crying is a sign of weakness, it’s time to rethink your views. Real men know that emotions aren’t a weakness but a part of being human.
"Real Men" do in fact cry. You just shouldn't cry over trivial things like a lot of women do.

2. Do You Believe A Man Should Be The “Head Of The Family”?​

If you believe that a man is the only one who should make all the critical decisions in the family, you might be forgetting about partnership. In healthy relationships, people should be equals, partners who support each other.
The man is the head of the family, that doesn't mean your wifes opinion is ignored in every critical decision. I don't think any man wants to make a decision for his family without his wife's approval.

3. How Do You React To Failures – Do You Explode Or Bottle Up Emotions?​

Toxic masculinity often shows in how we deal with failures. If you explode when things go wrong, or conversely, hide your feelings so no one sees your vulnerability, it’s a red flag.
TF? Like women don't do both of these big LOL. I've done both tho, not proud of myself for exploding, but it happens.

4. Your Opinion On Male Friendships – Just “Beer With The Buddies”?​

If, in your view, male friendship should be limited to get rowdy together and watching sports and any display of vulnerability from your buddies makes you wanna barf or laugh at them, you’re missing out on a whole world of deep and meaningful relationships that can exist between men.
Since my late 20s until now being 30, I can say I don't really have friends. I have one friend I've been close with for years and we talk on messenger, it's really limited to that tho. I hate the more modern things make friendships revolve around. (Drinks and watching the game). I kinda hate watching sports and drinking alcohol. As for "displays of vulnerability" I'm not sure what this article is implying by that but some of the greatest men in history have cried or talked about their feelings to their friends. Since when do men NOT be open to their friends about deeply personal things?

5. How Do You Feel About Sex And Sex Toys?​

Do you feel that women owe you sex if you’re being nice to them? Do you believe that a man with multiple partners is a god and a woman with the same amount of partners is a tramp?

Do you think that women who use sex toys are automatically cheating on their partners? Do you feel you can replace sex with a loved one with realistic male sex toysbecause “at least those always say yes”?

If your answer to any of these questions is yes, we’ve got a problem. Sex and sexual pleasure are personal matters, and if you equate toys to infidelity, you might be looking at things too narrowly.
Anyone partaking in hookup culture and sleeping around is gross, if you don't have the goal of monogamy and a long-term relationship that leads to marriage in your intentions, you're gross. I've never met a "nice guy" irl, but I know they exist and it's really gross behavior.

Wtf no

I consider myself fairly liberal sexually so long as it's within and exclusive to my partner and I's relationship.

6. How Do You Feel About Women Leaders?​

Do you feel uncomfortable around women who hold leadership positions? This could be a sign that you’re holding onto outdated views on gender roles.
Female Leaders are the exception and never the rule.

7. Do You Believe Men Should Be Physically Strong?​

Muscles are great, but they don’t make you a better or worse person. If you believe that strength defines a man’s worth, you might be under the influence of toxic masculinity.
I don't necessarily believe being strong defines your worth as a man, but being able to do laborious things like changing a tire, oil or working on things around your place does.

8. How Do You Perceive Tenderness And Affection In Relationships?​

If you think that tenderness and affection are feminine traits, it might be time to rethink what it means to be a man.
I like tenderness and affection in relationships, this article has me shook since when have even the most hypeasculine men in failed to be tender and affectionate to their lover? It's like they've never read a love letter from a dead soldier from either world war, this author is fuckin retarded.

9. Do You Feel Pressured To Be A “Real Man’”?​

If you constantly feel like you have to be a “real man,” following some imaginary standards, this might be a sign that toxic masculinity is weighing on you more than you think.
Being a real man isn't optional, it's demanded if you want to make something of yourself and lead a good healthy lifestyle.

10. How Do You Feel About Men Who Go Against Traditional Roles?​

If you believe that a man who chooses a non-traditional path is weak or doesn’t deserve respect, you might be a victim of stereotypes.
Fags.
 
Since when do men NOT be open to their friends about deeply personal things?
Since the moment the woman who wrote this article developed a 100% accurate image in her head of males and their friendships as being shallow and emotionless.
 
Do you think that women who use sex toys are automatically cheating on their partners? Do you feel you can replace sex with a loved one with realistic male sex toysbecause “at least those always say yes”?

If your answer to any of these questions is yes, we’ve got a problem. Sex and sexual pleasure are personal matters, and if you equate toys to infidelity, you might be looking at things too narrowly.
I wonder what the author thinks about the opposite:
Do you think that men who use sex toys are automatically cheating on their partners?
 
"Are you a real man or a dick suckin' mealy mouthed faggot? Use this handy checklist to find out!"

Ok, don't mind if I do.
 
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