How to get over the death of a loved one?

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I figure if maybe you set a situation up where you call your mom or sister or whoever and tell them to meet you under a bridge and then pay a random crack head to stab them while you stand up top, then that would be a pretty solid method of getting a get a birds eye view of your loved one's death.

That's kind of an extreme way to get off though, I think your time on KF is affecting you Gorgar.
 
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Uberpenguin said:
I figure if maybe you set a situation up where you call your mom or sister or whoever and tell them to meet you under a bridge and then pay a random crack head to stab them while you stand up top, then that would be a pretty solid method of getting a get a birds eye view of your loved one's death.

That's kind of an extreme way to get off though, I think your time on KF is affecting you Gorgar.
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What the actual fuck is wrong with you. Like I mean it. What. The. Fuck.
 
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I don't think you do get over it, you just learn to live with it; time helps. Whenever you feel like you aren't 'getting over it' , have a set of things to say to yourself or do, that help you get out of that mindset, and keep going until something helps. Everything we experience becomes a part of who we are, even things like this. Accepting that is the hardest.
 
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Red Hood said:
Time.

You don't really move on, you just move forward.
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This. I still miss my dog. She was my best friend and I loved her more than anyone or anything, including my wife. There is a dog-shaped hole in my heart that can never be filled.
A couple of months after she died I had a dream where I was telling someone about how sad I was because I missed her so much. I woke up from that dream, sobbing out loud. It was actually a cathartic experience, but even now, as I type these words, my throat is tightening up and I can feel the tears coming unbidden.

You never get over it, you just keep going forward.

I genuinely understand how some people cannot get past a loss too deep, and just want to die. Grief - real, true, deep grief - is extremely powerful.
 
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Not knowing the scope of grieving you are talking about, I’d say that it depends. Yes time can help, but if you find yourself feeling ‘stuck’ in place and unable to move forward, or you’re feeling more severe consequences, then I’d find a grief therapist.
I’m not suggesting that lightly either, as I’m not a big fan of therapy. But I feel that grief is definitely something that can be navigated with someone that is experienced, to take some of that burden off of you, so you learn to live with it.
In any case, don’t keep it inside, because that causes physical issues down the road.
Anyways, back to shitposting.
 
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Generally keeping yourself busy and meditating and exercising, over time your brain will slowly process the event and take some of the sting and grief out of it.

Exercise may sound cliche but you know it does release endorphins which youll be likely low on during a period of mourning.

But if your shitposting:
Tie a noose
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Wine em Dine em 69 em said:
Not knowing the scope of grieving you are talking about, I’d say that it depends. Yes time can help, but if you find yourself feeling ‘stuck’ in place and unable to move forward, or you’re feeling more severe consequences, then I’d find a grief therapist.
I’m not suggesting that lightly either, as I’m not a big fan of therapy. But I feel that grief is definitely something that can be navigated with someone that is experienced, to take some of that burden off of you, so you learn to live with it.
In any case, don’t keep it inside, because that causes physical issues down the road.
Anyways, back to shitposting.
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Yes, I agree with you. Time heals, but we are all different, and some people can't move forward without professional help.
Three years ago I lost one of my closest friends of mine, and I can't say I'm over it. Three years have passed, but I think about that person every day. The feelings are different. not similar to those I had after that happened, but still...
 
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AmberBaker said:
Yes, I agree with you. Time heals, but we are all different, and some people can't move forward without professional help.
Three years ago I lost one of my closest friends of mine, and I can't say I'm over it. Three years have passed, but I think about that person every day. The feelings are different. not similar to those I had after that happened, but still...
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Forgot to mention one more important thing related to that theme
I took an online course in psychology, and there is a part about practical work with those who lost someone. And I can say that such a process is very complicated. I found some other info connected to that topic on one website, and you know, the fact that people can die because of many reasons makes everything more complicated. I mean, losing someone because of an illness is not the same if there was, for example, a suicide. And each of us reacts differently. But I would agree that the best way, if you can cope with everything for a long time, is to get professional help.
 
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