how to handle a girl with extreme mood swings?

[theshitposter]

ok i exaggerated a lil bit

edit: she likes my edgy joking style and we constantly rib each other. but sometimes out of the blue she's gets upset over my words

edit: those suggesting me to ditch her, not an option. slim bod, big tiddies, super loyal, freaky yet shy, untouched from feminism (yet) , hates muslims (), knows how to cook, loves kids. that's a package. the only problems are that she's vegetarian and bipolarish

 

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[Ona Quest]

As a bipolar chick, the only way you can deal is with patience. Like, if she is self aware, apologizes for her behavior, and recognizes she is mental, you can make this work so long as you also realize that not only are you dealing with her, but her mental illness also. It will be difficult, but if you think she is worth it, just be patient. Be clear and be honest. Be sure to tell her why her bull shit emotional flux is unjustified. She just needs a reasonable, and solid mentality to help her. But, just don't be a patronizing dick about it either.

 

[♦️ King of Diamonds ♦️]

As a bipolar chick, the only way you can deal is with patience. Like, if she is self aware, apologizes for her behavior, and recognizes she is mental, you can make this work so long as you also realize that not only are you dealing with her, but her mental illness also. It will be difficult, but if you think she is worth it, just be patient. Be clear and be honest. Be sure to tell her why her bull shit emotional flux is unjustified. She just needs a reasonable, and solid mentality to help her. But, just don't be a patronizing dick about it either.

Isn't that important in any relationship- being patient and recognizing eachother's flaws?

 

[Ona Quest]

Isn't that important in any relationship- being patient and recognizing eachother's flaws?

For sure I mean, it's just human. But being with a partner who has a mental illness takes shit to another level. Like, a lot depends on the the level of awareness of the mentally ill partner and the way that the partner handles shit. Like, it just takes more work because the level of bullshit is amplified by a series of bad takes on behalf of the mental partner. I dunno. All I know is that I am a crazy, difficult person and my dude friend has been more than patient with me despite my absolute nutter butter bullshit

 

[♦️ King of Diamonds ♦️]

For sure I mean, it's just human. But being with a partner who has a mental illness takes shit to another level. Like, a lot depends on the the level of awareness of the mentally ill partner and the way that the partner handles shit. Like, it just takes more work because the level of bullshit is amplified by a series of bad takes on behalf of the mental partner. I dunno. All I know is that I am a crazy, difficult person and my dude friend has been more than patient with me despite my absolute nutter butter bullshit

I have an ungodly cocktail of mental illnesses that makes me believe it would be extremely unethical for me to reproduce. It's why I wanted to sterilize myself and why boomers having 7 kids they neglect just 'cause pisses me off. My view is I either enter a traditional marriage with someone just as crazy as me or I try to be akin to a hermit or monk or something.

 

[Ona Quest]

I have an ungodly cocktail of mental illnesses that makes me believe it would be extremely unethical for me to reproduce. It's why I wanted to sterilize myself and why boomers having 7 kids they neglect just 'cause pisses me off. My view is I either enter a traditional marriage with someone just as crazy as me or I try to be akin to a hermit or monk or something.

Bro, 100%, I get you. Aside from having fears of having a parasite growing inside me a la Aliens, I also think that I am too mental to have kids. If I ever feel like I need to indulge my desire to mother, I'd probably just adopt. It's the story (personal knowledge) we pass on that's more important, after all. It's just lame that a lot of people think that the only story worth telling is a genetic one.

 

[GenericEdgelordSupreme]

Take some alone time when she's bitching too much. My girlfriend is ADHD, OCD, PTSD... lots of acronyms... and she frequently vomits her anxiety on whoever happens to be within earshot. Usually that's me, and I try to talk her down and help as much as I can, but it can be really exhausting dealing with someone else's mental health issues in addition to your own. Hers sometimes cause her to have severe verbal diarrhea or bitch and nag compulsively. When it makes me irritable and I feel like I'm at risk of yelling or saying something dickish, I leave the room to cool off. She's self-aware enough to understand she can be difficult to deal with sometimes, so she leaves me alone until I've had a sufficient break. My morbid humor and cynicism are sometimes too much for her, but instead of trying to change who I am she just asks to change the topic. Our relationship works because we give each other not only the support we need, but also the space. If your woman is in a mood and taking it out on you, you need to make it clear that it's not fair of her to do that and you're not her whipping boy. You also need to do it in a way that's assertive but not aggressive, otherwise it could escalate into a big fight. If you establish healthy boundaries without too much conflict you can have your cake and fuck it too.

 

[♦️ King of Diamonds ♦️]

Take some alone time when she's bitching too much. My girlfriend is ADHD, OCD, PTSD... lots of acronyms... and she frequently vomits her anxiety on whoever happens to be within earshot. Usually that's me, and I try to talk her down and help as much as I can, but it can be really exhausting dealing with someone else's mental health issues in addition to your own. Hers sometimes cause her to have severe verbal diarrhea or bitch and nag compulsively. When it makes me irritable and I feel like I'm at risk of yelling or saying something dickish, I leave the room to cool off. She's self-aware enough to understand she can be difficult to deal with sometimes, so she leaves me alone until I've had a sufficient break. My morbid humor and cynicism are sometimes too much for her, but instead of trying to change who I am she just asks to change the topic. Our relationship works because we give each other not only the support we need, but also the space. If your woman is in a mood and taking it out on you, you need to make it clear that it's not fair of her to do that and you're not her whipping boy. You also need to do it in a way that's assertive but not aggressive, otherwise it could escalate into a big fight. If you establish healthy boundaries without too much conflict you can have your cake and fuck it too.

Healthy boundries in regards to avoiding fights seems to be the best bet not just for relationships- but for friendships as well

 

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