How to take preemptive actions so that you are more likely to get custody of your child and not your ex wife?

[Terror Sandwich]

Just want to say that I have a family member who married a woman who was okay but did a 180 once she became pregnant. Sometimes life is just unfair.

I believe some people are just very mentally weak and unstable, that any sort of major change to their life or body can lead them to become a completely different person. It's not something you can really see until it happens, which is very unfortunate.
In that case the pregnancy hormones were probably the catalyst for her 180.

 

[Rich Evans Simp]

Get off the internet, nothing you believe resembles real life. Unless you get a rogue judge in a one-in-a-million anomalous judgment, no divorce proceedings give weight to stuff like cheating, yelling, unfairness, someone being a meanie, alcohol abuse absent a DUI. I don’t know one single case of a man being denied half or partial custody. My state doesn’t even grant alimony (It’s legal but never happens) - I’m close to a man divorced from a SAHM of over 10 years, who only had to pay her until the divorce was final. I’m also close to a woman divorced from an early marriage (no kids) to a man who milked her for everything simply because he was angrier and more persistent at getting to her income and bonuses through the court.

Some of us are actually married and actually parents and think you’re retarded.

 

[Slap47]

Don't get married to someone who's going to divorce you over dumb shit. It's that easy.

Most men are heterosexual so this is not an option.

 

[Geddy Lee's Fee and See]

Most men are heterosexual so this is not an option.

There are a lot of good, not retarded women out there. They're not easy to find but they exist. If you can't find any, don't get married. It's better to be alone than to be with a woman you will grow to hate and then have to live with because you have kids together. I've seen so many men blame their biology for their poor decision making I kinda have to wonder if women are the way they are now because men are so weak nowadays. Women by and large are childish and really not wife material in a lot of capacities, but men also enable this shitty behavior by valuing sex over having a mature woman in their life that acts like a boon rather than a bane.

 

[TruthSeekingDaimon]

Good advice but lots of normies/leftoids here think marriage is sustainable

Consider not reproducing
Failing that, don't be a creepy abusive weirdo.

This faggotry takes the cake but I dont like cherry picking and going after the idiot in the mob.

the only way to avoid getting fleeced by divorce is bankrupting yourself, and remaining a penniless pauper for the rest of your life. not a very appealing prospect, so if you're not prepared to go full scorched earth like that, then don't get married

I read that the court can suspend your drivers license if you dont pay child support(which is totally going to be used for the child and not on drugs and jewelry.) In that extreme situation Scorched Earth is a viable 'trophy denial' tactic.

Marry someone decent, and be a decent husband. That way you will not be divorcing.
If you can’t find anyone decent to marry and breed with, don’t do it. The choice of a woman to have kids with will be the biggest life choice you ever make in terms of happiness. Make a good choice and work to make it work. Marriage always has ups and downs
If you do divorce, do what’s best for the kids. Don’t do stuff to punish your ex, your focus is solely the children and what’s best for them. In almost all cases that is joint custody. If the ex is a danger to the children, that is a different matter entirely. But don’t take the kids to make a point or punish her. The children will not thank you long term for that. Messy divorces damage children, and children prevented from seeing a parent they live develop resentment against the parent stopping them.
The safety and well-being of your children is your goal. That’s best achieved within a stable relationship, so don’t get married to a loon, don’t be the loon or if you’re already in the situation ask what’s best for the kids, not your ego

Yeah the age old "be a better man" spiel.
Look up how many of these phycho school shooters have single moms.
Also I like how you just said 'marry someone decent'
Can you answer how to find these 'decent' women? no. You cant.

If you can't find any, don't get married. It's better to be alone than to be with a woman you will grow to hate and then have to live with because you have kids together.

Good point. But that means considering the possibility of never having kids which is a lose condition. You have to play the game. Knowing the game is stacked against you , but there is a victory condition.

I've seen so many men blame their biology for their poor decision making I kinda have to wonder if women are the way they are now because men are so weak nowadays. Women by and large are childish and really not wife material in a lot of capacities, but men also enable this shitty behavior by valuing sex over having a mature woman in their life that acts like a boon rather than a bane.

We need to do some research on how much a boner can influence rational thought(and screw it up)
The thing about sex is, evolution wise males are attracted to women's traits that aid the survival of the child.
However for us its an impulse not a computation, when you see dirty teeth you dont go
This woman displays low body hygiene. ANd therefore displays lack of self preservation skills. Unfit for having my offspring.
You just cringe and dont look that way.

 

[MadDisaster]

If you sincerely want full custody, and not shared custody, be the primary caretaker of children before the divorce. Part of the bias towards women in custody is that even shitty women are the primary caretakers of children - they feed the kids, dress the kids, send them to school, do the parent/teacher stuff, get the kids when they're sick. All that stuff means that they're going to be who a judge leans towards because they are who the kids depend on for their daily life. If the wife is neglectful and fucking up, and the father doesn't take over that primary caretaking, it's not going to make him look better in court. If you don't know the kid's birthday, what grade they're in, what school they go to, etc. no judge is going to think you actually give a shit about the kid's best interests.