How would someone like Null find a partner?

[teriyakiburns]

For op: I've been out of the dating game for a fairly long time (not counting a short period in the early 00s that I'd really rather forget. Talk about crash and burn) but my experience was fairly consistent: the best relationships come out of shared interests. Explicitly dating, as in going out and finding people with the intended goal of starting a relationship, is way less reliable than just being with people who you share interests and passions with, because those people tend to want to spend time with you, even if tangentially, which means that some of them will be open to spending time with you outside of the shared interest as well. Shared interest could be as simple as being in the park at the same time as someone, or travelling on the same bus, or more involved things like hobbies, recreational activities, you name it. As long as there's a thing in common that you can potentially bond with someone over, it's a shared interest.

Don't expect anything more than friendship and passions in common, and you'll go a long way.

Saying all that:

reading

Try and find a book club. You've got a 50/50 chance of it being filled with crazy cat ladies, but that's better odds than doing nothing at all. Worst that happens is you decide you don't likle book clubs, but at least you put in the effort to try something new.

 

[Hey Beter]

Null is the guy who said he's afraid to see Black people, right?

 

[McSchlomo]

Also, guys, I didn't intend to make this a dating advice for faggot OP thread. Not that I'm not grateful for the attempts.

But when you think of something (like a book club, a park with actual people in it), think: Does he have x anywhere remotely close? And then answer that question always with "no".

Fact of the matter is that I'm also not desperate, I don't want kids, so I don't feel the biological clock ticking. I wouldn't even know what to do with a partner, I don't even feel like I had time for her. I do feel my social life is brutally lacking and that is probably going to put me in a very early grave, but I've pretty much reached the stage of acceptance on that front. But sometimes, I'll admit, the mind wanders, and this leads me to create threads like this.

But now lets stop talking about OP because he is going to get banned for Powerleveling otherwise. I got nulls thoughts on the matter, although unsatisfyingly little, and that was my main goal.

 

[3322]

Stop projecting so much and smash some box. It seems you spend too much time thinking about other men on the internet and are already in danger of becoming a homosexual.

 

[TheTrumanShow]

tsame tbh


In no way did I want to imply I'm similiar to null, I'm definitely not. The only similarity I saw was that we both have simply very little opportunity to even find women to be interested in. And from what he wrote here, I was apparently wrong on that count.

No autism though. I think.

I don't really know what autism means anymore, if we are talking super serious here. Obviously there are diagnosed autists. From what I know about psychological diagnosis they are compositions of various a-normal (constantly changing definition by the way) behavioural patterns.

So when I say autistic I mean it more in the way that you're abnormal in that particular way. Your other behaviours may not qualify you for a diagnosis. Like I have an obsession with truth, I dislike small talk too and I can sometimes be completely engrossed in a project. But other traits like social awkwardness, inability to adapt to change and lack of empathy or ability to identify with and take interest in someone elses emotional state don't fit on me at all.

Now sociopaths are able to kind of fake a response and manipulate others depending on the reads they have learned to pick up on. As they lack many of those themselves its a long process and requires a level of socialization, otherwise they more easily develop into psychopaths or just total social outcasts. But you seem, by that statement alone just disinterested in it, which is more "autistic".

What ever you'd label it, your disinterest has probably weakened your ability as well. So picking up on signals when they are indirect and muted might be harder for you, and so developing a relationship in a more socially fluid situation might not be easy for you. And your disinterest probably means that you should look for someone where you share some passion for a hobby or from shared work interests.



I disagree with the person that posted between this and your post though; that this is the normal or suggested path to find love and build a family. I think it can be a good thing, either if youre a very driven person in a specific field or for a normal life of stability.

But Im personally more interested in someone that completes me than someone that is like me. Maybe its just a preference. Personality compatibility would be much more important than interest compatibility in my opinion. And even when we talk about compatibility there´s that ancient wisdom of Yin and Yang, Its what we lack that we should look for. Hell, just look at our biological construct and the psychological differences that are often the result of the biologically different starting positions. Let alone copulation.

 

[Gilgamesh]

My political takes don't matter. In my experience, women find risque humor more attractive than being a line towing faggot who's afraid of offending immigrants or gays. If you don't believe me that's fine, I'm not going to argue. Maybe it's just women in this area of the world.

This is very true, my girlfriend (and myself to some extent) is very left leaning, and absolutely loves it when I, a straight man, says "faggot".

 

[BelUwUga]

I want to preface this by saying I am not saying this is @Null 's motivation or even a factor in his decision to move to China. That said this thread reminds me of @Hangly who is married to a Chinese national, living in China, working in web development now, and a former admin/owner of a smaller/similar forum that has since shuttered. While the CCP may not particularly care for this kind of business officially, they are above all-else a practical people. If there were any party issues it's unlikely he'd even be able to get a visa in the first place. He'll have the exotic aspect working to his favor that will draw interested women in like moths to a lamp. Depending on where exactly he goes he may be the only white person in hundreds of miles. Assuming he doesn't go full weeb in Tokyo over there dating should be fairly straightforward.

More general advice: making changes like that or being willing to take risks makes you an interesting person in addition to allowing for a bit of a fresh start. In my experience women are less interested in exactly what someone's motivations/drive is, they just care deeply about it existing in the first place. If you're having difficulty, re-allocate any effort you'd put into finding someone into some kind of mixed-gender hobby/self improvement. You're still not looking for dates, but be approachable. Desperation is a powerful repellent.

 

[IAmNotAlpharius]

Chloroform is effective in my experience.

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

In fact if anything the problem with supposedly liberal women isn't that they won't like you, that part isn't a huge challenge, it's that in reality they're like ShoeOnHead; doormats who, the second a man they kind of like gives them attention, abandon all sense of individuality. The liberal shtick is just compensation for how they really feel.

My impression is that women in general are like that. And women who have strong opinions/sense of identity tend to be masculine personalities in general.

 

[Sarvon]

People can think whatever they want about me, but I'm pretty well-adjusted socially. I come across educated and worldly. I know a lot about history and international politics. I can say something honest and flattering about any culture or country. If people ask what my job is, I say I work online as a web developer (not a lie). If they ask why I live in their country, I say it's because I can live anywhere I want and I have friends locally (also not a lie).

I realized a few years ago that trying to hook up online, especially in my position of power, is a bad look and opens the door to serious problems, so I stopped. If someone emails me asking to hook up I usually just reply with a clip of Nick Fuentes saying "no e-girls, never". A lot of people interpret this as asexuality but I don't care.

There's no issues and I'm not lonely. Nobody cares about Internet shit. If I meet someone I want to hook up with very long term, chances are they're going to be cool with whatever. If they're not, probably wasn't meant to be. I'm not in a hurry. Anyone who believes shit about me on the Internet isn't someone I want to be friends with.

My political takes don't matter. In my experience, women find risque humor more attractive than being a line towing faggot who's afraid of offending immigrants or gays. If you don't believe me that's fine, I'm not going to argue. Maybe it's just women in this area of the world.

I also don't need help. Stop asking me to hook up with people. I'm not interested in dating someone 'Internet famous'. I'm not going to start a family with someone who has BPD or schizophrenia. I'm not desperate. I find it insulting so many people think I am. If I start a family it will be on my own terms.

What you put your dick in isn't really anyone's business. Good on ya for not being a "I fucked this bitch" type of person.

 

[Vida]

Null's dream girl

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

I think Null probably either has a girlfriend already, or some options available and is sometimes dating. But he's never going to make information about his sex life public whether he does or not because that would be like asking to get that person doxed.

I guess it's funny to people to imply Null is an incel, but getting into a relationship isn't really that difficult if you're not a literal fedora-owning autist/sperg. He's not someone without achievements in life even if controversial. Also this may shock some people, but a lot of women would philosophically, morally align with Null. Thousands of women use KF, 4chan, and participate in other controversial communities online. Women are not a globohomo hive mind.

 

[AMHOLIO]

I am just happy null says he's content.

Theoretically speaking for any bastard running controversial websites, anyone can do it like 8chan's founder, who got with a woman because his disabilities are her fetish. So, someone, somehow, could find someone.

 

[b0x]

Lol @ posts trying to throw pity.

I'll reiterate something I've said on live: you don't know me. You know literally nothing about me except what I tell you, and since Vordrak became a thing I don't say anything that can be jeopardized. I don't even talk about some multiplayer games I like because I don't want people looking for me.

Assume whatever you want. I could not care less.

The problem is, any english speaking girl who is terminally online knows who you are. Therefore they've already applied some level of prestige to you. Whether you wanted it or not. It would make it very difficult to find girls. You'd have to approach girls that were worldly and learned, to make things interesting. But at the same time unaware of who you are, so there would be no preconceptions. If that were me, I'd find it nearly impossible difficult, especially if you were in a non-english speaking country. I don't envy you. I wonder how you even cope with things considering all the tasks you have to keep up with.

 

[Kiwisee]

Pretty sure he wanted Null to say something nice about the UK.

A request Null will fail.

I got an even bigger challenge:

CANADA!

 

[McSchlomo]

I got an even bigger challenge:

CANADA!

Their truckers are pretty cool

 

[Scolopendra Dramatica]

Without sucking up, Nulls smart, driven and far from ugly. Plus he communicates well and has a sense of humour/ quick wit. He could get any Chantel he wants!

Seriously though, speaking as la female, I don't think the issue would be finding some chick whose willing vs finding a chick who's hard headed enough to deal with the internet bullshit that comes with the farms and has the backbone to argue with the lad when he goes off on a sperg. He'd get bored of a woman that couldn't put her foot down and also play the adversary from time to time.

 

[Illuminati Order Official]

It sounds like you're saying your Internet persona differs from your real life persona.

Isn't it like this for everybody? I mean, when you're interacting with people in real world you have many more form of expression at your disposal: body language, voice intonation, facial expression. So of course you'll express yourself differently than in text-only communication.
And even Null is different on his streams - where he's an entertainer - and here where he is, for the lack of a better word, a figure of authority.

 

[Cabelaz]

This is quite possibly the most autistic thread on the site.
Good job lads.

 

[Ahriman]

I am sure Nool has his reasons for moving to China (as retarded as they might be), but dating, or even marrying a Chinese national, if that's somewhere on his plans, would be a recipe for disaster. I kinda trust Winston's thoughts on the matter, seeing how he has lived in China for 14 years and has seen a lot of shit.

His youtoober buddy, laowhy86, is a different story.



As for what's next for him, eh... he's already pushing 30, by the time he's 30+ almost all physical requirements go out the window, you secretly pray that she's nice to look at with her clothes off. Not a fuckhead would be nice, someone who enjoys Nool's company and comes from a good family, because you don't think about that when you're younger.

If she's 30+ she'll have momitis so, hopefully she likes kids and is fit enough to raise kids, at which point she'll chase him down to pump her full of kids. And if all this happens to him, it won't feel like settling, or betraying his ideals. The only one who would judge him for that would be his 20-something self, by then this forum will be on its last legs.

And that, frens, is how the Nool saga will end. Hopefully marrying some decent chick, moving to bumfuck Wyoming as a goat farmer, with a little Connor Moon on the way.