You know. I came to the conclusion today that the root of my dislike of TERFs is in the fact that most women today, not just TERFs, but the vast majority of women as a whole in the West have completely disintegrated any expression of femininity that made women attractive; and I don't mean in appearance but in demeanor.
And you can see this in TERF argument. "You cannot ovulate" "You do not have a real vagina" "You will never be a woman" "You have no womb" and that seems to me to be a consensus by proxy that the identity ideologies are correct in everything they say with the exception of biological reality, or rather, that all behaviors are social construction and the only thing that makes a woman a woman is her vagina, reducing the essence of womanhood purely to the bio-mechanical reality of her reproductive system rather than the actualization of her womanhood as a definition of herself from all things which opposite to herself, IE: the masculine counterpart.
TERFs (and women in general but..) are so divorced from the essence of their own womanhood that their arguments for what a woman is all relate purely to the biological utility women provide; they speak nothing to the authenticity of a feminine personality, the instincts and dispositions and preferences and predispositions of behavior that come from the feminine essence of their characters that men can only replicate, because they have none themselves. Women (and men too) are all playing pretend in a sociopolitical framework that punishes femininity and masculinity and socially rewards conformity to gender homogenization.
Work your 9 to 5. Girl power. Girls can do anything guys can do. Strong independant women who don't need no man. Etc etc.
Women are so out of tune with their femininity and this disharmony in themselves is why they clash so brutally with any masculinity, because what should be a natural compliment to their own internal energy is now in direct competition with the depersonalized and disintegrated perception of self where that instinctive femininity used to manifest from.
You see this in the power dynamics and struggles for dominance, and the gleefulness women have in dominating or emasculating men, to demean men for acting like men. They take great pleasure in this, rather than taking pleasure in their femininity and complimenting the masculine energy of the men around them, being devoid of femininity, they become competitive and enter into conflict with men, whether that is their peers, their fathers, their brothers, etc. "Women need men like a fish needs a bicycle"
I don't know if this needs to be said, but somehow I think it might, that most normal people don't need to evaluate their behavior, most people don't plan out their responses; most people don't evaluate how a certain choice or decision will impact the way they're perceived by others, and most people don't make decisions based on a preferred outcome in regards to that external perception; yet I think most women are consciously evaluating all of these thing, and it may be something as surface-level innocent as "Will this decision lead to me being taken more seriously at work" or it may be as toxic and self-sabotaging as making decisions which consciously subvert the "male expectation" of behavior from women,
But most normal people don't do this. They just... exist. They do what they feel like doing and what feels natural... so while troons have warped and distorted their physical representation, women (and TERFs/feminists especially) have warped and distorted their sense of self, their emotional and psychological essence and the very core of their being and identity while (MAYBE if we're lucky) still taking care of superficialities like shaving or wearing makeup
TL;DR.
In all honesty, I think most TERFs are obessessed with troons because troons look on the outside the way TERFs look on the inside. Approximately female.