So,
according to your own logic, one of the most terrible things to happen to a person is to lack a romantic/sexual partner such as a spouse. If you lack this that means you are, in essence, a terrible person, as we are "products of our own upbringing". You lack a romantic/sexual partner, ergo you are also terrible.
Hell, doesn't this also make
@Holden a terrible person by default? Same can be applied to all the other Love Shys. They are all,
according to your own logic, terrible people because they lack this fundamental key to happiness. Why are you defending horrible people, then?