If you saw someone with selfharm scars, would it bother you?

[Kuchipatchi]

I was at my social club yesterday and there's this new girl that joined. I sat next to her and I glanced over at her and on her arm, I noticed an absolute abundance of selfharm scars covering her forearm. They all looked old but it's quite unsettling to look at.

Then I thought, "Should I even talk to her? Do I even want to?" But why did I think that? I shouldn't judge but seeing the scars gives off an ugly image.

The girl is not the first person to have visible scars, this dude at seemed rather normal albeit shy and need a little guidance to do tasks. One of his arms were covered in selfharm scars and I was actually surprised. He didn't seem like the unhappy type let alone the self-mutilating type.

I think that if a grown adult is unable to process their distress in a harmless way, they're not good people to have in your life and if they're willing to wield a knife, what's stopping them from taking their anger out on me one day? I think we should keep the selfharm stigma about but that doesn't deter them, just makes the shame afterwards greater, like they miss the point of the stigma.

Am I being reasonable? Judgemental? Logical? Stupid?
How do you feel when you see selfharm scars? I'm talking a load of them or those deep cuts, not like a couple papercuts.
I want to know what other people think about it.

 

[NigKid]

That's not to say that mentally ill people don't deserve love, or if that someone is open with you about a disorder they have/are aware of/are managing that you should drop them. But if someone is VISIBLY mentally ill (OBVIOUSLY unwashed, fresh self ham, morbidly obese or anorexic-skinny) then you should absolutely protect yourself. That type of thing is the human version of animals having bright colors to warn that they're poisonous.

Of course very much in agreement, the important differeciator is your choice of letting them into your life and in what way. If you can get a depressed friend to hit the street with your group of friends that's great and an effort should be made in that direction. But if that depressed friend starts dragging you down in one way or another you have to see that that will not be feasable for you in the long run, which does not mean to shame those for their issues but rather explaining to them why there is a problem and encouraging them to seek help away from you.

 

[Kuchipatchi]

Doing a good deed and extending a helping hand can save a person like that from trooning out.

You saying that made me remember that she has blue hair so she might already be on the far left road. I haven't paid attention to her enough to know if she has "softboi uwu" behaviour but if she doesn't address herself as a woman, I'm out regardless of her mental health needs cuz once someone is infected with left wing ideals, there's no rescuing them and they're incredibly harmful to be around.

And thanks for the feedback, I wasn't sure if was being irrational or what so I thought I'd ask "the most toxic forum" for second opinions.

Now that I think about it, the girl did seem at least a bit down at the last session. She said she was fine but I had a feeling that she's not. But I don't know how to strike a conversation with her, I'm not sure what her interests are but next session, I'll try something.

PS: There's one exception to the disgust reaction of seeing selfharm scars. If the tranny at my club had scars on him, I'd laugh instead. I think he doesn't have them but once he inevitably cuts himself, I'd be like:

 

[Snuckening]

Self-harm scars = 100% airtight guarantee she'll let the whole crew gangbang her silly. And almost certainly bareback/creampie.

In fact, it's such a foregone conclusion, that I wouldn't bother wasting time building up to it. Or even mentioning it; Just up-end Fanny Kreuger, and whistle for the boys to jump in and get the party started.

 

[Kuchipatchi]

Self-harm scars = 100% airtight guarantee she'll let the whole crew gangbang her silly. And almost certainly bareback/creampie.

In fact, it's such a foregone conclusion, that I wouldn't bother wasting time building up to it. Or even mentioning it; Just up-end Fanny Kreuger, and whistle for the boys to jump in and get the party started.

If she would surrender herself like that, she won't have any value as a human, let alone be friend material.

I just hope she's not a lesbian cos I don't fancy giving her the time of day and because I paid attention to her, she'd try to hit on me. The blue hair is already an indicator but "Don't judge a book by it's cover" and all that jazz.