Is Asexuality even real?

[Steampunk Laura Palmer]

Yes, it's real, albeit rare. Three things to consider:

• It may be hard to impossible to tell an asexual person from someone who has some sort of trauma or hormonal imbalance. Not sure where to draw the line, but I'd say an asexual person has been like that for as long as they can remember. They've always been repulsed by sex, confused by everyone around them being so obsessed with it, etc.
• Actual asexuals tend to keep schtum since they're ashamed of the so-called "asexual community" and don't want to associate with it.
• People often equate asexuality to "never has sex" or "is unable to have sex." Both are wrong, though. The latter is a treatable dysfunction, the former a choice. Asexuality is neither. You don't choose to be one—if someone claims to have done so, they're likely a moron looking for attention points. And you can't really treat it, even if you spend a fortune to keep hearing time and again they can't find anything wrong with you.

Imagine something mind-blowingly boring and tedious—like a job you hate, for example. Sure, you may still do it if there's a reason compelling you to. If there's none and you can forgo the job for the rest of your life, you're more than happy with that. Everyone else seems to be enjoying that job for its sake, though, which is where things start getting confusing for you. Oh, and you're also supposed to believe people actually watch videos of other people doing said boring job and do it on their own as well. Now that's the true asexual experience for you. Remember, you can't do anything about it, not more than you can change your natural eye or hair color.

It takes away from otherwise perfect loving relationships and eventually forces you to either feel like a monster weirdo or give up and do something you despise for someone you love (and to have kids). That's about it.

 

[Whatevermancer]

I think it's real, but rare. The main issue is that their community is very quick to proclaim all kinds of people as asexual and discourages self-reflection and experimentation.

Oh, you had one negative sexual experience? You're asexual and that's valid! You jerk off to anime girls but feel no attraction to real women? You're also asexual! You feel sexual attraction, but only once you get to know the person better? You're a demisexual, also on asexual spectrum and that's valid!

You think you have no sexual attraction cause you have hormonal problems and want to go to a doctor? Um, sweaty... don't do that. Why are you perpetuating the stereotype that asexuals are just ill? That's so harmful to our community!

 

[Cincinnatus]

I am asexual. It is definitely real. I have never had sex and I don't care to. I find women attractive but I am not interested in sex and I can honestly say if a women approached me asking for sex I would decline. I wasn't sexually abused or anything, I just don't really care.

 

[Tour of Italy]

Four types of asexuality;

1. I want my mouth breather orbiters to stop propositioning me but I would absolutely throw down the instant someone actually eligible makes a move.

2. I’d rather my social anxiety be seen as a something special, I’d rather be addicted to short-term dopamine rushes than make an serious effort to court someone.

3. There’s no way I could convince someone to have sex with me so it actually means I totally never actually wanted it in the first place.

4. Being overweight has crippled my sex drive.