Is asexuality in humans even real?

[skykiii]

In my experience it can be a factor of age. If you're a teenager, you're probably not asexual. But the older you get the less interesting sex gets.

Though I've heard for some people it goes the other way around.

I also think that porn can make one asexual.

One reason is because it can make sex look gross and disgusting, so now you never wanna do it.

But I think the bigger problem is it makes it too pedestrian to see what the opposite sex looks like without clothes. Like anything else, that sight can lose all significance if it becomes too easy to do, whereas if its something rare (and especially something you have to work for) then its a lot more special.

And these days, you basically don't have to work for it at all. Thus it quickly gets boring.

 

[Online Fossil]

I don’t think anyone is actually physically asexual as in incapable of any sexual feelings, barring hormonal disorders. But I think everyone has different levels of interest in sex and relationships, and it’s always been that way and that’s fine, some people aren’t meant to reproduce and better that they know that rather than become miserable partners and parents. And when sex was a more taboo thing, it was easier to just be like, nah, not for me, I prefer my work or hobbies or whatever, because people weren’t constantly bringing it up.

But now that everyone is so in your face about sexuality (see the retconning of anyone in history who was single for most of their life as “they must have been gay and in hiding”), I can see why some people (especially younger people, who are taught that everything needs a label or ~identity~ attached) who just naturally aren’t into sex would want a word to describe that, as dumb as I personally think it is that anyone needs to explain themselves to others on this.

 

[Doktor Grimm]

But now that everyone is so in your face about sexuality (see the retconning of anyone in history who was single for most of their life as “they must have been gay and in hiding”), I can see why some people (especially younger people, who are taught that everything needs a label or ~identity~ attached) who just naturally aren’t into sex would want a word to describe that, as dumb as I personally think it is that anyone needs to explain themselves to others on this.

I think the issue with establishing "asexual" as its own seperate identity is that people tend to get attached to labels. It's cool if someone has a low libido or straight up just isn't very interested in sex, but by making it a whole Thing and incorporating it into their personality they run the risk of denying themselves relationships later down the line. I personally IDed as asexual for some years and it discouraged me from pursuing possible romantic opportunities, in part because I assumed sex and romance were simply beyond me. (Not that I'm having either of those things nowadays lol.)

Re: the actual thread topic -- the existence of people who legitimately aren't attracted to either sex seems plausible enough. Although lot of them are probably traumatised/addicted to porn/lying for clout, I've met some who just don't feel motivated in that way. Maybe they actually do experience attraction and aren't processing it correctly or something, but what does it really matter? There's no shame in not pursuing sex. No need to make a flag about it though.

 

[Gog & Magog]

No. I have never seen any man or woman spontaneously reproduce a copy of themselves.

 

[pot of sneed]

Some people just don't like sex and can quite happily go without.

 

[Kufungisisa]

No.

The majority of people who claim it are teens with hormones that haven't kicked in yet.

When the hormones kick in they have to find ways to justify it without admitting they were wrong: that's why you get aro-ace, grey asexual and all that bollocks.

The other people are medicated to hell with psych meds so feel nothing, or have hormonal problems.

Molested people still have sexual desires, it just fucks them up even more.
Porn sick people are still sexual they have just got so deep they are only attracted to weird shit that thankfully doesn't exist.

 

[Abimelech]

...have hormonal problems.

So, obviously I don't need to tell anyone here that this sort of thing is rampant on Tumblr.

But there was a blog called "Dairy isn't scary" which started out making fun of stupid vegan propaganda. And since the blog was attacking vegans and triggering a lot of the angry leftists on the site, I started following it.

At first, the person running the blog admitted she was a woman and had no problem being referred to as such. And she mentioned a number of times that she had a thyroid problem that caused her to lack the hormones for sexual arousal. She treated it like a medical issue at first and it was only mentioned in passing.

But then over time the story began changing. The medical issue became asexuality. And then she also wanted to be gender neutral as well, with an accompanying change in pronouns. And then she also somehow added being gay to the mix. And nobody ever was able to explain how a person who didn't have a gender and didn't have sex could also be gay, because those kinds of questions were "bigoted" and "homophobic."

And the transformation continued until "they" had become an asexual, gender-neutral, gay, Jewish, economically disadvantaged person with a warrior cats sideblog to discuss their transgender original characters. And at that point they were bragging about having 10,000 followers and were regularly e-begging because their cow died (again).

So apparently that's the secret to getting 10,000 followers on Tumblr. Just keep adding more intersectional identities to your bio until people will send you dead cow money. Vegans still hated her, but everyone else practically worshipped the ground she walked on.

(And I'm assuming the level of attention eventually got too out of control for her, because she deleted 99.9% of her blog and went into hiding behind a side blog.)

 

[Waifu Days]

I do think one can be so autist that their sex drive is broken. This is rare, if not theoretical.

 

[vanilla_pepsi_head]

Sure, I don't see why not. Whether it's an inborn trait (arguably a psychological defect, though not necessarily a crippling one), a physical defect, or both, doesn't really matter; any permanent, irreversible lack of interest in sexual acts or sexual relationships can just be grouped under the asexuality label for convenience. It probably overlaps a fair bit with people who have schizoid personality disorder. I have no fucking idea how porn addicts, chronic masturbators, people who dislike casual sex, and the like somehow claim this label remotely describes them, whatever insane retarded troll logic leads them to that conclusion is beyond me. Claiming it as some kind of oppressed sexual orientation or identity is just eyeroll inducing most of the time, although I guess they might partially have a point if they were referring to cultures or environments where you could face actual repression for refusing to be married off and reproducing as expected.