But anyways, um, what I really, what's really been on my mind is the dating scene, like always. The dating scene and, uh, relationships, you know? That's, that's what's been on my mind. I wanted to just, you know, um, you know, make a video and just talk about it. You know, um, you know [pause] a lot of people want to make it seem, it's that, it's a numbers game, you know, when it comes to dating or relationships. You know, it's a numbers game and all that stuff. And, um, whatchamacallit, uh, oh, you, oh, you gotta play the game right, and all that stuff. And I really feel what a lot of people don't understand is that, you know, other people's emotions and feelings, it's not a game. You know? I feel that when it comes to dating and re- and relationships, it's not a game. You know? And people want to make it seem it's that everything is a game. Everything is a joke. You know? Life, period, life is not a game, life is not a joke, you know? And, um, I just can't, I just don't understand why people say, "Oh, oh, you gotta play the game," and all that stuff, or it's a "numbers game" when it comes to, you know, when it comes to, you know, women and all that stuff, and everything. I really feel that other people's feelings and emotions is not a game. A man's feelings and emotions, it's not, it's not a game. And women's feelings and emotions is not a game. Nobody's feelings and emotions is a game.
And I really feel this is one of the reasons why, uh, that, that, the dating scene is messed up in this generation. It's because, because so many people play so many mind games. I mean, unnecessary mind games. Mostly women. I know men do it too, but women do it the most. Women do it the most, more than men do it. [Yes, Kent, that's implied by "the most"] All right? You understand, when they're playing all these mind games and stuff, you know, like not returning, like not returning people's text messages and all that stuff, not answering their phone calls and all that stuff. Knowing uh, knowing all the while [?] that you see this person's trying to get in contact with you, this person is trying to talk to you, this person's trying to communicate with you. This person just wanna has a normal, a normal, um, a normal, civilized con- conversation with you, and you ignore them on purpose? You wanna be just, be just a normal person. Like, "Screw this person. I don't wanna talk to this person." Instead of just telling them the truth: "Hey, I don't feel like talking right now. I'll talk to you later." I mean, that's common sense. Just, you know, you don't wanna talk to somebody, say, "I don't feel like talking right now. I'll talk to you later," or something. You know, or something, you know, instead of just flaring [?] out on a person, 'cause I really feel when it comes to, you know, I feel like showing interest toward the opposite sex, you know, I really feel that, um, and, and, you get ignored, you get treated like crap, I really feel, that's, that's rude and disrespectful. That is very rude and disrespectful. You know, my personal opinion: that is very rude and disrespectful. You know?
And here's the, here's what I don't understand. Here's what I don't understand. And a lot of women do this. You know, like, when, when a guy is interested in a woman [gestures meaningfully], you know, he wants to go out on a date with this woman, you know, he wants to get to know this woman and everything. I mean, this guy is nice to this woman. He is nice to her, respectful to her. You, you know, he treats her the way he wants to be treated, and all of a sudden, and she's rude and disrespectful back to him. She's rude and disrespectful back to him in return. And here's what I don't understand. I mean, if you're, somebody's interested in you, and somebody likes you, or has a crush on you, and are, and are interested in going on a date with you, and they want to get to know you and all that, why, why be mean to them? Why be rude to him? Why be rude to them? They haven't did, they haven't done anything to, to you that's, you know, disrespectful. Why be mean to him? Why be rude to him? That's what I don't understand. When somebody has a crush on you, has a crush on you or somebody likes you, why be mean to them or why be rude to them? Because you don't find them attractive, maybe? ["As if" side-eye] I mean, why would you be mean and rude to somebody that you're not attracted to?
I mean, that's the thing, that's the thing I don't understand. Why be mean, rude, disrespectful, and nasty towards somebody that you're not, that, that uh, you're not attracted to? You know, um, that's what I don't understand. You know, that's what I really don't understand. You know?
But [sucks teeth] it's mostly, a lot of women do that. You know, they know, they know that guy, they make, they make, they can tell that a guy likes them, a guy has a crush on them, a guy wants to go out on a date with them, get to know them to see if he's compatible with her. But she may not find that guy physically attractive. And why, but, and they, and they be mean to, and they be mean to this guy, rude to this guy, disrespectful to this guy, nasty towards this guy. Have a bad attitude towards him. And, and you know, she gives that guy his [sic] phone number, and she wanna play, play, play these games? Play these mind games? Ignoring his text messages, ignoring his phone calls on purpose because, you know, nobody can't insult my intelligence anymore. You know, because women have they phones on them 24/7, you know, and they see that, and they see when people are texting them or calling them or just trying to get in, in some type of contact with them. Women acknowledge that, you know, they just don't text back on purpose, you know what I'm saying? Playing, playing with his, that's playing with people's emotions and feelings, when you just ignore them on purpose. You know what I mean? And, and that's disrespectful. That's very disrespectful to, to, you know, that's basically treating somebody like crap.
You know? I mean, if you don't, if you don't wanna talk to that person, just say, "Hey, I don't, I don't want, I don't wanna talk right now," or something. At least acknowledge the fact that that person is trying to get in contact with you, just, that person is trying to communicate with you. At least, at least acknowledge the fact that, at least acknow- at least acknowledge that you, you know, instead of just flat, flat-out ignoring the person. You know, a lot of people don't, especially a lot of women, they really don't want to tell the truth, you know, they really don't wanna tell the truth. You know, when it comes to that, they just, they just, they just wanna be heartless, and play with, with a man's emotions and feelings. And that's wrong, to just, to just treat people like crap, people who haven't done nothing to you like crap, you know? People that actually like you, and they're interested in you, and they want to get to know you, and you treat them like crap. That's wrong. That is wrong. That's very, that's very cruel, and that's very, that just shows that you don't have a heart. You're heartless.
You know? [shakes head, licks lips] But um, I mean, that's just, that's just wrong, you know? That's why I feel that the dating scene is just so, so messed up, you know, in this generation. In this generation, in, in, in this society. You know, I re- um, you know, the dating scene is, um, the dating scene is just so jacked up, you know? You know how people, you know, especially good people, you know, both, whether you're a male or female, you know, get treated like crap. Because, because their crush doesn't feel the same way about them. You know, what gives them the right to treat the person like crap, when that person hasn't done anything to them? You know, hasn't done anything mean to them, hasn't done anything disrespectful to the, to them, hasn't done anything nasty towards them. Yet their crush may give them their phone number and all that stuff, and, and they text that, and they text their crush, and they text them. You know, may, maybe try to call them on the phone, and they just wanna talk. Have a normal, um, have a normal, civilized conver- conversation, and you don't get no response? And they see, and you, and they see, and they see, and it says that they read the messages? It says that they saw your text messages, and [incredulous] they don't respond?
You know, you wanna play mind games, play these emotions and feelings? Here's what I like, here's the thing, here's, here's what I don't understand, is that some people wanna say, "Oh, you can't be too available." Or, "You can't, you can't be too easy." And all that stuff. So basically what you're saying is that, when, by you saying, by you saying, "Oh, you shouldn't always be available all the time," or "You shouldn't seem too easy," so basically what you're saying is [ticks off on fingers] play mind games, and play with their emotions and feelings. That's basically what you're saying. You know, you just, that's basically, that's basically what people are saying: "Oh, just, just play mind games with this person. Play with their feelings and emotions." You know, when they say, "Oh, don't, don't be so, don't be so available all the time." Or don't, or don't text back right away. You have to have that person thinking. [?] So basically what you're saying is playing mind games, and playing with people's emotions and feelings. That's ba- that's basically what people are saying. And people who say that condone that type of behavior.
People who say that condone that type of behavior, and I, and I sure, on this Earth, do not condone, you know, that type of behavior, that type of behavior whatsoever. You know what I mean? But, um, whatchamacallit, um, [pause] and, you know, the dating scene is not a game. And when we, no, when a lot of women play mind games, I'm mostly talking about women because I'm a, I'm a guy? I'm a man? I've mostly been talking about women? Um, you know, I know men do it too. I know, I know men do it too. But it, it goes both ways. Um, playing mind games, just unnecessary mind games, that's very high school. People did that in high school. You know, played mind games and played with people's emotions and feelings, stuff like that, you know, to their crush. People did that in high school, and now people, now that everybody is grown, everybody's, everybody's an adult now, people still have this, have this high-school type of mentality. And I really feel that a lot of people just don't wanna grow up. [Transcriber's note - AHAHAHAHAHA] So me, personally, I don't have time for mind games, you know? You know, just tell me the truth, and I'll just keep, I'll just move forward. I'll just keep on moving, man. You know, I don't, I don't, I don't got time for mind games.
I don't got time for mind games, and, um, usually, you know, I'll, I'll, I'll tell 'em, you know, I'll, you know, um, "Hey, I don't, I don't, I don't have time to be playing these type of high-school mind games, you know, you know? Just, just be honest, and be up front with me. You know, um, I pers- I know what I want, I, um, I know what I want. You know, um, I want companionship, I, I'm interested in you, I wanna get to know you, and all that stuff. I mean, if we're not compatible, it's not gonna work out. But, um, they, they've, you know, that's just me. That's just me. You know, just, you know, me being up front. Me being, me being honest, but, you know, a lot of people wanna do the exact opposite. Play games, not respond to their text messages, or their phone calls and everything, you know, on purpose. You know, and, every, everybody has their phone on them 24/7, every, and, and, in this day and age everybody has their phone on them 24/7. You know?
And I really feel that is wrong, especially, especially, a lot of good people are a victim of this, you know? A lot of people are a victim [sic] of this. I'm a victim of it. You know? And it's just wrong to treat good people like crap, when, when, when this person hasn't done anything to you. This person hasn't disrespected, this person has not disrespected you in any kind of way, this person hasn't done anything. All this person wanted to do was talk to you, get to know you, maybe go out on a date with you, but you know, um [sucks teeth] a lot of people, you know, especially a lot of women. A lot of women are closed-minded, and just because they may not find this guy attractive, you know, they, they don't want to give him a chance, you know? And a lot of women, and I wanna say this to, I wanna say this to every, I forgot to say, I forgot to say this. A lot of women claim, a lot of women claim they're so open-minded. [Mimics] "Oh, I'm open-minded!" If you're so open-minded, then you would give this guy a chance, even, even though you may not, he may not be physically attractive, you would, you would give him a chance. You would go out on a date with him. You see, you see, you see where his head is at. [We see, Kent.] You know, if you actually give him a chance, you may end up liking him. You may end up liking him. You may, you may end up liking his personality. You, you may end up liking what he's about. You know?
But a lot of women don't do that. A lot of women don't do that. A lot of women are closed-minded, you know? You know, they're very closed-minded. They don't even want to take a risk and give a guy a chance. Hey, if you don't like him, you know, at least you were open-minded to give that guy a chance. And that guy may end up feeling better about himself, knowing that, knowing that, knowing that a female has given him a chance, you know? Now, knowing that he's willing to date and a female's willing to give him a chance, you'll see where his head is at. But [licks lips] a lot of women are closed-minded. They don't want to do that. They don't want to do that. They don't. [shrugs] They're just closed-minded.
That's why sometimes I say, is that, you know, I feel like I'm in the wrong generation. Seem like back then, you know, more people were people, back, you know, back during, I'd probably say, the '80s or '70s, maybe '60s and '50s, back during the [Jim Crow era?!] Baby Boomer generation, um, you know, people, lot of people were more open-minded, um, on giving each other a chance, you know. Whether, whether or not they were attracted to them, you know, at least they were open-minded. Seem like it was like that back during the Baby Boomer era. You know, maybe it was like that during the '70s and '80s too. You know, but in this generation? [waves hand back and forth for a moment] No. This gener- this generation, no. No woman's not going to give no man a chance unless she doesn't find him physically attractive. And that's the truth. That's the truth.
And, and, um, it's just wrong. Nowadays, women just treat men like crap. You know, the guy's interested in them, the guy wants to get to know them, the guy's just a normal person. And, you know, a normal person with a good heart and everything, he's just looking for love and everything, looking for companionship. But what gives women the right to treat him like crap when he hasn't done anything to, to the woman? That's what I don't understand. You know, he treats, he treats her the way he wants to be treated, but she's not treating him the way he [sic] wants to be treated. You get what I'm saying? [angry pause, mean-mugs camera] In reality, women treat men like crap. Women treat men like crap, and women wanna be treated like crap. They don't wanna admit that. They don't wanna admit that. They don't wanna tell the truth. [pause, stare to his left like he's forgotten something] But don't play mind games. That's what I'm mostly talking, it, it's the mind games. Don't ignore people on purpose. Just, you know, just say, "Hey, I don't feel like talking." Or something like that. If you really didn't want to talk to him, why did you give him your phone number in the first place? Say, "Thanks, I'm flattered, but you know, I, I don't wanna give you my phone number." You know? "I, I'm not, I'm not interested in you that way."
Yeah, yeah, that may, that may hurt the guy's feelings, but now, as I think about it, people will get they feelings hurt. People, people will get they feelings hurt. But in reality, you, in reality, they respect you for being honest with them. Instead of lying to them and telling them, instead of lying to them and playing with their emotions and feelings, ignoring their message on purpose. Just, just because you, you like [air quotes] "attention." You like attention, and it boostses your ego when a guy gives you attention. When a guy gives a woman attention, it boostses her ego. Makes her feel better about herself. And I always thought, you know, when women did me like that, when women treated me like that, it always made me feel some type of way about myself. It always did.
But I came to a realization, is that it's her loss. I mean, I tried. I did all I could do. Best just to move forward, and just to find somebody who will, um, just try to find somebody who will give me the time of day and treat me the way I want to be treated, you know? I'll treat her the way she wants to be treated, and she, she should be to me the same way back in return. She'll treat me good back in return, that's what I meant to say. [pause of several seconds, lip wobbles, deep breath]
It's just, that's just wrong. And that's why, um, a lot of women, I mean, sad to say, that's why a lot of people get hurt. Especially a lot of women get seriously hurt. Some have gotten killed, too. But mostly, but most of the time a lot of women got physically hurt [squeezes knuckles together] because they play with men's feelings and emotions. And that's not a game. That is not a game. I really feel that playing hard to get is not a game. People, people wanna think it's a game, oh, that they say it's a numbers game. It's all a game, man. Life is not a game. Other people's feelings and emotions is not a game. [long stare] It's not a game. That's people's feelings and emotions right there. That's people's inner thoughts. And people wanna play with that? And they, and think, think that's a joke? That's why some people snap. That's why there's, there's domestic violence. [pause, licks lips] Or violence, period, in general. Violence towards men doing violence towards women. Violence towards men and women.
It's all behind playing with people's emotions and feelings. Nine times out of ten. It's behind playing with people's emotions and feelings, and that's just, that is wrong. That is wrong. I think, um, if people held each other accountable for the, for the, for the, all the crap that's going on when it comes to the dating scene, it wouldn't be no problems, especially mind, especially people playing these high-school mind games. That's high school. You know, that's, that's very high school, that's very childish to do that, to do that to somebody. Especially when you're grown. That's very, that's very, that's very childish. That's very childish. That's very, very childish. To treat p- to treat somebody like that.
And you wanna give that person a chance and get to know, get to know them, you may end up liking them! But yet you, you play with their emotions and feelings. You may end up liking that person. That person may end up being your soulmate. You know, but you're just, you're too closed-minded. A lot of women are just very dumbed-down and they're closed-minded, just dumbed-down and closed-minded people. And I hate to say that about the opposite sex, but it's, it's true. It's true. They're closed-minded. They're very closed-minded. And some of these women claim [mimics] "Oh, I'm so open-minded, I'm so open-minded." You know, some of y'all know about the girl last July that I was talking to. She, she claimed that she, she, she was open-minded. You know, she claimed that she was open-minded. Well, if you was so open-minded, then why, why, why are you not going out on a date with me, then? Why, why, why are you, why you don't wanna go out on a date with me, then, if you're so, if you're so open-minded?
See, see, that's what I'm talking about. If you was so open-minded, you would give me a chance, you'll go out on a date with me, you'll, you, you know, you, you, you'll get a chance to know me a little bit. Hey! If you like me, cool. If you don't like me, then it is what it is. You know, if it didn't work out, if we're not compatible, fine. At least I'll respect the fact that you gave me a chance and that you were honest with me, you told me the truth. And I respected the fact that you was open-minded. And I'll feel better about myself. I'll feel a lot better about myself. But a lot of women are closed-minded, they don't even want to do that. They just, they just judge a man on how he looks. [And you, um...] I feel it's all about looks. Or the way he acts. But, um [long pause, stares at floor, shakes head] that's just very vindictive. That's just very evil and vindictive. You know, this, this guy, he's sweet to you, he's nice to you, he's caring, and you just treat him like crap. That's wrong. Treating, treating sweet people like crap. That's not f -- that's wrong. You know, playing mind, any, any, they may have your number, playing mind games. High school mind games. That's very childish. And immature. That's very childish and immature for a woman to do that, 'cause I really feel a real woman will be up forward [sic] and will be honest. A real woman would. A real woman will, will be up front and be honest. But most of these women, they don't wanna be up, up, up front and be honest. I mean, sad to say. Sad to say.
And it breaks my heart sometimes. That I get treated like crap for no reason by women. I mean, I get put down, I get made fun of, for no reason. All I wanted was to have a normal, civilized conversation. And I can't even get that sometimes. 'Cause they wanna be, act like immature little girls. They wanna act like immature little girls. [Pouting intensifies, shakes head for a long time] I just shake my head, man. But anyways, um, that's all I got to say to y'all. I'm outta here.
