Less offensive or less offended? - What would be better?

[The Lizard Queen]

What would make the world better?

-If people could control their emotions and avoid getting upset with every little thing. This way they would be less likely to take offense or be offended by what happens around them.

Or....

-If people were more in tune with the emotions of others. This would make people less likely to say or do anything offensive in the first place.

 

[Your Weird Fetish]

To be offended is to be weak but in modern culture you can use your weakness as a bludgeon to shame others because slave morality.

 

[Corbin Dallas Multipass]

People aren't offended when they say they're offended. Offensive is where you turn your eyes away because something's gross to look at. Offensive is when you have a real, visceral reaction.

Going "Haha you said a bad word now I get to tell on you" isn't offense.

Saying "All fucking white males should be killed" is offensive. I have a reaction to that.

So the problem isn't that people are actually more sensitive. People are way less sensitive in reality I think. The problem is there's a lot to be gained in pretending to be offended. That's what's gotta be fixed. Your offense is not virtue.

 

[Graffiti canvas]

I wouldn't want a world where everyone has to homogenize to the whims of transtrenders, femnazi's and people like DSP.

Imagine THAT being the common denominator that we all have to operate at.

 

[TaterBot]

Just because your're offended doesn't mean you're right.
Besides, talk is cheap. I have to actually care about your opinion to be offended. Getting offended at you validates you, means that I on some level buy into the importance of your mouthings. It's better to be amused.

 

[r00]

If people were more in tune with the emotions of others. This would make people less likely to say or do anything offensive in the first place.

Theres that, but i like to think that If people were more in tune with the intent and emotions of others, then people would be less likely to take offence at statements that clearly weren't meant to cause it.

 

[J A N D E K]

Less likely to get offended would be better. I swear these days people actively seek out any little thing to get righteously indignant about. Getting offended is something you choose. You have chosen to be insulted, or annoyed, instead of just laughing it off and walking away.

 

[Your Weird Fetish]

Less likely to get offended would be better. I swear these days people actively seek out any little thing to get righteously indignant about. Getting offended is something you choose. You have chosen to be insulted, or annoyed, instead of just laughing it off and walking away.

They choose it because it gives them power over you due to modern social expectations of redress.

 

[John Titor]

Be less autistic. It applies to both parties.

 

[*extremely mom voice*]

If you're impossible to offend, then congratulations, you care about nothing in this world. Of course "being a carelord" is a good way to get yelled at on the internet. So you have to strike some kind of balance.

It's not a question of people controlling their emotions. Being offended is a power move. Saying that the offended person is triggered and autistic misses the point, because their actual goal is to get under your skin and live rent free in your brain.

 

[Corbin Dallas Multipass]

You've got to separate offended from "offended".

See millions of people with giant fucking shit eating grins on their faces when a celeb gets in trouble for using the "N word". Sure, they bring in the perpetually angry black man to show how offended he is, but normal people are celebrating someone they don't like getting busted by the teacher for saying a bad word, essentially.

That's not real offense. If something is genuinely offensive you react like you would to opening your burger wrapper and finding a bunch of maggots. You know that feeling, maybe you actually feel it sometimes when people say "all white men should die" or something. Or when actual for real nazis state their dumbass beliefs.

Pretend offense is just social capital in a victim points based economy. That's what more people should be offended about.

 

[Your Weird Fetish]

If you're impossible to offend, then congratulations, you care about nothing in this world. Of course "being a carelord" is a good way to get yelled at on the internet.

lol cry more carelord

 

[*extremely mom voice*]

lol cry more carelord

bold of you to assume I put myself in the second category and not the first

 

[Burgers in the ass]

I want the world to be less offensive
Because everytime someone says the N word on this website i get beaten

 

[Hellbound Hellhound]

Generally, I think that the responsibility should fall upon individuals to be less easily offended, simply because the act of expressing offense is usually a means to prop up a public morality which seeks to deny people with unpopular opinions the ability to express themselves.

There are, however, certain instances where expressing yourself can act as an imposition upon other people. If you are a member of the KKK who is going around angrily harassing random members of the public on account of their race, for instance, then I think their right not to have to put up with that bullshit trumps your right to be a dick to those people.

 

[Pervious]

Being offended means someone has drawn attention to something about you you don't like; you're fat, you're weak you smell like a fucked ass ect. The fact is this is often the first step in realizing you have a problem or just how bad that problem is, and therefore is actually to your benefit because it's the first step in making yourself into a version of yourself you prefer. To me it all comes down to would you rather walk around a lesser version of yourself or a better version and is having hurt feelings for a short will worth it? Absolutely.

 

[BILLY MAYS]

We need to be more offended.

 

[Alberto Balsalm]

I think we as a society tend to ping-pong back and forth about whether we should be less offensive or less offended. Every 10-20 years or so, we have a cycle where some societal unrest spirals out into a political outrage mob, and then people get exhausted by that and fall back into being apathetic. Then some more unrest builds and it starts all over again. We saw it happen with the religious right a couple decades ago, and we're just now coming down from the height of the SJW movement.

This site is probably going to lean pretty far towards "stop being offended" regardless, but I think neither extreme is especially sustainable. If you're encouraged to take offense to everything, then everyone eventually starts faux-raging over so much trivial bullshit that it distracts from the real issues. If you're not allowed to take offense to anything, legitimate grievances are ignored and pushed underground. That's why it's a self-perpetuating cycle.

 

[queerape]

No one is a perfect mind reader, and you can’t easily guess all the time what may offend someone. Just trying to do that will result in everyone walking on eggshells all the time.

But what you can control is how you respond to something. You can understand intentions, and choose how hurt you really want to be. Offense is taken, not given.