Lookism.net - Sluthate's Even More Autistic Spinoff

[Baryon Jones]

I guess you could call it trying to fit in?

You either fit in or you don't, there is no try.

I only started obsessing about looks related things a year ago and it's got worse over time

That's an alarm bell it's pathological.

Not sure what you mean by this. I drag myself down a lot, but working like a demon at work is something I'm good at.

Okay, with this one I was probably off-mark. In my own working life I engineer myself out of the loop, and I don't get mentioned much.

 

[MACH-IV]

Okay, I'll answer this without being a dick since you are being quite civil, which is appreciated.


These are the points, really. As far as "attractiveness," the producers tend to pick out people that are considered attractive to the audience their show is aimed at. They don't read scripts, true, but producers prod the contestants into starting drama, they edit things to exaggerate personalities, and most of the "boring" stuff is edited out.

One of the funniest examples:

Start around 1:09 to skip stupid commentary.

 

[scar_face40]

Call them women, not females. It's a little thing but it really is quite noticeable. When you say "female" you're just referring to the sex/gender, like you would with any species of animal, but when you say "women" you're validating that it's humans you are talking about, and of the female variety. It's not a huge deal, but it's just something that I've noticed a lot of incels/redpillers etc have slipped into their language and that combined with some of the other anti-woman stuff can really send a strong message combined.

I guess if sex is what you're looking for, yeah, but the fact that men would fuck me doesn't necessarily fill me with joy or fulfilment, I want more than that. Plus, when you're doing a one time fling, the guy has a lot less incentive to make the sex good for you, so... in that regard, men definitely have the advantage.

I agree about the gender imbalance, they are pretty sausage fest-y, and lots of guys just blanket message every woman in the area which blocks out a lot of legitimate guys looking for a connection of sorts.

Sorry about the women and female discrepancy. I was trying to distinguish between my own sort of created definition for 'girls' (student age) and 'women' (more mature women?). I know that sounds really sketchy but I'm trying to keep students and more mature women separate.

It's strange. Some days, I would be happy being that hyper-attractive guy who goes around clubbing and having one-night stands with equally attractive girls, other days I feel like I just want someone close that adores me and I can do all sorts of activities with. Other days, when I'm feeling particular bitter or in a bad mood, I feel like I would be better living my whole life without the burden of relationships as it seems so much more simpler that way.

 

[AnOminous]

There are plenty of traditionally attractive people that are horrible on the inside, and that subsequently makes them seem far less attractive once their personality is known.

There are also plenty of sociopaths who are conventionally attractive (or even not) who manage to get laid all the time despite actually being terrible people. They may not be good in any sense, but they're willing to put in at least the minimal effort to play social games that are in their interest.

Most of these sluthate degenerates basically sound to me like failed sociopaths. They have all the malignant narcissism and utter lack of concerns for others and their rights, but not the ability to hide what vile creatures they are, so it is actually obvious they're creeps.

Of course, they'd rather blame their maxillae or other superficial bullshit for their failures.

 

[Baryon Jones]

Of course, they'd rather blame their maxillae or other superficial bullshit for their failures.

Beauty may be skin deep, but ugly goes right the way through.

 

[JU 199]

It's strange. Some days, I would be happy being that hyper-attractive guy who goes around clubbing and having one-night stands with equally attractive girls, other days I feel like I just want someone close that adores me and I can do all sorts of activities with. Other days, when I'm feeling particular bitter or in a bad mood, I feel like I would be better living my whole life without the burden of relationships as it seems so much more simpler that way.

You sound like a moody teenager. Take a break from looksim and let the passage of time mature you into less of an asshole.

Or ignore me. Whatever floats your boat.

 

[Baryon Jones]

You sound like a moody teenager. Take a break from looksim and let the passage of time mature you into less of an asshole.

Or ignore me. Whatever floats your boat.

Your whole post reminds me of this:

And that's awesome.

 

[Jashinist]

Sorry about the women and female discrepancy. I was trying to distinguish between my own sort of created definition for 'girls' (student age) and 'women' (more mature women?). I know that sounds really sketchy but I'm trying to keep students and more mature women separate.

It's strange. Some days, I would be happy being that hyper-attractive guy who goes around clubbing and having one-night stands with equally attractive girls, other days I feel like I just want someone close that adores me and I can do all sorts of activities with. Other days, when I'm feeling particular bitter or in a bad mood, I feel like I would be better living my whole life without the burden of relationships as it seems so much more simpler that way.

That makes sense, I understand the awkwardness of "girls" sounding too young and "woman" sounding too mature, growing up I had a strange time deciding when I "crossed over" into the latter. I mean, I'm still a student while being in my 20's so at this point you could argue for either.

The second thing, wanting someone close that adores you and you can do stuff with is honestly what most people want, regardless of appearances or club activities etc. Everyone wants validation and love and to be recognised as worthy of affection. That's completely normal. And I can understand the whole "you can't fire me, I quit" frustration from wanting it, but being ashamed of wanting it since no-one seems to want to give it to you, as such. That's all completely understandable, and it's good that you're processing your emotions so openly and are flicking between them to try and make sense of them.

All I can really say is that the whole clubbing/one-night-stand lifestyle is quite empty, and that's why you don't really see people building an entire life out of it. Eventually, most people do want to settle down into a reliable and steady relationship where they can build things like trust and love, which you can't during nightly flings.

 

[scar_face40]

You sound like a moody teenager. Take a break from looksim and let the passage of time mature you into less of an asshole.

Or ignore me. Whatever floats your boat.

I wish it was that simple...

 

[JU 199]

I wish it was that simple...

Why isn't it?

 

[scar_face40]

Why isn't it?

It's pretty much telling someone to 'just snap out of depression'. I've got to the point where I get home from work at 5:30, eat dinner, and spend the next 4 hours mindlessly refreshing lookism, reading scientific reports on aesthetics and researching surgery.

 

[Baryon Jones]

It's pretty much telling someone to 'just snap out of depression'. I've got to the point where I get home from work at 5:30, eat dinner, and spend the next 4 hours mindlessly refreshing lookism, reading scientific reports on aesthetics and researching surgery.

I completely agree about the 'just snap out of it' thing, but maintaining toxic habits isn't helping.

You seem aight, you could hang out here more than lookism...

 

[scar_face40]

I completely agree about the 'just snap out of it' thing, but maintaining toxic habits aren't helping.

You seem aight, you could hang out here more than lookism...

Yeah, I did think about it the last time I came over here to discuss stuff, but I don't think this forum could be as fulfilling as one on a subject that I'm pretty fanatical about.

 

[Baryon Jones]

Yeah, I did think about it the last time I came over here to discuss stuff, but I don't think this forum could be as fulfilling as one on a subject that I'm pretty fanatical about.

Get new topics? Obsessions are a dime a dozen.

Spoiler: power level

I avoid drinking myself into a coma every night by making WWII era model planes, for example.

 

[ON 190]

Yeah, I did think about it the last time I came over here to discuss stuff, but I don't think this forum could be as fulfilling as one on a subject that I'm pretty fanatical about.

You mentioned a counselor/therapist that you see. Do you bring this up with them? You seem to be aware that you don't like the situation of constantly refreshing the forum and feeling like you do. Talk to them about it. I'm not saying that you can't do what you want to do, but if it isn't fulfilling, you can change it.

 

[scar_face40]

Get new topics? Obsessions are a dime a dozen.
I avoid drinking myself into a coma every night by making WWII era model planes, for example.

I used to have loads of interests, like surfing, hiking, football, minature wargames, video games, but I've lost interest in the last half year or so.

You mentioned a counselor/therapist that you see. Do you bring this up with them? You seem to be aware that you don't like the situation of constantly refreshing the forum and feeling like you do. Talk to them about it. I'm not saying that you can't do what you want to do, but if it isn't fulfilling, you can change it.

I've got a bit of a dilemma here. I know I should be getting help, but the sessions are ridiculously expensive. Also, the cynic inside me can't see how chatting to someone for an hour a week is going to change my outlook.

One other thing, I've got a recessed lower jaw which makes me massively conscious of my side profile anywhere in public, which is probably where a lot of my appearance obsession stems from. I was aiming to have surgery at the end of the year, but it's horrible knowing that it'll use up all the money from my summer job...

 

[Rin]

I used to have loads of interests, like surfing, hiking, football, minature wargames, video games, but I've lost interest in the last half year or so.



I've got a bit of a dilemma here. I know I should be getting help, but the sessions are ridiculously expensive. Also, the cynic inside me can't see how chatting to someone for an hour a week is going to change my outlook.

One other thing, I've got a recessed lower jaw which makes me massively conscious of my side profile anywhere in public, which is probably where a lot of my appearance obsession stems from. I was aiming to have surgery at the end of the year, but it's horrible knowing that it'll use up all the money from my summer job...

You're in school, right? A lot of colleges have free psychological and counseling services for students. If you're obsessing over something and you feel like it's hurting you, you should go talk to one of them.

 

[Baryon Jones]

I used to have loads of interests, like surfing, hiking, football, minature wargames, video games, but I've lost interest in the last half year or so.

Totally symptomatic of depression. My point still stands though, the toxic activities don't help.

Spoiler: off-topic

What wargames?

I've got a bit of a dilemma here. I know I should be getting help, but the sessions are ridiculously expensive. Also, the cynic inside me can't see how chatting to someone for an hour a week is going to change my outlook.

Does your school/uni/college have a counselling service? Edit: @Nara'd

One other thing, I've got a recessed lower jaw which makes me massively conscious of my side profile anywhere in public, which is probably where a lot of my appearance obsession stems from. I was aiming to have surgery at the end of the year, but it's horrible knowing that it'll use up all the money from my summer job...

Without power-levelling too much, I can sympathise. But sometimes you just have to learn to ignore the parts of you that are talking shit.

 

[scar_face40]

What wargames?

Warhammer and 40k

Does your school/uni/college have a counselling service?

The Uni does, but I couldn't get to see anyone at all before the summer because it was full up.

Without power-levelling too much, I can sympathise. But sometimes you just have to learn to ignore the parts of you that are talking shit.

It hard when you completely legitimately have a defect though. I probably have body dysmorphic disorder anyway, but when can look at a cephalometric x-ray of your side profile and see clear jaw recession that's even more noticeable sans-diagram. it gets you down when you're skinny but have more submental (under jawline) fat than an obese person.

Spoiler

Awful quality photo, but how my jaw and neck should look

 

[Frank Rizzo]

Oh, hey, my buddy scarface is back.

Looking to have a "TOTES INTELLIGENT DISCUSSION" this time?