Lost in life

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funkybitch

funkybitch

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Hello guys.

Went through a rough patch in life just recently (lost all my friends, broke up with gf, kicked out of house and told to kms by my own mother) and that left me without any motivation to continue my life as "normal" as before.

No real plans and I need some tips or any kind words that will set me back on path...

One thing I was thinking about to try kickstarting my life back was a cycle of steroids. I think it's 50/50, maybe I'll get back to senses on roids, or maybe I die. So it's a win win after all...

Thank you guys, and no this is no troll...wish it was
 
Try the Word of God. It bears so much more power when you are down on your luck, trust me. You can watch or listen to people instead of reading, if that suits you (but reading a little bit still helps).

I personally was convinced when I heard the truth concerning modern times from Stone Choir. Thei're a very long listen, but they are lawyer-like accurate on all the issues presented, and provide vauable guidance. https://stone-choir.com/

Some of the youtube channels provide much more compact and easier to understand material (but it will still take aa bit of time to get into). https://www.youtube.com/@TestifyApologetics/videos

Honestly, just try whatever way you prefer best, but try it, even if sometimes it seems to be tedious. Like forcing yourself to take the medicine, it will surely start to feel much better after a while. You can try to listen to it while doing work or walking somewhere, it worked for me when I was tired and stressed.

And try to talk to church-goers more. True and honest believers can be the nicest people you can get to know. They can even offer you help in real life.
 
Take on a trades apprenticeship, join a religious organization, and join your local chapter of the Freemasons, in that order. Make building your community, both figuratively and literally, your life's mission. This is how you unfuck your life and your corner of the world.
 
ConanTheVintarian said:
Try the Word of God. It bears so much more power when you are down on your luck, trust me. You can watch or listen to people instead of reading, if that suits you (but reading a little bit still helps).

I personally was convinced when I heard the truth concerning modern times from Stone Choir. Thei're a very long listen, but they are lawyer-like accurate on all the issues presented, and provide vauable guidance. https://stone-choir.com/

Some of the youtube channels provide much more compact and easier to understand material (but it will still take aa bit of time to get into). https://www.youtube.com/@TestifyApologetics/videos

Honestly, just try whatever way you prefer best, but try it, even if sometimes it seems to be tedious. Like forcing yourself to take the medicine, it will surely start to feel much better after a while. You can try to listen to it while doing work or walking somewhere, it worked for me when I was tired and stressed.

And try to talk to church-goers more. True and honest believers can be the nicest people you can get to know. They can even offer you help in real life.
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Ed Special said:
Take on a trades apprenticeship, join a religious organization, and join your local chapter of the Freemasons, in that order. Make building your community, both figuratively and literally, your life's mission. This is how you unfuck your life and your corner of the world.
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I appreciate the advice, but it's hard for me to turn to "god" since I'm pretty much a stubborn atheist. Can't seem to fool myself to pray to something I don't believe in..
 
Nicholas Gur said:
So will getting jacked on roids reverse all of those losses? I'm not seeing the strategy here.
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It's not about reversing the losses, it's more about moving past them. I'm hoping I get some kind of push from it, some confidence, hope, motivation. I'm not really sure what I need to do as I said I'm so lost. First time in life experiencing actual depression so it's pretty crazy for me how much that fucked me up and made me feel like I'm literally cemented and stuck.
 
I would avoid fucking your body up with roids. Sometimes listening to calming music helps me, and writing down how I feel in a journal helps a lot.
 
Over my lifetime, my mother has went from hating me to only not liking me. In a perfect world, mothers love their children unconditionally. All people like you and I can do is accept our mothers as broken people and know that being a mother doesn’t immediately make you right, nor good.

Giving up means you also give up any chance that things will get better. I promise, if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other and trying to do the right thing, things will get better.

I don’t know how to help you, or anyone, fix what is broken. Only you can do that.

But consider this as a chance to reinvent yourself. You could move somewhere nobody knows you and be the person you’ve always wanted to be.

Consider that sometimes, being alone, solitude of mind and being forced to find yourself away from those that held you back, is a blessing.
 
Kalamazoo 2 Timbuktu said:
Over my lifetime, my mother has went from hating me to only not liking me. In a perfect world, mothers love their children unconditionally. All people like you and I can do is accept our mothers as broken people and know that being a mother doesn’t immediately make you right, nor good.

Giving up means you also give up any chance that things will get better. I promise, if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other and trying to do the right thing, things will get better.

I don’t know how to help you, or anyone, fix what is broken. Only you can do that.

But consider this as a chance to reinvent yourself. You could move somewhere nobody knows you and be the person you’ve always wanted to be.

Consider that sometimes, being alone, solitude of mind and being forced to find yourself away from those that held you back, is a blessing.
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Thank you for the kind message. Made me tear up like a little bitch.
I'm not giving up, atleast not for now.
Might be retarded to ask for help on kiwi farms but I'm trying to make a somewhat plan to plow through those hard times.
 
re-dedicating yourself to physical fitness does wonders to help refocus the mind, but I wouldn't add steroids into the mix. If you've got a lot of negative emotions swirling around in that brain of yours, adding something known to increase aggression is going to have the opposite of the intended effect.

My suggestion? If your friends aren't truly lost, make amends. See if you can find someone you still trust to act as a sounding board and reflect on what your part was in your discord with them, and apologize for it. If not, find a new community-focused hobby to join. Find a way to be of service to others around you. You'd be amazed how much helping others (within reason, you don't have to become a doormat, just help people if it's not a huge inconvenience) boosts your own self-esteem and encourages making more friends/loved ones.

But yeah, nursing an emotional wound and taking it out on the iron instead is a recipe for bitterness and depression.
 
It's hard to provide help if you don't tell us what's going wrong. You're talking about the consequences rather than the causes. For example, I'm sorry that your brother told you to kys and that you broke up with your gf but those are just the consequences of certain actions. What were the causes? Maybe these people are evil and cutting them out is a good thing, but it could be the other way around that you have done some bad things (drugs, violence, cheating) and they cut you off because you were the problem.

If they are the problem, then it's easy, this an opportunity for you to get a fresh start.
If you are the problem, then you need to reflect on your own behavior, walk on a straight path, if you can do that, and you make amend, people will eventually forgive you. If they don't, then who cares, you got your shit together now and don't need them.

Roids are a bad idea - sounds like you need to get your life under control. Be honest, stay sober, and focus on improving your life. You'd be surprised how much easier things get once you renounce your vices.
 
funkybitch said:
One thing I was thinking about to try kickstarting my life back was a cycle of steroids. I think it's 50/50, maybe I'll get back to senses on roids, or maybe I die. So it's a win win after all...
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Been there done that. It will be most likely a waste of time/health. You will get amazing gains during cycle, but it will stop (or even reverse) post cycle. Making it much easier to just drop lifting afterwards or go on cruising on steroids.
And it's not even that I am against roids, it's just a not that good decision to start with them.
 
Internet-Based Lobotomy said:
Uhh why? Genuinely. What's the goal here? You're going through a rough patch so the best idea is to take exogenous hormones?
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If I had to guess, it's body image problems, so his solution's to fuck his body up and permanently damage his heart with 'roids, same as every Aidenfrog in The Pooner Zoo. Of course, like every Aidenfrog in The Pooner Zoo, it won't fix his self-image because it does nothing to address the underlying trauma, but it WILL aggravate any mood disorders he's got going on and/or create new mood disorders, making it harder for him to claw out of his hole.
 
funkybitch said:
Thank you for the kind message. Made me tear up like a little bitch.
I'm not giving up, atleast not for now.
Might be retarded to ask for help on kiwi farms but I'm trying to make a somewhat plan to plow through those hard times.
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That is the only thing we can do. We either survive, or we lay down and die. If all you can do today is promise that you’re going to keep trucking today, that’s good enough. Then, Wake up tomorrow and promise yourself the same thing and keep doing that everyday, one day at a time.

Things will not always be easy and sometimes it seems so much easier to give up. Be strong and keep going, no matter what. “Dying is the easy part, it’s the living that’s hard”

You are not alone. I don’t know you but my heart hurts for you and I will think of you and keep you in my prayers. If you need someone to talk to or any other help, please feel free to dm me. ❤️
 
Friends did you a favor if you "lost" them, ain't real friends. Girlfriend doesn't matter, breakups happen. Your mom is a piece of shit, so nothing lost there either. Seems you just cleaned your slate. You're fine.
 
"Hey Farmers, I'm shit out of luck
My family?: They don't give a fuck
I'll die or do drugs
(God, I need some hugs)
Or maybe I'll become a cuck!

I'll ruin my life like a man!
Burn it down as fast as I can
Bros its so jover
That I can't start over
I've a note as well as a plan"
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Figure out why your family hates you and work on that till you've fixed those issues.
 
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