What happens is, men, knowing that most women are fucked up in a malevolent way, start to think to themselves, hey, they can’t ALL be like that. This is true. There is a certain (extremely small) percentage of westernized women who aren’t like this. So, the man, being more clued in than most men, starts to think to himself, "Well, all I gotta do is figure which women are like this and only go after them." Or, they think, "Well, all I need to do is change my behavior so that only nice, normal women, develop relationships with me." ALOT of us have been there, including myself, more than once, mind you.