It's a complicated story. She didn't become scared of me until over an year after she no longer wanted to be with me. Unfortunately, she became scared of me after she started seeing me as unattractive. What he had didn't end because she was scared but other reasons.
She became scared of you after she started seeing you as unattractive... but you being violent and abusive only scared her more and didn't make her come running back to you... makes sense, makes sense.
because i am not a modern western woman.
Aaaaand you lost me. Yup.
Seriously, if you don't like getting punched, kicked, beaten, ect, no one else does either.
Have you EVER heard of the golden rule? Do onto others as you would like to be treated? Seriously, these other girls that you claim like being abused obviously said that because you were abusive and argumentative and the scenario was probably like:
Girl: I'm breaking up with you!
Holden: Why babe why? I do all the things!! I talk down to you. I tell you how women aren't really people. I treat you like a child. I tell you where to shop and what to eat and what to wear BECAUSE I'M A GENTLEMAN! I'm trying to help you out!
Girl: Cuz I like being fucking abused... That's why I'm leaving!
See? In that scenario, she's being sarcastic. I know your pee-brain (and yes, pee, not pea) can't pick up sarcasm, but that's what it was. No woman actually likes being abused. And if the scenario was different than this, I really would like a play-by-play no summary transcript of what went down. Because obviously what you think went down, isn't how it went down. Getting this story from your perspective is like the worst game of telephone ever.