Ah, I see. In that case, they are just virgins. That's the only name they need. It could even be something like "involuntarily a virgin". For a lot of people, incel doesn't exist because of what it literally means "to be involuntarily voluntarily without relationship/sex". I offered other words to try and combat that; but you did not like them. For many, incel means a person who feels entitled to sex and is angry when they aren't getting any. These individuals are often viewed to be blaming others for why they aren't getting any sex. The reasoning for this is simple. By saying you are "against your own will or actions" without a partner, you are putting the blame on the partner for your problems. It is not someone else's fault that they do not find you attractive as a partner. It is what it is.
For example, I openly admit that I am not in a relationship, and haven't been in one for at least a year. I have also not had sex in that long and probably a little bit longer as my last relationship did not end with sex. I would consider myself on a hiatus (if I had to give myself a word to use). Sure, I am looking for a new partner, but I realize that my lifestyle does not fit a lot of people's lifestyles and so I know that I alone am to blame for why I am not in a relationship.
You, on the other hand, have only blamed other people for why you do not get sex or a relationship. The closest you've gotten to self-blame is something like "It's because I am not a rape-ape like other men!" or "Women want rape-apes, and that's why they aren't with me". This is not self-blame. This is not accepting the faults for why you are not with a woman, this putting the faults/blame on others.
Saying you are "incel" instantly puts people off because it implies that you feel entitled to sex. And if you do not feel entitled to sex, using a word that isn't incel would benefit you.