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Men Are Setting ‘Gold Digger Tests’ on Dates, and Women Are Over It​

Some men are going to increasingly bizarre lengths to figure out if a woman is dating them for money—and women are calling it out as manipulative, disrespectful, and straight-up weird.

One Reddit user shared her recent experience on the subreddit r/AITA (now deleted), where she explained how a seemingly normal first date took a sharp turn into “you’ve got to be kidding me” territory. The 29-year-old woman went out with a man introduced to her by a mutual friend. Everything felt pretty standard—until the check came. That’s when things got strange.

He handed her the bill and asked her to pay it, despite the date totaling over $100. She didn’t mind splitting, she said and was prepared to pay her share. But this wasn’t about money. It was a setup. “Right after I paid, he got this huge grin on his face and said, ‘Congratulations, you passed the test! You’re not a gold digger,’” she wrote.

The woman called him out, saying, “I’m not your ex, and you have no right to treat me like I’m guilty until proven innocent.” She added, “You’re not some prize that I need to pass tests for.”

Commenters on the thread didn’t hold back. “It absolutely WAS a test—to see how far he could disrespect you,” one user wrote. Another chimed in, “He’s not actually offering much else. At least, not a pleasant character.”

And this kind of behavior isn’t isolated. In a separate AITA post, another woman described going on a date with a man who claimed to be a carpenter. He later admitted it was a lie—he had fabricated the low-paying job to “test” her reaction. “He just wanted to test me,” she wrote.

Reddit didn’t take kindly to that one, either. “So not only is he dishonest and can’t communicate, he’s classist,” one commenter said. Another added, “His ‘test’ gave away his character flaw. He showed you that he’s a snob.”

And honestly? He’s an idiot—because trades like carpentry can actually be super lucrative, especially if you’re good and run your own business.

Some called out the obvious red flag: “I’d like to start this potential relationship by lying to you” isn’t exactly a great opening move.

Whether it’s fake job titles or surprise check handoffs, women are pointing out the pattern. These “tests” aren’t clever—they’re projections. And if your date is making you prove you’re not a gold digger before the appetizers are cleared, they’re probably the one bringing baggage to the table.

 

[Absurdist Laughter]

Even if you’re dirt poor, you still benefit from rewards points. You’re an idiot if you DON’T use a credit card and it’s impossible to tell if someone pays their bill on time or not by looking at the card they’re using.

Credit cards give you 30 days to pay off without accruing debt. You have to realize Dave Ramsey is a faggot.

You do realize that rewards points/cash back can be used on the statement balance, therefore giving you a discount for using a card over paying cash?


Now if they pull out a chime or greendot card, run. If they’re not a nigger they’re a tweaker.

It's just not worth it because of temptation. It's too easy of a slick slope for me and would rather use my CC to finance large purchases like appliances, etc. not a meal at McDonalds or Chiles. Oh well for me one of my red flags isn't yours, good thing it is a small portion of my judgement.

Edit:
Also also, Fuck credit card companies.

 

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It's just not worth it because of temptation. It's too easy of a slick slope for me and would rather use my CC to finance large purchases like appliances, etc. not a meal at McDonalds or Chiles. Oh well for me one of my red flags isn't yours, good thing it is a small portion of my judgement.

Edit:
Also also, Fuck credit card companies.

Unless you’re getting a zero percent finance offer on your appliances/whatever, you’re getting hosed by interest by putting it on a credit card. If you’re not getting that or rewards back, there is no point to using a credit card(other than allowing your statement balance to build up maximizing the daily compounding interest in your money market account and then paying your regular expenses on the statement date instead of debiting them direct from a checking account at time of purchase.) Buy your laundry detergent on Amazon? 5% cash back(aka discount) on something you were buying anyway with their card. Buying gasoline? 2-3% discount for using most rewards credit cards through cashback. Groceries? Same deal.


And that’s not to mention additional benefits like being much more protected in the event someone skimmed your card or photographed the numbers, much greater ease in being able to dispute payment for goods and services of insufficient quality, and that in the event should someone commit fraud with your account, it isn’t your money that has been taken, out of the account, but a debt made falsely in your name. That may seem like a meaningless distinction, but that buffer can be the difference between an hour phone call with your credit card company, versus having to beg your landlord/bank to give you an extension on rent/mortgage after some Indian gets sold your debit card number from a skimmer.


And also, the documentation that they provide you states in bolded text the interest rates that the credit card will vary between, at an annualized rate. I’m sorry, but if you see 24.99% apr and that doesn’t scare you into paying by statement date, then you’re just bad with money.