saralovesjuicyfruit
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- Jan 8, 2019
Sorry to necro this, but I'm back on this site for the first time in ages, looking over this thread that I once posted in years ago because I'm unfortunately now dealing with these kind of people in a very direct way. I'm replying to your post because I am going through something similar with my fiance's family, well, really mostly just the women. They are obsessed with taking supplements, doing 'parasite cleanses' (they believe we are all filled with parasites, though I've never heard them say which parasites in particular they think we all have. Ironically, the first time I heard his mother and sisters say this was during a visit to their house when I had discovered they had a low-level flea infestation in the house that they somehow hadn't noticed for weeks; apparently they think we are filled with mystery parasites that you need to buy expensive tablets to cleanse out, but they were oblivious to the very real parasites all around them), and a bunch of other goofy shit. According to my fiance, this is a relatively recent obsession for them, because COVID lockdowns suddenly made them 'woke' but apparently only in the most retarded ways possible. Basically, not being able to go to Disney six times a year made them insane (yes, they're Disney-obsessed too, and they love wearing t-shirts and displaying home decor with words/slogans on it, especially Christianity-related ones -- the stereotype of this kind of person exists for a reason).
It may well be a relatively new obsession, but unfortunately for all of us these were some of my very first impressions of these people. I've been polite and tolerant, and I can empathize with some of it as I do take a few basic supplements myself, but a line was really crossed when recently my fiance was diagnosed with classical Hodgkin's lymphoma. This is a very basic not-scary cancer, it's well understood and actually quite curable. It's really about as much (or less!) of a big deal as being diagnosed with type II diabetes, as long as you follow proper medical advice. The chemo isn't even hardcore, it's once every 2 weeks, the symptoms are mild, no need for radiation, there's even like a 75% chance he won't even lose his hair with this particular combo of drugs. The family's response was ridiculous. They were trying to talk him out of doing the chemo, telling him to try taking hydrogen peroxide either instead of the chemo or in addition to the chemo, telling him to take cayenne pepper capsules, one of the sisters sent a bunch of woo crap from the Young Living MLM (which I later found out she actually sells, in addition to being involved with a travel MLM). It really pissed me off, but I'm trying to be patient, because I know this response is a reflection of a deeper issue these people have with an excessive need to feel a sense of power and control, and an unwillingness to accept that sometimes things happen in life that you just cannot control. One of his sisters even suggested to him doing a vegan no-sugar no-alcohol diet, even though my fiance has never so much as had a sip of wine in his entire life, never had a vice of any kind, and actually rarely ate meat anyway. His only risk factors for this disease were being a male in his 20s or 30s. The rest was just bad luck. It also points to a 'shadow belief' these people seem to have that people who become ill must have 'deserved' it for some reason; they must have done something wrong. I think they are having a hard time accepting that there was no obscure supplement or essential oil he could have used to stop this from happening.
Funnily enough, now that he's moved forward with getting the chemo, they seem to have pivoted into the self-given role of "relatives of cancer warrior", and are laying it on thick with sending cringey cancer-themed gifts and virtue signaling. He's doing fine, better than he's been in months, because now that he has a diagnosis and is getting proper treatment his body isn't so inexplicably taxed, but these same family members actually really seem to want him to be doing badly. One of his sisters even proposed that he and I might need to move back into his childhood home (we live 3 hours away and have our own shit going on) and that I could 'commute' back to our place every few days to feed, water, and clean up after our cats, and just go on like that for months. Completely self-absorbed thinking. There is definitely a certain personality type drawn to MLMs.
