My son's final words were 'dad did this and he did it on purpose' - Claire Throssell is calling for a review of the family justice system in the wake of a new Women's Aid report

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Claire Throsell with sons Paul (left) and Jack (right) (Image: Supplied)

A mother whose two sons were tragically killed by their violent father during a visit authorised by the courts is campaigning for a shift away from the "pro-contact" mentality within the legal system.

Claire Throssell is urging Prime Minister Keir Starmer to overhaul the family justice system following a chilling Women's Aid report that shows that since her children's deaths, 19 more youngsters in England and Wales have been killed by a parent or guardian known for domestic abuse, despite them being granted access rights.

The Nineteen More Child Homicides study says the victims ranged from a three-week-old infant to an 11-year-old child, with all but one of the perpetrators being male and 15 of the murders committed by the children's fathers.

In a heart-wrenching incident back in October, 2014, Claire's own children, Jack, aged 12, and Paul, aged nine, were callously killed by their father Darren Sykes, who enticed them into the attic with the promise of a new train set before setting the house ablaze.

Claire, 53, from Penistone, South Yorkshire, has expressed her despair at the government's inaction, saying: "The government hasn't learnt anything since my sons were murdered. Children are dying and they are doing nothing to stop it."

Women's Aid is now collaborating with Claire to demand the government urgently reassess the family justice system, accusing the courts of continuing to fail in safeguarding children.

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Claire lost her two sons Jack, 12, and Paul, 9, when her ex-partner Darren Sykes lured his children to their deaths (Image: MDM)

According to the charity, which monitors such tragic incidents, over the past three decades, 67 children have lost their lives to individuals with a history of domestic violence.

Before her sons were tragically killed by their father, Claire had alerted Cafcass (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) and social services about the danger her ex-husband posed to their children.

She said: "In my court application I clearly stated he was capable of killing Jack and Paul. He had been repeatedly violent towards me and abusive to the boys.

"Even in the Family Court he was shouting at me and couldn't contain his temper, but still the judge gave him access to my beautiful sons, and now they are dead.

"I knew the boys weren't safe with him and the hardest part is Jack and Paul knew that too. They didn't like going to visit their dad. They knew how angry he could get and would beg me not to make them go, but there was a court order in place stating they had to see their dad twice a week."

It was during one of these access visits on October 22, 2014, that Claire's ex-husband intentionally set fire to the house, after cancelling the building and contents insurance. He also died in the fire.

Claire said: "The last words Jack said, as the firefighters desperately tried to rescue him, was 'my dad did this and he did it on purpose'."

Paul died on the same night, along with his father. Jack bravely battled for his life for another five days, before succumbing to his severe burn injuries and related medical complications.

The devastating loss has made Claire resolute in her campaign for changes in family law.

Determined to eradicate domestic violence, she is waiting for a reply to her meeting request with Justice Secretary Shabana Mahmood. She said: "The pro-contact culture means dangerous and violent individuals are being given access to children. There is a systematic problem in family courts that needs addressing.

"How many more children have to be killed before the government stands up and listens?" After losing her sons, Claire resolved to do her part to prevent further tragedies, saying: "I vowed after my sons died that I would do everything I could to stop another child being killed at the hands of an abusive parent, but I am fighting one government after another, who aren't listening."

Claire initiated a petition against presumed contact for the Child First campaign in 2016. Surpassing 100,000 supporters, it sparked parliamentary debate.

She added: "I can never bring my sons back, but I won't stop campaigning until the government stands up and does something meaningful to protect children."

In January, Labour MP Marie Tidball championed a call to abolish the presumption of parental contact in family courts.

Claire has penned a book titled 'For My Boys', set for release in October, and said: "I will not let Jack and Paul's deaths be in vain. There isn't a single minute of a single day when I don't think about my sons. Jack should now be 23 and Paul 20."

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For My Boys by Claire Throssell will be published by Mirror Books on October 9 (Image: Supplied)

She added: "Their lives were cruelly taken far too early, and I was robbed of the memories and lives we should have shared together.

"I implore Keir Starmer to think about this and prevent another parent going through the devastating pain and heartache I am forced to endure every second of my waking life.

"Does the Labour government want its legacy to be that of one who ignored the safety of children or one that did something to save lives?

"No-one should suffer the pain that constantly rips me apart and no child should be put at risk of a terrifying and painful death."

Farar Nazeer, CEO of Women's Aid, added: "It is clear that within the family court system there remains inequality, injustice, fear and oppression.

"All too often perpetrators are shielded by a system that does not prioritise the safety of adult and child survivors.

"There also remains a disproportionate regard for the rights of the perpetrator in the family court system, often at the expense of the rights of the child."

A UK government spokesperson said: "This was a horrendous crime and our thoughts are with Claire Throssell and her family.

"While judges already have the power to restrict parental involvement in a child's life, we are reviewing the presumption of parental involvement and will publish the findings and next steps shortly."

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In a heart-wrenching incident back in October, 2014, Claire's own children, Jack, aged 12, and Paul, aged nine, were callously killed by their father Darren Sykes, who enticed them into the attic with the promise of a new train set before setting the house ablaze.
Claire Throssell is urging Prime Minister Keir Starmer to overhaul the family justice system following a chilling Women's Aid report that shows that since her children's deaths, 19 more youngsters in England and Wales have been killed by a parent or guardian known for domestic abuse, despite them being granted access rights.
So a total 21 kids over an 11 year period is why they want to completely destroy what few rights fathers still have in the courts. Tragic sure, but statistically insignificant compared to the millions of court authorized visits between a father and his children every year.

If the UK was sane I would say dealing with the millions of mudskins raping and pillaging your country is a higher priority, but since the UK is not sane they will likely use this to further fuck over British men while still not addressing the giant elephant killing everyone in the room.
 
"Even in the Family Court he was shouting at me and couldn't contain his temper, but still the judge gave him access to my beautiful sons, and now they are dead.

"I knew the boys weren't safe with him and the hardest part is Jack and Paul knew that too. They didn't like going to visit their dad. They knew how angry he could get and would beg me not to make them go, but there was a court order in place stating they had to see their dad twice a week."
I remember this awful story. Everyone knew this man was dangerous, he hated his ex and he hated his kids. He had a long history of domestic violence. And they still made the kids go to him. Might as well have sent them into a burning building, which ironically is almost what happened in the end.

So a total 21 kids over an 11 year period is why they want to completely destroy what few rights fathers still have in the courts.
They're talking about parents with a history of domestic abuse. It has nothing to do with fathers in general, other than the fact that most parents who end up killing their children in this situation are fathers.
 
They're talking about parents with a history of domestic abuse. It has nothing to do with fathers in general, other than the fact that most parents who end up killing their children in this situation are fathers.
If the surface level understanding on what they are trying to do was followed to the word, then I would have no issue. However, women are outright encouraged by their own lawyers and even the FUCKING JUDGES to falsely claim they are being "domestically abused" in order to get preferential treatment during the divorce case. They are believed without any real evidence by default in most cases and the father is fucked over for the rest of the case.

The reality is that a WHOLE LOT MORE fathers who didn't actually commit domestic abuse, but have ex's who claim they did will be caught in the crossfire and fucked out of being able to see their own children.
 
So a total 21 kids over an 11 year period is why they want to completely destroy what few rights fathers still have in the courts. Tragic sure, but statistically insignificant compared to the millions of court authorized visits between a father and his children every year.

If the UK was sane I would say dealing with the millions of mudskins raping and pillaging your country is a higher priority, but since the UK is not sane they will likely use this to further fuck over British men while still not addressing the giant elephant killing everyone in the room.
The two really aren't the same.

Yes, I support Fathers 4 Justice and I favour the traditional 'nuclear family' model, but when a Father or Mother is abusive then their rights should be curtailed until they either improve their behaviour or are removed from the picture completely.

You are right that HM Courts are wank though.
 
The two really aren't the same.

Yes, I support Fathers 4 Justice and I favour the traditional 'nuclear family' model, but when a Father or Mother is abusive then their rights should be curtailed until they either improve their behaviour or are removed from the picture completely.

You are right that HM Courts are wank though.
If the courts worked as intended and were fair I would be in complete support. However because they don't and aren't I can't support such measures.

The courts need to fixed first before we can address this topic.
 
The emphasis should always be on the welfare of the children first. If one parent is violent, a threat to them or has abused them, they should not be having unsupervised access.

They still haven't found that homeless guy that killed his three daughters. I think he committed suicide and they still haven't found the body. He could also be camping out in the woods. But I think he's dead. I'm just wondering why he was given unsupervised access to his children when he had no place to stay other than campgrounds and hotels. Wouldn't you wonder "Are my kids sleeping in a car instead of a clean bed?"

Some of these judges are insane. If someone is violent or unstable they don't need access to their kids. Children also shouldn't be forced to visit parents they are clearly afraid of. In the case of these boys, it's obvious. The courts killed these children by forcing them to visit their violent father.
 
The reality is that a WHOLE LOT MORE fathers who didn't actually commit domestic abuse, but have ex's who claim they did will be caught in the crossfire and fucked out of being able to see their own children.
Not all psycho killers! ✊
Come on man, the guy in OP should never have had any legal standing to have visitation rights in the first place, being a clear spiritual negro and not being sanctioned for it in time is the real loophole here not "muh rights" (of which there are plenty when they are actually contested).
 
The reality is that a WHOLE LOT MORE fathers who didn't actually commit domestic abuse, but have ex's who claim they did will be caught in the crossfire and fucked out of being able to see their own children.
I believe reform is possible without that happening. Because in cases that end this badly, it is usually piss easy to see that dad or mom is abusive. The dude in the OP was violent, he raged at everyone, his kids told people he beat them, he couldn't even keep it together for court meetings. When children express to the court that they are afraid of a parent that should always be taken seriously and they should not be forced to be with them.

It's judges and the system who are failing here, and the only way they will change is when they are bound by new rules, because they clearly won't change out of any humanistic consideration.
 
Love how several obviously MALE Kiwis come here not to say condolences to the innocent children who lost their lives and give respects to the mother who fought for them, but bitch and moan about the mothers in their land of make believe that are totes gonna abuse the system to get back at their ex-wives and mothers of their children. The article even lists the statistics, it is heavily weighed towards men and fathers committing violence, heavily. But nah, let's rip on the women and child victims in these cases, not the piece of shit fathers who abuse and murder them. Anyways, to anyone who decided to come here and bitch about how women are potentially abuse the system to protect their children, go do the world a favor and neck yourselves.
 
Oh good, a Men Bad Brigade thread. I'm sure lots of constructive conversation will be had and it won't just end up being one idiot shaking the cage over and over and getting approximately 6-10 sneedrates from the same group of pathetic losers who will all, without warning, simultaneously fuck off back to another part of the site for one week before they get bored and need attention again, but their shining cluster B personalities demand said attention be negative so they come here and do the exact same thing every week forever, getting more bitter and angry each time.

You know, hypothetically.
 
Love how several obviously MALE Kiwis come here not to say condolences to the innocent children who lost their lives and give respects to the mother who fought for them, but bitch and moan about the mothers in their land of make believe that are totes gonna abuse the system to get back at their ex-wives and mothers of their children. The article even lists the statistics, it is heavily weighed towards men and fathers committing violence, heavily. But nah, let's rip on the women and child victims in these cases, not the piece of shit fathers who abuse and murder them. Anyways, to anyone who decided to come here and bitch about how women are potentially abuse the system to protect their children, go do the world a favor and neck yourselves.
it's the main reason why i usually stay away from a&n. i know the kinds of articles i will see, i know the responses i will see. its the other end of the horseshoe from what you see on other social media websites. horrible, horrible situation, those poor kids and the mother. i really wish it wasn't so horrifyingly common.
 
They're talking about parents with a history of domestic abuse. It has nothing to do with fathers in general, other than the fact that most parents who end up killing their children in this situation are fathers.

Ok but you do realize this is the People's Caliphate of Yookay right?

The place whose justice is so fucking shit they let pedos walk for having "only a small amount of CSAM material" but arrest people for calling pakis pakis?

Where the government forced people who worked for the post office to use bugged software that kept misreporting the finances and then accusing them of fraud, destroying their lives for decades before they admitted that the software was the one fucking the finances?

The place where they are still in denial about grooming gangs a full decade after their existence hit the mainstream?

Do you honestly think that country has the competence to deal with such a delicate matter as domestic violence?
 
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