Am I wrong to consider leaving my husband?
Hello, I am not sure I'll get replies, but I'm [writing it] anyway. I'm a 23-year-old woman married to my husband for almost 4 years. For context, we've been together 8 years. We met a long time ago but, the majority of it, we were just friends. We married in 2019, I was 19 years old, then we had our first child and 2 years later our second child. I neither regret my marriage nor my kids, but only the turmoil that happened.
I manage the budget, the kids, the household, the relationship with in-laws. I also work a full time job. My husband is a big gamer, he spends literally 90% of his time gaming, the other 10% being when he sleeps. In 5 years of being together, he has only worked one year combined. I've always handled the financial weight of our household. After getting home from work, I can say that he hasn't taken care of the apartment, all he's done is played games. My eldest daughter is in front of the TV. Neither of them are clean, generally the young one spends the day in the hammock.
He spends time in his office, and doesn't check on the kids and can't hear them because of his headphones. They haven't eaten at noon, and the only thing they have to eat is cake. In the evening, he doesn't bathe the kids because "we bathed them yesterday, they're clean." He gives coca-cola to the eldest child, which I am opposed to as she's three years old. He gives her everything* and isn't concerned or worried about the kids. He plays with them from time to time, but spends the rest of his day gaming. He thinks I'm the problem because I criticize his education. I mean to specify that I told him to take a job 6 weeks postpartum. I didn't end my maternity leave. During my pregnancy, I had to quit my job, my husband wasn't working, we have financial difficulties and returned to at my parents' with our two daughters. While I was working, my parents took care of the kids because my husband was too busy gaming. I struggled to find an apartment, I bought him a car so he could work, I fought for everything. Unfortunately, according to him, I haven't done enough. He would like me to do more. I have a difficult choice to make. I love him, but I'm unhappy and exhausted by the situation. I sincerely consider leaving him, I don't know if I've clearly expressed what I live through so that you guys can give me advice, I'm totally lost.
* As in, he cedes or is unwilling to say "no" to the child. Doesn't have a good direct English translation.
