I'm becoming blackpilled the longer we spend in marriage counselling. It's like.... Before, I could put a lot of things down to ignorance. Like, "no he just doesn't know how dickish that behaviour is, gotta let that one just roll off me". Now, we spend ninety minutes a week with him explaining at length to the therapist that he knows these behaviours are cuntish, but he has Reasons and they are Justified because it makes him feel more secure and more emotionally stable. And yeah, he knows the effect these behaviours have on me but ehhhh gotta do what he needs.
I sit there thinking, it was better when I thought you were just a stupid bastard. Finding out it was all quite deliberate is really making me have feelings that I didn't want to have.
I'm not sure whether the endgame of the therapist is to have me accept that I have to live with some real cuntish antics because he's emotionally fragile, or.... I don't know, get pissed off and call time? I have no idea where we are going with this. I don't feel we are working towards a goal. I do not appreciate sitting for ninety minutes a week hearing about how the world revolves around his feelings and I'm an NPC in my own life. He has individual sessions for that.
I don't think I should be coming away from marriage therapy feeling like this. I don't come away from individual therapy feeling like this. Sometimes I feel punch drunk, but I feel like we're getting somewhere. Even if I have to walk into Mordor to get there, there is a goal.
Have you put this to the therapist in a session? And how does therapist respond to your husband's "reasons"?
Never should any woman ever consider optics from the fucking redpill manosphere when protecting themselves,
Putting aside the stuff before after this part of your comment, this part is obviously correct. Don't override your intuition or sense just because some randos on the internet (or anywhere) spend their lives trying to convince you your brain doesn't work.
Women need to start defining the world around woman rather than the word human, exactly like them do with themselves, that’s how to understand the dynamics at play what matters.
If you take seriously what the red/ blackpilled dolts say, the world is properly defined around men, not humans. They're wrong in an absolute sense, and they know it; all the crying is about the fact that there have been inroads - finally - at reflecting and respecting that women are fully human, deserving of and entitled to the same rights, access and treatment as men (yes, that may mean that structures and valued characteristics change, too). And these specific types of whiny Wendys feel just
so gypped that they lost out on the "glory days" and now sometimes have to confront the fact that peopledom means more than just their 50% of it. And they can't beat their male betters, so they need to find someone else to stomp on because they see it all as a competition, and competition is
hard, especially for those who are outraged that they weren't born with the perfect, reward-assuring array of winner traits. Because apparently working for it is offensive.
And to be clear, women are still treated as the exception or the add-on, rather than as the standard, but in most places it has improved to a degree.
Part of why normalisation has been so devasting is the redefining of what’s normal. Choking isn’t extreme anymore, anal isn’t extreme either, even though a few decades ago it was, or even just a few years. They push an extreme as a normal, redefining the terms constantly, so you can’t call it out anymore as violence against women. Depressing.
Sex practices don't have victims unless someone is compromised (trafficked, exploited, manipulated, etc.) or their dissent is disregarded. Some women like acts that other women don't. It's up to every person to know and state what they do or don't want, and it's up to every person to defer to a "no" from another person. If some guy dumps you or demeans you because you don't want anal or to be choked or whatever thing, then that tells you what you need to know, and good riddance. They haven't changed your reality, regardless of what trips they put on. And if they do it
to you despite your expression that you don't want to, then that's assault or rape, and whether or not it or the circumstances would make a winner court case (odds are against that), you should sever all ties and not look back. Some things are righteously bright lines.
Reasons why red pill moids suck:
Adjusted for time period, this list is exactly what feminists have been pointing out since before it was a term (I'm referring to Mary Wollstonecraft, whose 1792
A Vindication on the Rights of Women preceded the generally agreed 1837 coining of the term) and throughout its history until the absolute muddle of current day.
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Porn addiction really has men thinking about getting cucked 24/7 now and projecting it on everyone else.
And as always, they have no head for numbers or data. First-time marriages in the US have < 50% divorce rate, and it has fallen steadily over the last 40 years.
[T]he divorce rate in America is 42.6%.*
*[I've seen 41-45% in different places]
The
divorce rate in America has dropped 35% in the past 20 years.
The divorce rate from 1950 to the present only increased by 16%.
The divorce rate increased 236% from 1960 to 1980.
The US’ involvement in the Vietnam War started in 1961 and ended in 1975.
The divorce rates more than doubled during this period.
Since the 1980s, the divorce rate in America has steadily declined.
In 1980, the divorce rate was 5.2 people per 1,000 people.
The divorce rate in 2020 is 2.9 persons per 1,000 people.
This is a 44.2% reduction in the divorce rate in America over a 40 year period.
