neither of my ex-boyfriends explicitly suicide baited -- that honour is reserved for my first ex-girlfriend -- but one of them did make a whole production out of how sad he was after i broke up with him. evidently he was so torn up about it that he hallucinated me sitting next to him and saying it'll be okay. i will say that i didn't backtrack the breakup out of pity thanks to that ex-girlfriend teaching me how you shouldn't give in to histrionic retards. being in an abusive relationship is, unfortunately, the best way to learn those kinds of lessons.
Back in the BBS days of the 1990s, there was this guy I used to chat with. He was always depressed and talked about how he didn't have any friends. Since I was young back then, I had a lot more tolerance for fools so I tried to help him by inviting him to parties, social events like mini golf and even Bible study since my youth group was filled with very friendly and cool people.
Do you know what this asshole did? He'd leave the venue and go off walking alone. He wouldn't make the slightest effort to talk to anyone. It was so frustrating to deal with him and I felt drained.
One day he sent me a chat message stating that he had taken a bunch of pills and that he was gonna die soon. I decided to drive over to his parents' house and warn them, and they took him to a mental hospital as a result.
When he got out, he was furious with me because I wasn't supposed to tell anyone, and as a result he never talked to me again and it was a huge relief.
One of the best ways to get rid of a suicide baiter is to take it very seriously and contact all their family members and do a wellness check with the police. If they're faking it to manipulate you they'll be pissed off and leave you alone, and if they're sincere you've given them access to help. It's a win-win.
One of the best ways to get rid of a suicide baiter is to take it very seriously and contact all their family members and do a wellness check with the police.
I no longer have the patience to comfort friends or anyone anymore, isn't that sad? I tell my friends not to vent to me anymore because I just can't help or give them anything. I feel bad.
I am sure that if you explain your situation and how you've been feeling for the past few months they will be more than understanding, your friendships with other people shouldn't be strained because of some therapy repulsed clown.
Take as much as you want time when it comes to this, it's better to recover yourself fully than force yourself to do something that you're not feeling ready for. It might feel that you wont be able to ever listen and comfort your friends but trust me when I say that too is temporarily.
Nah taking a temporarily break from an emotional vampire moid won't do anything, they can promise you that they will work on themselves but that's a lie, the reality is they will be more than happy to return to their habit of emotionally draining you and guilt tripping you for daring to cut them off. Your post is correct, she has to prioritize herself and her child now because both of them are in a very vulnerable state and to choose to coddle up some emotionally stunted man instead of focusing on themselves would be insane.
Personally, I'd just get to the root of the problem and cut this person permanently out of my life.
I know it might be a very drastic idea, they might feel reluctant especially if they known each for years and think it would feel "selfish" or as it was all for nothing since a relationship like this ended on a negative note, but the truth about these types of situations is that we can always appreciate the good memories/times even if that person is out of your life. You can always use these situations to reflect and tell yourself "I'll be better and stronger than ever." Some relationships end on a high note and some on a low note, sometimes we can't control how they end but that's just life.
Anyways since some of you shared your stories with dealing with these types, here's mine
My ex boyfriend suicide baited when I threatened to break things off with him for the first time after a very excruciating session of him emotionally draining and abusing me, unfortunately unlike the most of the posts sharing this similar experience I fell for it, however the moment he did a complete 180 from suicide baiting to acting happy and promising me that he would never ever treat me like shit again (which were lies), my brain instantly went "Time for you to make escape plans". Fortunately, I was lucky enough to have a support network that helped me build confidence, realize that the way I was treated wasn't okay and that I deserve better.
When I finally stood up for myself and told him we're done for real, he first tried to do compromise with me by telling me "He'll work on himself" when that failed he immediately resorted to"I can't see my life without you" spiel and when I responded to that with "That's not my problem anymore" he immediately dropped his facade and started chimping out at me. I just blocked him and never looked back. I am now in a happy relationship and we're making plans to get married next year.
Sisters, don't fall for their pity talk, the reality is narcissistic emotional parasite men that put on a facade of a soft-spoken meek men are capable men that know they are able to fix themselves but outright refuse to because they believe it's a woman's job to do it. When they feel you have remorse/guilt for treating them "harshly" (i.e. standing up/not putting up with them) they will make sure to exploit it because they can sense your kindness and guilt like piranhas can sense blood in the water.
Watching through dramatic readings of Moids getting pissy after getting rejected, I’ve come to realize something.
They’re all acting like Cluster Bs, especially with the splitting shit on full display and suicide baiting. Yet, men are rarely diagnosed as Cluster Bs because they’re seen as conditions that affect women more.
I too had a fucked up bf who I broke up with.
I dumped him due to red flags, he was always clingy and obsessed and exhibited signs of mental instability. No aggression, just bitching about trivial shit. He literally thought he owned me. I had to account for every minute of my day.
The real fun started after I broke up with him: he continued to turn up near my house, near my workplace, in the car park, following and stalking me for months. I ended up having to talk to his mother (the only person who had any control over him) I told her to reel him in or I’ll report him to plod. In hindsight his mother was strange too, she made excuses that he is just upset and in love
He eventually fucked off, but it was a very uncomfortable time.
Sad thing is he is tall, handsome, and fit, so he always had takers, he made life hell for many more women.
Should have been castrated and thrown into an asylum. Nothing more repulsive than a man with that type of mental illness, especially when they don’t accept that they are the problem, and don’t seek help.
You notice how despite the array of ages, experiences and locations that make up the posters on this thread, everyone here has got a story about a fucking deranged emotional parasite skinwalker moid?
Everyone.
It's like they are an extremely common moid phenotype.
i don't want to reveal too much but i had something similar. i was never in a relationship with him, despite him really wanting to be, and he was always weirdly clingy and emotionally unstable. i had to baby him and in several prolonged moments of weakness, i capitulated to his dumb gay baby needs. it didn't matter how many times i gave him advice on getting better, how many different ways i worded it, nor how brutally honest i was, he never stopped being a leech. long story short, he eventually commits suicide after a long emotional outburst that was regular to him. he survived of course, only now am i beginning to think that was probably intentional. but immediately afterward it's like nothing changed. he's still crying about himself and relying on me to make him feel better, no matter how much i tell him that these problems can be fixed and if they're making you want to kill yourself you need professional help not me, he won't shut up about how i'm the only one that matters. i seriously can't count how many times i had to tell him that i'm not interested in helping a suicidal person who doesn't want to get better and that i was tired of his guilt-tripping. i was being so nice to him through this whole thing, walking on eggshells and making sure he was soothed, which was impossible, and he never changed. the happy ending is i finally told it to him bluntly that i don't want to talk to him anymore and after him crying more he got the message and left.
One of the best ways to get rid of a suicide baiter is to take it very seriously and contact all their family members and do a wellness check with the police. If they're faking it to manipulate you they'll be pissed off and leave you alone, and if they're sincere you've given them access to help. It's a win-win.
Or if they're an abuser like Liam Payne, they actually will kill themselves during a drugged out shit-flinging episode to avoid the charges and allegations that are surfacing against them.
Unfortunately, it worked, and now everyone is crying about how tragic it is that this known narcissistic, unstable addict/predator is dead, and what a waste of potential it is that this man -- the least talented, popular, successful, and attractive of 1D -- was somehow failed by some theoretical system. Even my friend, a former 1D hysteric who hated him for years, is suddenly weeping over his death as though she hadn't recently been reposting stories from his ex (who dated him when she was a teenage fan and he was pushing 30) about how he pressured her into an abortion for the sake of his (nonexistent) career.
An auntie had a horrormoid coercive controller husband she had actually divorced but had refused to move out due to 'finances'.
He regularly suicide baited her to get her to come home from work in the evenings as he was the only one with the kids at those times. Cost her a couple of jobs.
Made a pathetic attempt at his wrists, off to hospital, crybullying, you know the score. Still doesn't fucking leave even though he had sole charge of the kids at the time he went all Carrie-at-the-prom in the bathroom. Housing won't house him because lol there's a roof over his head, so he continues to occupy the home like a gigantic roach.
One night he is expecting her home at nine, so puts the kids to bed, and hops off into the garage to do a little light exhaust huffing for - he estimates - only a few minutes before she turns up, finds him, and is pressured by cops and doctors into quitting yet another job.
Unbeknownst to him, she goes to the all night Tesco for some shopping on the way home, and doesn't turn up until half ten, by which point God has released her from her burden and he is deader than P Diddy's career.
So, just remember, sometimes things really do work out for the best.
I have been following the Mad at the Internet Facebook page for a while now and I keep seeing this one moid pop up repeatedly. At this point he has now become my permanent mental image for the average kiwi farms moid -
Individually, his features look unremarkable, but when you take a closer look, another picture emerges—greasy hair, the humble beginnings of a unibrow, that oddly boyish face, and those dark circles from countless late nights spent terminally online.
Y'know... The only real difference between this Kiwi Farms moid and your average, run-of-the-mill Redditor moid is potential. With a shower, a pair of tweezers, a basic skincare routine, and a proper haircut, his looks are salvageable. He's not beyond hope yet—he hasn’t fully succumbed to the irreversible effects of hyper-consumption, soy-based products, or left-wing ideology. But he won’t change, because like so many nihilistic spiritual homosexuals on this site and /pol/, he treats self-improvement like a mythical creature normies invented—like Santa Claus or Jesus Christ—to dismiss his pent-up frustrations with society.
This moid is trapped in a prison of his own making, eternally bound in a self-sustaining loop of meme-driven right-wing ideology. His ideal evangelical, Aryan, virginal trad wife doesn’t exist; and if she did, she probably wouldn’t make it past the smell of his fetid gamer balls to actually interact with him in any meaningful way.
So, he’ll die alone. His last words will be a few sentences typed out on an obscure online "cyberstalking" forum, lost to the digital ether as the coming wave of internet censorship wipes out sites like these for good:
This relationship talk reminded me of something. I am too much of a mobile fag to compress an image so please take my retelling (and copy/pasting) of some slay shit I saw instead.
One of those Reddit repost accounts: AITA for giving my ring back after my fiancé made a comment to his guy friends regarding why we haven't gotten married? TLDR: She overheard “your life stops once you’re married” “don’t do it man” and her fiancé says “this is why I’m dragging my feet .” She tries to cope, but can’t when he expresses zero enthusiasm for their wedding planning. So she calmly gives him the ring, and then asks what he wants for dinner. Ensure argument where she has no backbone and doesn’t realise she is nothing but a body to masturbate with to him.
Anyway, this reply (from a feminist dw): Sounds like a poor attempt at manipulation. So she gave back a meaningless trinket for what? To continue to stay & serve him? Now she's a servant without the tip. If it works & he marries her, it will get worse because he didn't want to.
If a moid suicide baits you, tell him to kill himself. Just kidding, he deserves to get alogged but don't do it for your own sake, it is considered a crime in some countries and he could use it for blackmail. Ghost the motherfucker for good, you are not his shrink, you're no Captain Save-a-Scrote. His life is pathetic and doesn't matter but yours does. It is bleak how so many women around the world were abused with this fucking lie, a prime example of manipulative subhuman behavior. There are many cases where a woman was trying to break up with a waste of oxygen, he said he was going to commit suicide if he can't see her one last time then killed her when they met up. Some of them did kill themselves but only after murdering the woman.
I've also heard of multiple personal stories where women were in a similar situation and not a single one of these pieces of shit killed themselves. They're just bluffing, he knows he can get sympathy from a woman by doing this so he takes advantage of it. The reason he is threatening you with it in the first place is because he is trying to force you to do something you don't want to do like "Date me/don't leave me or I will kill myself." GO AHEAD AND DO IT FAGGOT!!!
If you are scared that he will rope and blame you for it, don't worry, there is no way it will happen. He's not suicidal (unfortunately), he just wants to hurt you. You can see how he is too narcissistic for self-termination from the way he acts like his worthless existence depends on getting you to do shit for him. Him kicking the bucket is a 0.1% chance and even if he does, it's not your responsibility. If I saw a headline saying "Man told woman he would kill himself if she doesn't do as he says and he ended up taking his life." I would see her as a superhero. The legend saved not only herself but the planet with an inaction. One less shitty male is a blessing upon the Earth! Love it when the trash takes itself out!
What can someone like him contribute to society anyway? If he succeeds at intimidating you with suicide, he will conclude that this is something he can get away with. He won't ever change and would turn it into a consistent behavior against you or also use the same method to traumatize other women. Don't allow it, no one has to deal with this bullshit. Cut him off.
Thanks to a relative I am desensitised to emotional blackmail to the point if a guy tried suicide baiting on me, I'd offer to give him a lift to the local suicide abyss in the woods.
Actually suicidal men do it right away without telling anyone beforehand, or walk into the grippy sock jail by themselves.
Reading through the last few posts on here really makes me wonder how many of 'us' were once blackmailed/manipulated by a 'suicidal' moid. The numbers seem to be way higher than I've thought, really.
But women are the irrational and manipulative gender, huh?
I've had dudes try to blackmail/manipulate me with suicide, lies about "terminal illnesses" etc. It's so fucking nasty.
