> Porn is EVERYWHERE in men’s algorithms. We will be watching reels together and randomly a thirst trap will come up. He gets requests from bots a lot too. It’s pervasive which makes avoiding it nearly impossible.
My twitter-for-you-page is filled with (male&female) thirst traps/porn on some days as well - yet it's still a CHOICE to pull your dick out and jerk off to that shit or continue watching it instead of scrolling away. It's still a CHOICE to interact with an obvious sex-bot. Yeah, maybe AVOIDING it is impossible in this day and age of the clickbait-internet, but it's still a CHOICE to actively consume it and get off to it.
Especially given that OP mentions that her husband lied to her about his porn-consumption; he actively looked for it on a device that didn't have a porn-blocker-app installed. That's not a slip-up. That's not algorithms. That's, again, a choice.
I hate that this shit is so "normalised", and engrained in women's heads. "Oh, when a man sees porn he just HAS to instantly jerk off, there's literally not other choice, and us women have to accept that and hold their hands to get through this terrible addiction and phase." No. Piss off. We don't have to do shit.
Men have to learn how to control their urges/impulses, and if a thirst trap on social media is getting a dude so worked up that he HAS to jerk his dick, he doesn't need 'covenant eyes' or sympathy, he needs fucking therapy or to be put down since he apparently has zero self control.
> And he WILL slip up. Your husband loves you.
What a fucking cope. If your husband is porn-addicted, knows he's hurting you with it, can't live without touching his dick to porn and above all LYING to you about it, it's not just time to pull the (literal and metaphorical) plug, but time to think about getting a divorce. Lying about porn addiction is a CHOICE. It's not a bloody slip-up.
> I would approach it through the mindset of fighting an addiction and start regularly having open conversations and check-ins. Covenant eyes is great but not a replacement for talking to your husband about this struggle regularly and with compassion.
And where's the part where the husband shows compassion? Understanding? Anything?
Why do women always have to be the scapegoat for their absolute garbage husbands?
Why do women even tolerate those retards?