Men are across the board, weaker than women when it comes to resisting disease, especially in old age.
For all their cope about being able to reproduce in their 60s, turns out men are expendable from day 1. Your Nana may not be able to birth another baby, but Mother Nature knows 75 year old Nana provides more value to society than 45 year old Uncle Stockbroker.
Sperm can be bottled and stored for later; Nana's delicious chicken soup and ability to cure a fever is irreplaceable.
In Evolutionary Biology they call it the "Grandmother Hypothesis": women live longer than men because it confers an advantage on their children and grandchildren, for all of these potential reasons:
> Grandmothers can serve as de facto midwives & assist with caring for their daughters and daughters in law's babies, i.e. your mom and MIL's advice but now it's life or death
> If following the shortest possible reproductive cycle grandmothers could potentially serve as wetnurses; since if they had their first baby at 18 and their baby had her first baby at 18, Grandma's only 36 and still potentially capable of getting pregnant and lactating herself. (I also understand that you can maintain lactation for a while... some do it through baby's 2nd year or even longer.)
> Knowledge of foraging and sewing and other crafts that keep the house fed and clothed
> Ability to educate grandchildren of the same skills
Men? It's a bit more bleak. No matter how much a badass he was in his glory days Grandpa isn't going to be much help hunting or defending the tribe in his 50's and 60's. So there's little evolutionary advantage to keeping him around for as long - esp if he's got injuries, he just becomes another dependent.
Men like to pretend that Evo Bio and Evo Psych depicts men as straight up superior to women. My reading suggests that's not the full picture but that men just cherry pick the discipline for ideas that appeal to their already-sexist beliefs.
So... not just me who finds this incredibly creepy and inappropriate right?
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She is 14.
Scratch a misogynist and a pedophile bleeds. I swear men have been trying to find reasons to justify fucking 14 year old girls (and boys) since fucking Pericles.
Japan is another depressing Hellscape for women the more you read into their history and culture. Especially their modern culture imo.
Japan facts:
According to Japanese law, a married couple must share the same surname. But the men never change their surnames, they expect their wives to change theirs to meet the legal requirement.
Japanese men expect women to quit working when they marry, leading to mass employment and educational discrimination. (Why bother letting her go to college if she's just going to quit the workforce a few years later?)
Japanese men are even worse than western men at housework and basically expect their wives to do it all.
Japanese men believe that part of work culture involves spending hours after work getting drunk with their male colleagues.
Japan has such a intractable problem with subway groping that they came up with women's only cars.
Japan's birth rate is at a record low. I wonder why...
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Hes a porn addict. The 0 libido, no sexual desire for his wife, depression and obsession with anal sex is 100% because of his porn addiction and fried dopamine receptors. This quack therapist is forcing her to get anally raped to satisfy her porn addict husband instead of making him quit porn. It's actually unreal what normal women suffer through every day because of their porn addicted husbands and boyfriends.
Most men can't distinguish between the rush they feel from sexual pleasure and the rush from seeing a woman in pain. To many men those things are pretty much one and the same. That's why porn often follows themes of violence, exploitation, boundary violations, you name it. If it's about "ruining" women they love it, cause they also think sex is degrading for women, which is why a man who's fucked 1,110 women is a Don Juan and a woman who fucked that same number of men is roast beef flaps.
Anyway the answer to this lady's question is that you don't compromise on this and you get a new couple's therapist. Just because it's your husband's new sexual obsession doesn't mean you should do it if you don't want to do it. Sex is by mutual agreement and desire, not one partner wearing the other down until they sigh and say "fine, if this will shut you up and leave me alone for awhile, I will do it." Certainly not with a therapist abetting those efforts, that's horrible.
