Women drive the BDSM communities, men do not. Men are only able to do what women consent to. Majority of men only get into BDSM because women are into it and they're easy lays. Most men find their way into these communities because one of their girlfriends tells them to choke them harder and drags them into it. Majority of men do not have sadistic fetishes to choke women. Maybe the men YOU have experienced do, but majority of men in these BDSM communities do not. Android Raptor was 100% right about this.
At their core, most men just want loyalty and love. Most men don't care about this danger-trust dynamic that BDSM provides. This entire sect of society has been completely propped up by women. The choking deaths are why people that kind of play is getting banned virtually everywhere. That doesn't stop women from asking for it. It's also why I tell men don't do it. BDSM and kink communities will only get you in trouble.