I feel like I've ended up being the equivalent of a concern troll in this retarded genderwars slapfight, and I hate it, but I'd still like to make a point about both threads. I read both of them for entertainment and the rare insightful post. I occasionally post in the womanhate thread to vent about my frustrations.
Everyone includes their experiences in their worldview. There are some unbelievably shitty men out there. There are also some unbelievably shitty women out there. People who have had a lot of experiences with shitty men will oftentimes excuse shitty women and vice versa. Openly acknowledging that the other side has salient points puts you at odds with everyone. Trying to go into the other thread turns into a steamroll where you have to respond to 10 posts for every one of yours. Trying to accept everyone's claims at face value is a waste of time, because most people are probably lying or embellishing in order to make themselves look good. Most people are effectively anonymous on here and it's impossible to check if they have any right to say what they're saying. This is not an good medium for open dialogue. There aren't any open, public mediums IRL that are good for open dialogue either.
Point being, trying to use anyone here as "evidence of how [x] thinks" is a waste of time. There are good people who vent mixed in with terminally online unhinged lunatics who can't stop gnashing their teeth at every little thing. Mix in trolls and there's little room for actual authenticity. I think a lot of people shitting on each other here would get along reasonably well IRL where it's actually possible to determine who is speaking in good faith and who is a clown who should be ignored.