Its a sad state of affairs that we all have to live with, and a deliberate one plotted about by wicked men.
That being said the solution is not an easy one and both of the sexes need to do a lot of work stop hurting each other, I came up with a few things that by order of severity come to mind.
1. The FOMO and antagonism of past generations.
I think this one that gets overlooked a lot and some people might not even recognize it as being real.
A lot of the conditions that are splitting the sexes happened before most people here were born, our mothers and fathers were being propagandized and other family members as well. Instilling bad advice to youngsters who had no experience, and then premediating them to have bad experiences as a result.
It has twisted our arms collectively, and this goes without saying the bitter people who are jealous things didnt work out the way they wanted and hurt youngsters around them in a jealous manner.
Im sure you all have someone in mind. But how do we get away from that? Well we have to courageously choose differently and accept that its going to be hard especially as some require more growing up than others. Do you really want to love another? It’s work and youre entitled to your labours, which is a huge component missing from today.
Very few if any people will exhibit any self sacrifice, the promise of love in return is transactional. But I think that for our own sakes this is the attitude to forward with, as I said youre entitled to your labours which means you can do as little or as much as you want.
2. Establishing good association.
Did you ever hook up with a guy/gal at a party? Lots of people did and still do. You meet someone through friends and everyones friend group typically helps to curate potential mates.
However if everyone is being messed up to some degree, how do we establish good association? This seems pretty hard but it can really just be as easy as staying away from people with bad habits.
The harder part comes from finding someone that shares your interests, and establishing them with that person. This goes back to courageously choosing and part of is telling yourself “ no im not just going to say whatever to this person so they have sex with me”.
If your relationship starts like that It wont be surprising if it ends up unfulfilling later in more ways than one. Lots of guys want a gamer gf, are you sure? Or do you just want a girl that will tolerate you playing games?
Look first for someone that likes the same things you do in many ways and establish yourselves, grow together and then help those around you grow. People are entitled to change their mind, but both sides have to dictate what it is they actually want in a relationship.
When there is good association and people care about each other, they will help you find someone that fits you.
That kind of stuff is all mental and personal, Im trying to get a productive conversation going but in establishing good habits moving on to the material.
3. Disassociate from all Pornography
Porn is a weapon of societal destruction and one of the most damaging things that warps relationships into something extremely materialistic.
The best thing you can do is to stop interacting with it in anyway, I know its easier said than done but a lot of methods like easy peasy and others have developed.
I doubt anyone can say they were actually born a furfag, tranny, or a pedo, or into BDSM. Everyone got the idea from somewhere and its ruined our collective innocence.
Do you want an innocence and a loving relationship, or to reduce your partner as a material extremity that you use to get off? Passion for another is different.
These are just a few things, really what do you want?