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The Golden Knight said:
I already answered this question. No I do not because I do not bother to engage contact with them as I tend to isolate myself...Except for talking like here.
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Okay Jay, I'm digging back a few pages to when you asked how you could "prove" your willingness to improve, and here's what I got - -

A) Whatever happens in this thread, leave it as peaceably as possible. If there was a specific response you wanted out of the people here, understand that you're not going to get it, and there's really nothing wrong with that. You've done some things and behaved in some ways that are almost universally regarded as shitty/selfish/ego-maniacal and the internet's going to hold onto that shit for pretty much ever. If you want to minimize some of the damage that's going to be incurred by that, proceed to step...

B) Acknowledge that those things were shitty/selfish/ego-maniacal. You've done at least some of that with the whole NPC thing, but just deal with the fact that hey, maybe it's pretty bad to blow a squirrel's face off and then brag about it on the internet. Hey, maybe it's inappropriate to tickle some kid that you don't know and then post a follow-up journal attempting to shift all of the blame onto her. Hey, maybe you should've not been a total putz with Heather. Even if you don't understand why those things on their own were bad (and maybe you do), at least acknowledge that lots and lots of people on the internet do. This is one of those cases where argument ad populum really isn't a fallacy.

C) Post an acknowledgement of those wrongdoings somewhere public like, say, your DA page. It doesn't have to be drawn-out or over-dramatic, just itemize some of the things you've done that you've been told about here, explain how you can empathize with others and see how those things were bad, don't make excuses, do not try to shift blame for them, just be earnest and say that you know they were bad, you understand that you did them, but you'll try you're hardest not to do them again. Leave that there and don't ever take it down or edit it. That won't fix the situation for you overnight, but it'll go a helluva long way towards "proving" something.

D) going to see a counselor would probably help. As others have said and will probably continue to say, we're not professionals. This is nowhere near as cathartic as being able to talk to someone that's actually trained for this kind of stuff.
 
The Golden Knight said:
Unnecessary. I already have an "official wiki" now.



I didn't know skeletons had feelings. I thought they were dead, or possessed by evil spirits. Was I wrong?! Then again, a Skeleton protagonist DOES sound cool! Think Ghost Rider...



2 days; one for each way of the trip, and another 2-3 days to enjoy each other...For an expedite, that's enough. It's certainly not enough to fully enjoy the perks of a relationship, though.
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2-3 days isn't much, especially considering the jetlag. You don't want to be half-awake for your time with her. Maybe put it off until you can get a longer vacation.
 
Mandaaay said:
Yeah, the autism might be an issue. Jay said he wanted to wait until he was in his fifties till he has kids, and waiting that long increases the chances of a baby having autism even without a predisposition. I don't want my nephews or nieces to be tard babies.
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When he's in his fifties, wouldn't she be too, assuming she's actually legal right now? The only way she could still be fertile three decades from now is if she really isn't much older then ten. Which, honestly, would explain A LOT of his interest in her.
 
And today is Mandy's birthday! HAPPY BIRTHDAY, CUTIE! *SQUEE!*

Satan said:
When he's in his fifties, wouldn't she be too, assuming she's actually legal right now? The only way she could still be fertile three decades from now is if she really isn't much older then ten. Which, honestly, would explain A LOT of his interest in her.
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I said thirties; as in, a decade from now; two tops.
 
The Golden Knight said:
Now where was that other forum post where people said you were an "Act"?
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You mean the one you blocked me over after I warned you about a certain someone with a vested interest in making sure you and I don't get along? I don't know. You tell me. At this point it doesn't matter. Amanda will know if I'll be able to show up or not regardless of what you think.
 
Meowthkip said:
For starters, you could shut the fuck up and listen to her.

I'm serious. Almost every conversation you have with anyone is one-sided. You're very invested in you and your interests and what you like, but you struggle to meet the emotional needs of your significant other, and that's when you bother to put in some half-hearted effort.

Your grand proclamations of love and the sacrifices you would make ring hollow. It's like you learned what love is from movies but don't have any real understanding of it, thinking it's just poetic declarations and snuggling or bumping uglies. You're big on taking and not so much on giving.

I don't believe you for a second that you would sacrifice all that when your track record speaks differently.
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All I need is communication, or else I have NO idea what kinds of problems are going on (and to me, an absence of communication *IS* a problem). How can I solve something when I don't even know a problem exists, much less what the problem is?
 
Venusaur said:
I dunno what clubs would be in your area, but they might be good places to make friends that share your kinks!
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There's one in DC called The Crucible, but their current location has closed and they're moving.

Just as well, I suppose. I've never been to an S&M club but I don't think Jay would fit into the scene very well.
 
The Golden Knight said:
Unnecessary. I already have an "official wiki" now.



I didn't know skeletons had feelings. I thought they were dead, or possessed by evil spirits. Was I wrong?! Then again, a Skeleton protagonist DOES sound cool! Think Ghost Rider...



2 days; one for each way of the trip, and another 2-3 days to enjoy each other...For an expedite, that's enough. It's certainly not enough to fully enjoy the perks of a relationship, though.
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Then would you ever consider adding a Skeleton protagonist to your comic? It would help represent skeletons better and as an added bonus draw more members from here. They would be much open and probably enjoy it more since a Skeleton Right's activist frequents the forums alot and has alot of sway over some of the members.
 
The Golden Knight said:
All I need is communication, or else I have NO idea what kinds of problems are going (and to me, an absence of communication *IS* a problem). How can I solve something when I don't even know a problem exists, much less what the problem is?
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This whole section of the forum is us talking about your problems. We've even explained them to you directly.
 
The Golden Knight said:
All I need is communication, or else I have NO idea what kinds of problems are going on (and to me, an absence of communication *IS* a problem). How can I solve something when I don't even know a problem exists, much less what the problem is?
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Talk to her, you dummy.

Also, I laid out your problem quite clearly on page 8.
 
Globe said:
Okay Jay, I'm digging back a few pages to when you asked how you could "prove" your willingness to improve, and here's what I got - -

A) Whatever happens in this thread, leave it as peaceably as possible. If there was a specific response you wanted out of the people here, understand that you're not going to get it, and there's really nothing wrong with that. You've done some things and behaved in some ways that are almost universally regarded as shitty/selfish/ego-maniacal and the internet's going to hold onto that shit for pretty much ever. If you want to minimize some of the damage that's going to be incurred by that, proceed to step...

B) Acknowledge that those things were shitty/selfish/ego-maniacal. You've done at least some of that with the whole NPC thing, but just deal with the fact that hey, maybe it's pretty bad to blow a squirrel's face off and then brag about it on the internet. Hey, maybe it's inappropriate to tickle some kid that you don't know and then post a follow-up journal attempting to shift all of the blame onto her. Hey, maybe you should've not been a total putz with Heather. Even if you don't understand why those things on their own were bad (and maybe you do), at least acknowledge that lots and lots of people on the internet do. This is one of those cases where argument ad populum really isn't a fallacy.

C) Post an acknowledgement of those wrongdoings somewhere public like, say, your DA page. It doesn't have to be drawn-out or over-dramatic, just itemize some of the things you've done that you've been told about here, explain how you can empathize with others and see how those things were bad, don't make excuses, do not try to shift blame for them, just be earnest and say that you know they were bad, you understand that you did them, but you'll try you're hardest not to do them again. Leave that there and don't ever take it down or edit it. That won't fix the situation for you overnight, but it'll go a helluva long way towards "proving" something.

D) going to see a counselor would probably help. As others have said and will probably continue to say, we're not professionals. This is nowhere near as cathartic as being able to talk to someone that's actually trained for this kind of stuff.
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That would all help to a great degree...I hope. That's assuming it's not already done in WayBack. I'm starting to get a better grip on myself right now, thanks to all this (and I can't believe I'm saying this, but thanks to you people here!)!


Meowthkip said:
Talk to her, you dummy.

Also, I laid out your problem quite clearly on page 8.
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I am! But when she does not talk back, there's a problem. No, that's not abuse, wanting an answer just to make sure everything's OK.
 
The Golden Knight said:
This can only be experienced in-person, like at conventions. Videos won't do it justice, as the sound capture will clip and create ear-hurting buzzing!
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It's not the microphone. Everyone's voice sounds deeper to them than it actually is because of how it resonates. Your videos are probably pretty accurate.
 
There's no point flying all the way to England just to see her for a couple of days. Also, I haven't seen you consider whether or not this trip will suit her. You know she studies and works. She probably can't get time off at such short notice without screwing over her workmates or employer. Also, it's going to cost much more than a grand.
 
Mandaaay said:
There's no point flying all the way to England just to see her for a couple of days. Also, I haven't seen you consider whether or not this trip will suit her. You know she studies and works. She probably can't get time off at such short notice without screwing over her workmates or employer. Also, it's going to cost much more than a grand.
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She told me she's a sitter, and I thought her profile page said she was taking a break from studies this year. Is this not accurate?
 
The Golden Knight said:
I am! But when she does not talk back, there's a problem. No, that's not abuse, wanting an answer just to make sure everything's OK.
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Have you ever considered why she might not want to talk back?

Because I'm guessing that your talking to her is more like badgering. She needs her space. Her life is not all about lavishing you with attention, dude.
 
The Golden Knight said:
She told me she's a sitter, and I thought her profile page said she was taking a break from studies this year. Is this not accurate?
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She babysits for extra money. She works in our father's store and she's also recently picked up a job working in retail. She started studying recently, I'm not sure what she's doing, you'd have to ask her. But since she works a lot that's a major drain on her time.
 
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