Physical attraction vs. viable relationship - how often are they compatible states?

I thought this would be an interesting thread about the injustice of animalistic desires refusing to align with interpersonal intellectual pursuits and somethingsomething human condition but all I really got was OP being a defensive faggot, bragging about who he supposedly bedded while @Lidl Drip does what @Lidl Drip does.
 
thought this would be an interesting thread about the injustice of animalistic desires refusing to align with interpersonal intellectual pursuits and somethingsomething human condition
it is, in fact. Your reading comprehension and your imagination are two different things, fuckhead
all I really got was OP being a defensive faggot, bragging about who he supposedly bedded while @Lidl Drip does what @Lidl Drip does.
ah, yes - the secondary purpose of this thread was in fact to troll for the usual Lidl Drip responses, because it's funny to watch him/her/it take the bait and then have a slapfight
 
Billy, stop being a man-ho and grow the fuck up. Worry about more important things like happiness and your well being more than lusting for this perfect woman that will never exist for you.
 
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Worry about more important things like happiness and your well being more than lusting for this perfect woman that will never exist for you.
I'm fascinated that this is your takeaway from reading this thread. I'm not looking for perfection, dude, far from it.

The women who I enjoy spending time with but am not interested in are not themselves unattractive. Objectively many of them are physically attractive women. This is the whole point.

I can either enjoy spending time with a woman - which, regardless of her attractiveness objectively, renders her completely uninteresting to me sexually - or I can get involved with her sexually and have the whole thing blow up in my face, which I already know in advance is guaranteed to happen.

What I can't do is sustain a relationship with someone who I have sex with. It's like the sex renders the situation too intense to sustain.

So, basically, I've given up on people as a general rule and instead I hang out on this forum, throw my $.02 in here and there, and occasionally pick fights with trolls because it amuses me.
 
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I'm fascinated that this is your takeaway from reading this thread. I'm not looking for perfection, dude, far from it.
So, I wrote that because while I have no information on your dating history aside from the claims in your posts, I see a lot of philosophizing about sex more akin to what a high-schooler would write. Also, that last post of yours makes it seem that you're so bad in bed that women dump you. I doubt that's what you meant to write though, so I'd suggest introspection on different aspects of the failed relationships. A little bit of thinking from the other person's perspective goes a long way.
 
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that last post of yours makes it seem that you're so bad in bed that women dump you.
I could see where that would be the obvious assessment, but that's not really the information I've been given. I mean granted, I would not argue that I'm anything great in the sack, and that may in fact be a component, but regardless.

It's more that once we get past the initial sex, they start to see me for who and what I really am. I am extremely damaged. So part of it, I guess, is that women who are attracted to me are attracted to what they see on the surface. That is not me. At all. I bullshit my way through my daily life.

They see the real me and it's game over. Which is why I won't risk exposure with the smarter ones. Too dangerous.

There was a lot more to this post, but after reading through it all I deleted most of it, because 1) opsec, and 2) who gives a fuck.
 
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I could see where that would be the obvious assessment, but that's not really the information I've been given. I mean granted, I would not argue that I'm anything great in the sack, and that may in fact be a component, but regardless.

It's more that once we get past the initial sex, they start to see me for who and what I really am. I am extremely damaged. So part of it, I guess, is that women who are attracted to me are attracted to what they see on the surface. That is not me. At all. I bullshit my way through my daily life.

They see the real me and it's game over. Which is why I won't risk exposure with the smarter ones. Too dangerous.

There was a lot more to this post, but after reading through it all I deleted most of it, because 1) opsec, and 2) who gives a fuck.
you're a desperate autist who's in your own head. if the "real you" is a gameover then you need to work on yourself more. if you cant be genuine and sincere with people especially someone you want to be in a committed relationship with you're doomed to a lonely existence
 
you're a desperate autist who's in your own head. if the "real you" is a gameover then you need to work on yourself more. if you cant be genuine and sincere with people especially someone you want to be in a committed relationship with you're doomed to a lonely existence
way ahead of you pal
Maybe stop doing this then? You're already getting off on the wrong foot since you're lying to basically everyone you interact with.
yes, that's what it takes to keep a job unfortunately
For a thread originally about having sex with women, it sure got gay in a hurry.
are you laughing? job well done then
 
I could see where that would be the obvious assessment, but that's not really the information I've been given. I mean granted, I would not argue that I'm anything great in the sack, and that may in fact be a component, but regardless.

It's more that once we get past the initial sex, they start to see me for who and what I really am. I am extremely damaged. So part of it, I guess, is that women who are attracted to me are attracted to what they see on the surface. That is not me. At all. I bullshit my way through my daily life.

They see the real me and it's game over. Which is why I won't risk exposure with the smarter ones. Too dangerous.

There was a lot more to this post, but after reading through it all I deleted most of it, because 1) opsec, and 2) who gives a fuck.
What makes the "real you" different from your outer self? Why isn't the outer self real to you?
 
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you're obviously intelligent. Based on your observations of my posts, what do you think?

(not being snarky)
You value your inner world very deeply and keep it secret much of the time because you don't want it to be criticized unfairly. That's smart because even in this thread where you've accused nobody of anything, you still get pokes and prods from people looking down on you.
 
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you're obviously intelligent. Based on your observations of my posts, what do you think?

(not being snarky)
But, you've been hiding that inner world for so long that everything else about you comes across as fraudulent since you focus on hiding it a lot. It's left you inhibited and feeling like a liar. So when someone gets a glimpse of that inner world, you clam up like a thief being caught in the night.
 
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But, you've been hiding that inner world for so long that everything else about you comes across as fraudulent since you focus on hiding it a lot. It's left you inhibited and feeling like a liar. So when someone gets a glimpse of that inner world, you clam up like a thief being caught in the night.
fair points.

Let's just say that I have some mental health issues that I struggle with, and it has been my experience that most "healthy" or "normal" people are not generally empathetic to that sort of thing. Self preservation is a hell of a drug.
 
fair points.

Let's just say that I have some mental health issues that I struggle with, and it has been my experience that most "healthy" or "normal" people are not generally empathetic to that sort of thing. Self preservation is a hell of a drug.
I have an idea of what you're going through. Having an issue like that is tough and it's hard enough to get support as a complete normie even. Still, I'd advise this: don't think of your outer self as fake. It's just as valid as you are and there is more to you than whatever issue you're grappling with. Don't ignore your issues but try to focus on what's good about you and learn to relax. As far as I can tell you're no criminal.
 
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not yet anyway

thanks for the conversation. I like this website, even if half the time we're all kicking the shit out of each other. Reminds me of the IMDb boards, same vibe
Yeah, null put up a surprisingly good public square. It's ironic that it would be this site of all places but it's welcome regardless.
 
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here on KF but I know which one of us has multiple degrees in their chosen profession
Imagine having multiple degrees in your chosen profession and still being poor.

Also, to answer your op, i'm both physically attracted to my wife and enjoy her company, like 75% of the time.
 
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