I'm dumb, but I tried to read as much of the thread as possible before posting, and honestly it seemed like the last hurdle was 3rd party providers don't supply the gender field; and lots of understandable aversion to sending ID to a third party.
Again, I'm dumb, but couldn't this be sidestepped by owning the process, and acting as the verifier yourself? It probably wouldn't be bullet proof, but couldn't you:
- Transmit the ID to the SITE, which runs a service to verify IDs.
- OCR the ID into plain text.
- Pipe the plain text into an LLM AI, you probably don't need any special training, just prompt like "here is some information from an ID card, can you identify if it's male or female based on the gender marker M or F?"
- If the result is indeterminate, then flag the ID for manual review, and retain it for no more than say 24-48 hours? I can see the OCR failing, especially for non-latin IDs.
It's probably not a perfect strategy. I can see some holes in it already in that it doesn't create a nonce since there's no way to verify the ID is unique with this method. Maybe require a nominal payment with identification, to reduce the chance of fraud? Though that would presume that payment processors play ball. Invite only with a reputation system, so that inviting moids prevents you from spawning new invites? Would there be a way to send the ID both to the third party processor to generate a nonce, AND to the first party gender inspector service?
I abhor the necessity of digital ID for such a system, but admire the concept. Anybody should be able to own the self-determination of their chosen association, whether that association be based on immutable characteristics like race, religion, gender, etc. or mutable interests like hobbies. Toxicity is a great semi-permeable membrane for hobbies and purposes like Kiwi Farms shitposting about lolcows, but for something more serious like this, a harder barrier is both more appropriate and less toxic.
My only question is what would such a site have to offer that Mumsnet or Ovarit wouldn't? Neither of those sites are strictly XX-chromosome, but at least from lurking Ovarit it seems like the invite only nature does a pretty solid job of keeping hostile men and troons out. Is the key difference that not even non-hostile men would be allowed? Is it cultural? Is it the format that's the difference - pseudo-imageboard vs pseudo-reddit?
In any case, what can and can't be learned from the Ovarit model?
Ovarit has that quote at the bottom of each page: "All space becomes male space unless females maintain a concerted effort to mark a space for themselves." –Sheila Jeffreys
I hope that this post has been contributive in nature and want to apologize in advance if my naievety about any of the technologies proves the post to be useless.