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[Coccxys]

The dating pool for polyamorists must be slim pickings wherever they live.

As I think we've posited on here a few times poly people seem to be from the population of people who didn't have their screw everything that moves phase in high school/college. So they are trying to recapture that missed part of their youth while trying to dress it up as some deep and meaningful life choice that totally won't have dramatic consequences. That's why the bulk of the poly population are not exactly stunning and are part of the geek population.

 

[Internet's Boyfriend]

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46 year old woman thinks she's finally got a 32 year old guy who does nothing but play the field to settle down. The other 2 secondary partners are both rarely avaliable due to other commitments. The guy just ignores when she has to go into hospital because he can be with other partners, ducks out of seeing her at every opportunity and just calls her jealous when this is brought up. Tell me what the fuck are you getting out of this "relationship"? You're the convenient choice for when his first choices are out of town, if you have money I would check your bank and card statements very carefully too. Now dump him and go find someone appropriate to settle down with.

I wonder how old the other women he's seeing are.

Not reddit, but I stumbled across this forum.

Tl;dr: women has sex with 20 people to make her husband jealous. Husband meets cute 25 year old with giant tits. Wife is *repulsed* she is 20 years younger than him. REPULSED. Husband wants to go to Italy with 25 y/o girlfriend. Wife throws giant fit.

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"I told him I was trying to make him jealous and he called me depraved and deceptive."
LMAO based. I hope he divorces her and enjoys his trip to Italy with the 25 year old.

 

[EnemyStand]

I wonder how old the other women he's seeing are.


"I told him I was trying to make him jealous and he called me depraved and deceptive."
LMAO based. I hope he divorces her and enjoys his trip to Italy with the 25 year old.

This guy shows you how to get back at a cheater in the best possible way. It's as if women don't realize that men have the edge in our mid 30s to late 50s. Looks fade. Money is the universal lubricant.

 

[Dave Foliage]

Perhaps this is elsewhere in the thread, but the go-to book on polyamory, More Than Two, was in part written by someone who emotionally abused and manipulated their partners. Since this came to light after the book was published and recommended all over the internet as the bible of polyamory, a bunch of people inadvertently adopted a lot of the abusive patterns into their own relationships. Here's a post from one of the authors explaining this.

Thank you for sending me down this rabbit hole. It led me to this collection of statements from some of the women in his life.

(Also this is my first time trying to embed images on mobile so apologies if it gets mucked up)

Paula
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I think for me a couple of the big key points were the financial abuse, which I didn’t recognize at the time. For one, I was flying down there every month, and he wasn’t making any money because he was working for Spectrum. And it was always, “Oh, I’m going to come up and see you when I have money.”
But if we wanted to go out to eat, if we wanted to do anything while I was there, I had to pay for it. And so it got to the point of, “Well, I can’t come down there, but I can fly you up.” So I flew him up to my city a whole bunch of times and then he would mention, “Oh, I’m going to go see all these other people while I’m here.” This was super irritating when I was the one who flew him up, so we could have quality time—but if I mentioned it, I was “trying to control” or being jealous.

I don't think that's financial abuse. Pretty sure that's just you being a pay piggy, Paula.

Amber
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Based Amber

The real doozy is Eve, his co-author for More Than Two, who needed NINE PARTS and tens of thousands of words to recount every minor to major grievance from their time together, to the point that I lost all sympathy for her.

If you do read any of these, play a game and drink every time the word gaslight gets used (you will end up dead).

Tl;dr Franklin Veaux is a helpless manchild who keeps getting women to give him money and places to stay and to be his bang maids.

And what does this master manipulator look like? This charismatic poly expert? I don't think it will come as a shock:

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Not that the women are that great looking either, but I'd rather join a convent than be part of this downie looking dweeb's harem.

EDIT: Images

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

Thank you for sending me down this rabbit hole. It led me to this collection of statements from some of the women in his life.

(Also this is my first time trying to embed images on mobile so apologies if it gets mucked up)

Paula
Archived



I don't think that's financial abuse. Pretty sure that's just you being a pay piggy, Paula.

Amber
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Based Amber

The real doozy is Eve, his co-author for More Than Two, who needed NINE PARTS and tens of thousands of words to recount every minor to major grievance from their time together, to the point that I lost all sympathy for her.

If you do read any of these, play a game and drink every time the word gaslight gets used (you will end up dead).

Tl;dr Franklin Veaux is a helpless manchild who keeps getting women to give him money and places to stay and to be his bang maids.

And what does this master manipulator look like? This charismatic poly expert? I don't think it will come as a shock:

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Not that the women are that great looking either, but I'd rather join a convent than be part of this downie looking dweeb's harem.

EDIT: Images

Incels are always whining about how ugly guys can’t get laid. Clearly they’re wrong.

 

[Christ4President2024]

Not reddit, but I stumbled across this forum.

Tl;dr: women has sex with 20 people to make her husband jealous. Husband meets cute 25 year old with giant tits. Wife is *repulsed* she is 20 years younger than him. REPULSED. Husband wants to go to Italy with 25 y/o girlfriend. Wife throws giant fit.

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That is 100 percent fiction

 

[PinstripeLuns]

She's probably been posted before but @meikomassun is a vocal polyamorous artist. Here's one of her comics.

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This person is 17 btw.

Another minor!

 

[EnemyStand]

I'm wondering what success they speak of. No polyamorous relationship ended well. It's just cucks cucking cucks.

 

[Coccxys]

She's probably been posted before but @meikomassun is a vocal polyamorous artist. Here's one of her comics. View attachment 1980514

Spoiler: Choice comments

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This person is 17 btw.
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Another minor!

We onto assigned male levels of mouthpiece vs strawman (and level of artistic ability). Also of all that things that didn't happen, that "why don't we remove the central conflict of a novel series" presentation happened the least.

 

[Country Matters]

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idk why poly people think theyre so brave, like half of these posts are "i want this, but i dont want confrontation or to leave the safety of what i already have. how can i somehow create a situation where all of us are happy even though we all want inherently different things?"

and its like.... you cant. you can either explore poly by yourself, or stay with your boyfriend, you literally cant do both.

 

[⋖ cørdion ⋗]

idk why poly people think theyre so brave, like half of these posts are "i want this, but i dont want confrontation or to leave the safety of what i already have. how can i somehow create a situation where all of us are happy even though we all want inherently different things?"

and its like.... you cant. you can either explore poly by yourself, or stay with your boyfriend, you literally cant do both.

What happens when you get lucky with 3 relationships in a short span of time rather than having one in your teens, grow, another young adult, grow, another as adult, get married, happy life. No wonder they only ever talk about sex when it's all they relate with a relationship. I genuinely think that this "deeper understanding of a relationship" is really just coping with everyone involved usually being unlovable losers who found too many sexual offers in too short a span.

Ever wondered why they stop at 2-3 extra lovers? They're likely not interesting for most people and got lucky in a short timespan. "Woah everyone loves me! Better slow down haha!". It's coping and settling with having little genuine romantic success.

 

[EnemyStand]

What happens when you get lucky with 3 relationships in a short span of time rather than having one in your teens, grow, another young adult, grow, another as adult, get married, happy life. No wonder they only ever talk about sex when it's all they relate with a relationship. I genuinely think that this "deeper understanding of a relationship" is really just coping with everyone involved usually being unlovable losers who found too many sexual offers in too short a span.

Ever wondered why they stop at 2-3 extra lovers? They're likely not interesting for most people and got lucky in a short timespan. "Woah everyone loves me! Better slow down haha!". It's coping and settling with having little genuine romantic success.

I don't know how successful these people were in getting some beforehand, but it's obvious all they value is sex. Since a lot of them are teens or already married, it smacks of people worried they didn't date enough and are just trying anything to sow their wild oats. Not necessarily following a program.

 

[PresidentTerf]

idk why poly people think theyre so brave, like half of these posts are "i want this, but i dont want confrontation or to leave the safety of what i already have. how can i somehow create a situation where all of us are happy even though we all want inherently different things?"

and its like.... you cant. you can either explore poly by yourself, or stay with your boyfriend, you literally cant do both.

Exactly.
The whole movement exists because people are too gutless to end relationships that have run their course or because it has entered a settled stage.

People that appreciate and understand monogamy get that the relationship will enter various stages and the honeymoon phase (which polys seem addicted to) isn't actually that long.

It's of no surprise that with the rise of this bizarre movement, STIs (including a super resistant one) are on the rise.

 

[572.4]

She's probably been posted before but @meikomassun is a vocal polyamorous artist. Here's one of her comics. View attachment 1980514

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This person is 17 btw.
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Another minor!

who's 17? the artist or commenter? I guess it doesn't matter, because if you're an adult and have adult (or even young adult) commitments like school, job and/or kids how the hell can you be serious and committed in several relationships? Oh I guess the only people who have the sort of time to commit to this bullshit are loser NEETs or those who are perpetually underemployed.

 

[🌐🌐🌐]

Exactly.
The whole movement exists because people are too gutless to end relationships that have run their course or because it has entered a settled stage.

People that appreciate and understand monogamy get that the relationship will enter various stages and the honeymoon phase (which polys seem addicted to) isn't actually that long.

It's of no surprise that with the rise of this bizarre movement, STIs (including a super resistant one) are on the rise.

Is it really that significant of a movement to influence the spread of STI? Even this reddit page only has about 200 thousand subscribers worldwide, assuming all of them are in these „relationships” it still seems like a small group of crazies. Maybe if they're congregated in a few large cities it could have influence there.

 

[blablabla]

its sad how poly people break their minds with that compersion bullshit. feeling jealousy when your SO is banging another person is fine

 

[Karl der Grosse]

Not reddit, but I stumbled across this forum.

Tl;dr: women has sex with 20 people to make her husband jealous. Husband meets cute 25 year old with giant tits. Wife is *repulsed* she is 20 years younger than him. REPULSED. Husband wants to go to Italy with 25 y/o girlfriend. Wife throws giant fit.

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My favorite part is when she starts complaining that her husband, who makes lots of money, is stingy about spending that money on her deadbeat boyfriend.

 

[scathefire]

"Toxic monogamy"... emotional abuse that's normalized... huh? What the hell does he think polyamory is?

 

[FeatherPlucker]

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Okay, not reddit. But just as ridiculous. No surprise, most of the comments are agreeing with this.

I'm trying not to get MOTI. But can you say with a straight face that poly people have been mass murdered, killed, hung, tortured etc for their beliefs...

I'm a chick, I think accordion players are hot. Does that make me queer?

Seriously, though, I wonder how much porn addiction has to do with this. In terms of the men, a ton are compromised sexually in that they need kinkier shit to get hard-ons. This probably leaves a lot of women unsatisfied in the bedroom. Can't really get off with a guy if he has to spend the whole time watching some other chick getting banged on a screen or his dick turns to mush.

Either that, or the women involved assume "he's obsessed with porn because I'm not hot enough, maybe if I get another girl involved we'll actually have sex with me and/or he won't cheat on me behind my back with someone I don't know who might get pregnant or give him a communicable STD that I wind up catching."

I imagine there are also women who are addicted to porn and probably need more and more bizarre things to get them off.

I can't really grasp why any guy would be willing to have a threesome with another guy unless he were clearly bisexual. MAYBE I could see a "straight" guy willing to be in a foursome with another woman involved.

 

[PresidentTerf]

Is it really that significant of a movement to influence the spread of STI? Even this reddit page only has about 200 thousand subscribers worldwide, assuming all of them are in these „relationships” it still seems like a small group of crazies. Maybe if they're congregated in a few large cities it could have influence there.

It is more the acceptable degeneracy of the younger generation that is probably the biggest culprit.
That being said I would say I have encountered more poly than troons.

I have had 3 or 4 encounters or experiences with poly people.
One woman lost her mind at me cause I said I didn't want to date a poly, another is an acquaintance and currently has 3 boyfriends and a girlfriend.

And the last one was a housemate who was poly and had caught herpes....from whom I'm not sure.

And I'll add that when I was single, lesbian Tinder was probably more clogged up with polys of some capacity (looking for a 3rd, attached bi women looking for a plaything etc) than trannies.

(I know that straight couples looking for a 3rd is probably not strictly poly but for this context it fits closer to them than not).