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I'm astounded that these people think polyamory is a good when none of them are happy. Almost every post on the subreddit is filled with people mad, depressed, confused and jealous. And despite all their pretentious claims, they're always the most emotionally immature people. They can't manage to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship with one person, yet constantly try to drag other people into their clusterfuck lmao.

Anyway, enough sperging. Here's some actual posts:
 
Conor and Brittany have been personal cows of mine ever since they were vegan fruititarian "minimalists" living in a busted Winnebago. Equal parts filthy and condescending I think it took 2 years of dating before they dubbed themselves "relationship experts" (despite both of them being divorced.) I only followed to see how long it would take for them to split or for Conor to be a tranny.

Right after Brittany left him he shacked up with some 19 year old girl, but I guess they scrubbed her from their social media after she left. I assume he was trying to make Brit Jealous, but she doesn't seem like she could care any less, while he pines away years later.

Brit gave birth in a blow up tub in their apartment and without a midwife or any medical/birthing supplies, no monitoring, and as far as I can tell she received zero prenatal care.

They are neglecting the FUCK out of their son.
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After seeing that pic I couldn't enjoy their trainwreck anymore. They make me entirely too MOTI. That poor baby.
 
More PL but hey, it involves poly nonsense.

I mentioned some people I know a few pages back but TL;DR: A female acquaintance of mine is poly, but had been in an exclusive relationship for a few years. Then she cheats on her bf with another friend of ours behind his back. When bf found out and is understandably upset, her and everyone else in our acquaintance circle acts like she's in the right. It pissed me off a bit.

Fast forward a few weeks and her and her bf have apparently broken up. But, literally nothing about their relationship has outwardly changed. They still live together with their dog, and are literally together all the time when they're not working. She's asexual/sex repulsed so that's never been a thing anyway. So what the fuck us different? (I haven't seen cheating friend with her or heard anything about that so no idea if that's still a thing.)

What makes things even more awkward is ex bf's parents got wind of something going on and gave him the ultimatum of "move out of her house, or we'll ban you from ours and throw all your stuff on the curb." I'm not sure of all the details or if it's specifically about being poly (or just them living together now that they're not in a relationship.) Either way it does seem like overreacting on the parents part. So not only did this girl cheat on her boyfriend, she's still keeping him close and it's shitting up his relationship with his parents. I don't know why he even sticks tbh. She's always been an ass hiding under a childish exterior that is "always right about everything." But my other friends never seem to notice.
 
Coffee Druid said:
She's asexual/sex repulsed so that's never been a thing anyway.
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...so how did she cheat on him? I know emotional infidelity is a thing, but I think you have to recalibrate your standards for cheating in a relationship without sex.
That guy is fucked. (ha)
 
Not the person telling the anecdote, but someone I knew who's supposedly poly started to see a guy who she worked with in secret. Went for lunch/dinners, study dates, etc with him (under the guise she's just hanging out with a work buddy) and admitted that they developed mutual feelings for each other over time. The guy knew she was getting married too, but was all like "hey if he's okay with it I don't mind sharing" type of thing. All this while almost-groom wasn't privy to it; she treated it like she was starting from square one in the dating scene if that makes sense. I'm taking her at her word nothing touchy happened, though.

They called off the marriage about 3 weeks later (for "reasons" unknown to me ... but it's obvious), but she still saw Guy 2 afterwards. No real shame i guess. By "supposedly" poly I mean this situation led her to think she is, she wasn't open about it during that period. So in this case, I think willing to jeopardize a stable almost-marriage for a guy that gives you the butterflies and classifying activities like they were dates is infidelity. Or at the very least, using "poly" as a Fantasyland alternative to avoid reality: the relationship is boring or not fulfilling enough, a new person seems like a perfect replacement, but you don't know enough about them to fully commit to a breakup.
 
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Free the Pedos said:
...so how did she cheat on him? I know emotional infidelity is a thing, but I think you have to recalibrate your standards for cheating in a relationship without sex.
That guy is fucked. (ha)
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Essentially, similar idea as Unhindered Clown said. The female friend in question was basically being as emotionally intimate as she was with her boyfriend, calling and texting a ton as well. I found out because I saw her and cheater friend cuddling whenever they were somewhere together without the boyfriend (she's told me long ago she is even averse to physical affection unless it's someone she's really into and close with). Another friend basically confirmed it to me after. I was incredibly baffled because I wasn't sure if bf knew at the time. He didn't.

I wouldn't even have been pissedoff too much if everyone knew about it. It'd be weird, and I'd still not be fond of poly stuff. But the fact she blatantly cheated, in some way is the part that gets me.
 
Free the Pedos said:
When will they learn this is called being a normal person?
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I wonder too. Things like that and "demisexual" keep being bandied around like it's a special label, but that'd just how a lot of people are normally.

It's a shame that the circles I'm in and mutual acquaintances of my friends all seem to be accepting and celebratory towards things like poly and coomer nonsense. I really do need a new core friend group that doesn't attract these people.

On another note, I already avoid bi spaces and groups like the plague despite being bi. Aside from the usual woke shit, hypersexuality, and propaganda about how everyone must love "chicks with dicks", it also acts like being poly is the default norm for bi people. Makes me feel like a prude, but if that's the case so be it.
 
Coffee Druid said:
It's a shame that the circles I'm in and mutual acquaintances of my friends all seem to be accepting and celebratory towards things like poly and coomer nonsense. I really do need a new core friend group that doesn't attract these people.
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Same here. Stay strong. I have a small tidbit of a story of hope, though: recently at a conference someone started bitching about if a non-profit that serves women also serves NONBINARY PEOPLE, to which I replied WHEN IT WAS CREATED THERE WERE NO NONBINARY PEOPLE, and people were actually very supportive of that answer.
 
"Is It Okay To Date Multiple People? | Adults Explain"
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and Think Before You Sleep's response video
 
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