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The Shadow said:
We have a winner.

In a broader sense this seems to afflict a lot of these "alternative" sexuality communities. "I don't feel completely masculine? Better chop my frank and beans off!", etc. People are so afraid of facing harsher realities and working through problems that they're thinking up increasingly exceptional ways to get around those problems.

I had to watch my parents go through marriage counseling at one point. And communication was one of the biggest issues between them. But they worked to improve it, and everyone's lives in our family improved. But polyamory I guess provides instant gratification and comfort for impulsive dipshits.
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A lot of poly people are individuals who are already outside of normal society and don't conform to expected behaviors. They're also likely to be people who are so autistic they don't understand why social customs exist. If they weren't poly, they'd be those people who don't understand why anyone ever gets married when it's 'just a piece of paper'. In short, these are not the types who go to counseling.
 
Crunchy Leaf said:
A lot of poly people are individuals who are already outside of normal society and don't conform to expected behaviors. They're also likely to be people who are so autistic they don't understand why social customs exist. If they weren't poly, they'd be those people who don't understand why anyone ever gets married when it's 'just a piece of paper'. In short, these are not the types who go to counseling.
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Which means they're probably the people that need it the most.
 
An old aquatnece of mine was a Bi-poly (for lack of a better term) with a Male SO and a FemaleedSO. Both of these people were the typical very awkward cucks you normally see attached to t hese people and were very obviously not happy with this arrangement. Anyway the Bi-poly one would constantly bitch and moan about how people don't accept her lifestyle or whatever (No one cared) and actually got really mad at a party where her two lovers kissed while drunk.
 
Crunchy Leaf said:
They'll go to poly-friendly counselling and get hugboxed.
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It seems like people into this sort of thing actively build an echo chamber around themselves and only surround themselves with people that think it's normal and healthy. Typically, they're fucking or trying to fuck all these people. I feel like it's another aspect of modern life that goes hand in hand with the extended childhood/Peter Pan syndrome thing where they're stuck in the teenage rebellion phase. They need another way to say "Fuck you, Mom and Dad!" while the parents they hate fund their useless lifestyles.

But let's cut to the chase look at the reality, right in the face: :suffering:
 
The Shadow said:
In a broader sense this seems to afflict a lot of these "alternative" sexuality communities. "I don't feel completely masculine? Better chop my frank and beans off!", etc. People are so afraid of facing harsher realities and working through problems that they're thinking up increasingly exceptional ways to get around those problems
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I think we see something very similar to this "thrashing" in a lot of the communitywatch threads (nice guys immediately springs to mind). In a perpetually easier, more accepting, more instant world, people are prone to panic at the drop of a hat. They lack the ability to handle inconvenience, let alone real problems.

Any strategy that does not provide the immediate gratification they get everywhere else in their lives is discarded in favor of some impossible shot that will FIX EVERYTHING.
 
Better Late than Never: Poly V'Day Dinner with me (pink mohawk), my boyfriend (across from me), his 2 husbands, and their 2 boyfriends! (archive)

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that photo alone is enough to make men grow tits

Also, I'm not as anti-poly as some in this thread, but if your primary partner has quit sleeping with you and is sleeping with other people, that seems to me like the relationship has a serious problem that should be addressed.

I mean, it's one thing for someone to have a variable sex drive due to the usual reasons (trauma/medication/menopause/illness/etc), and that's a real challenge many couples wrestle with, but if the person you're dating isn't interested in sex with you BUT is still having sex with others, y'all need to sort some shit out.
 
Hollywood Hulk Hogan said:
How does he have two husbands? That's not legally recognized in pretty much any country
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poly people often refer to people to whom they are not legally married as their spouse, or to people as their fiance/e despite having a legally recognized spouse. similar to how gay people would talk about their husband or wife before gay marriage was legalized. there's often commitment ceremonies.

I suspect the two older guys are legally married to each other.

edit: I looked through pink mohawk guy's reddit and there is a man he refers to as his husband, who is not in the above photograph. they had a handfasting, which is some kinda weird pagan wedding thing which may or may not involve getting legally married.

edit again: gay marriage wasn't legal in his state when they had a handfasting, although civil unions were. in any case they live together and changed their surnames to be the same which implies commitment to me, legal or not
 
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Crunchy Leaf said:
poly people often refer to people to whom they are not legally married as their spouse, or to people as their fiance/e despite having a legally recognized spouse. similar to how gay people would talk about their husband or wife before gay marriage was legalized. there's often commitment ceremonies.
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Isn't that just a giant red-flag that it's about a certain label more so than having several partners? As if breaking the 'marriage norm' gets their rocks off?
 
I got invited to a commitment ceremony without knowing it was some weird polyamorous "queer" thing, had to see the troon groom making out with a non wife at the makeshift alter during the ceremony, everyone was uncomfortable, these people are a fucking plague
 
sperginity said:
I got invited to a commitment ceremony without knowing it was some weird polyamorous "queer" thing, had to see the troon groom making out with a non wife at the makeshift alter during the ceremony, everyone was uncomfortable, these people are a fucking plague
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which person invited you?

also, I get why gay people would have a commitment ceremony in countries where gay marriage isn't legal, but in most of the western world that's no longer an issue. 'commitment ceremony' now makes me assume that something's not quite right with the participants.

my friend told me he got invited to a party and he didn't know the hosts were poly so it was 23 year old awkward guy who just got his first girlfriend, 23 year old girlfriend, and some 40 something dude that the girl started making out with. apparently it was awful.
 
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