I dunno. I think green shirt looks nicer personally.
I know two poly women and maybe 2 or 3 poly dudes. The dudes are all exactly what you'd expect. Fat, hairy neckbeards.
Maybe they're short or you're right that they're just bi/gay and want a beard. I will never understand why either of those guys who look 7+ are willing to be in a strings attached nonexclusive relationship with what looks like a 5.
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Except that's in a polygamy situation where the man is the one in charge. What about a polyamory situation where a woman wants to divorce one man, but her other wife(s)/husband(s) don't, and he wants to divorce someone else, but they're part of a different "polycule"... who has priority? How do you divide assets in such a case. I mean in a Muslim country there's not really any worry, kick the bitch to the curb, but in the US? Where lawyers grow under every rock?
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The one with the bond angles closest to 109.5º.
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Here is another lulzy post from r/polyamory, that does a fine job at discrediting their favorite: “Polyamory is sooo satisfying, and totally problem-free!” Narrative.
r/polyamory - My life is a polyamorus dumpster fire
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MY LIFE IS A POLYAMOROUS DUMPSTER FIRE
“Made a fresh account for some anonymity for myself and parties involved.
To give a little background on the relation times and structures, myself "L" and "C" have been in a triad for about 18 months, I've been with C over two years, and L for 3.5 roughly. Weve all lived together for as long as weve been a triad. "M", C's partner, and originally a friend of mine, moved in roughly a year ago. Letting "M" move in has pretty much ruined my life.
M moved in from out of state, they were working at the time and when they arrived. I continued to provide M with contract work and helped them as much as I could to stay on their feet. After a few months of doing a lot of the heavy lifting for their career, I asked them to start doing things for themselves, and they pretty much quit working all together. I continued to encourage and provide any necessary training if they were willing to learn and put in the work. They were not. They finally started trying to work again after several months of chastisement (mostly from me, but from C as well), but had one job interveiw they turned down(and for a pretty good reason admittedly), and did a bit of contract work for another month or two, and then quit again. There were no additional attempts at an hourly/salary job.
About the time M quit doing contract work the first time, M quit also doing chores around the house. Im no neat freak, but I do have a minimal level of comfort required when it comes to clutter and cleanliness. This wouldnt have been such a big issue, but C was a rather messy person already and never liked to clean up. L and myself were left with the large majority of chores and maintenance for 4 people now instead of just 3.
When M first moved in, C and M where enamored with each other. Compersion was strong and I was happy to see C and M so happy. The NRE was flowing like craft beer at a poly meet up. The two of them were bedding together pretty much every night, which was a drastic change from our previous schedule rotation of L and myself, C and myself, and L and C. Throw in the occasional night when I could manage the cramped bed and excess body heat of the 3 of us in the same bed. L and myself said we would let the hard pairing continue for a few months, and let them enjoy themselves. The hard bed pairing has continued since it was first established with a couple of lackluster attempts by C to sleep with L or myself, despite multiple repeated requests.
So around the fifth or six month I started to realize some things. That M might have depression, or some other sort of mental illness preventing them from doing what they want or need. Im no stranger to mental illness myself, and the stuff can rip apart relationships swiftly if not treated. I offered to get them counciling and pay for their medications multiple times, but they refused every time. It also became aparent that our largely egalitarian distribution of affection and quality time was pretty much out the window. They spent about every waking moment with each other, despite L and myselfs requests to both of them to lay up a bit, and allow C to spend time with their other partners.
At about 6 months or so, resentment had start to set in for M. Im a very non jealous person, even unnaturally so, it wasnt just standard jealousy. M had basically turned our polycule upside down at this point. The house was increasingly messy, my relationship with C was pretty much moot, M was becoming increasingly irritable and their outbursts were increasing, we were having money issues with M not working either. It was later found out by the polycule that M had not been taking their medications they had been subscribed for years because they could not afford them, and they were afraid to ask for whatever reason. M and I had some heated exchanges during this period, but it never escalated past "F*** you" and a swiftly shut door behind one of us.
We eventually got M back on their medication, and their outbursts subsided to about one a week. At this point Im pretty much done with this absolute fuster cluck, but L being the sweet and tolerant person they are, are still willing to try and work things out. That was until until one day, M threatened me. They had been having an outburst, and it was eating up my time before I had to meet a colleague for a job. I had told them to quit acting so childish, quite scathingly I might add. They snapped, came up behind me after my back was turned and said some preeeeetty awful stuff right into my ear. Basically Im terrified of M now. Nothing was openly discussed about this happening between the four of us, but I later heard from C that M had blacked out they were so angry. Absolutely scary stuff.
Id like to think that this could have all gone better. That I could have been more gentle and nuturing with M, gave them more assurance and assistance. But honestly, I dont think it would have made a difference at this point.
Long story short, lease is up, I might not have anywhere to live and may have to give up my business Ive been working on for almost 3 years. But at least I still have L, not sure how much I care for C anymore, them allowing this all to happen.
Wish me luck.”
