Polyamory General - Polyamory drama from Facebook, Reddit, and more

  • Want to keep track of this thread?
    Accounts can bookmark posts, watch threads for updates, and jump back to where you stopped reading.
    Create account
Don't Tread on Me said:
Yes. Yes, she should. The kid doesn't deserve to die because the mother realized she made a mistake. Adoption is a thing.



It's not coming to her senses. It's murder. And you should definitely shame someone for committing murder.




Abortion is linked to an increased likelihood of severe mental disorders, anxiety disorders, substance use disorders, as well as suicidal ideation and suicide attempts.

That's not necessarily "traumatic", but it does encapsulate everything about a traumatic experience that we find negative.
Click to expand...
Adoption can be traumatic too.
People should try not to get randomly pregnant in the first place, but polyamory is all about irresponsible decisions.
 
Don't Tread on Me said:
Abortion is linked to an increased likelihood of severe mental disorders, anxiety disorders, substance use disorders, as well as suicidal ideation and suicide attempts.
Click to expand...

Well how shocking that people who are mentally ill make fucked up decisions that lead to unwanted pregnancies, which are the leading cause of abortions.
 
Screenshot_20200818-143805.pngScreenshot_20200818-143811.pngScreenshot_20200818-143816.pngScreenshot_20200818-143831.pngScreenshot_20200818-143837.png
You know, mentally ill people are also more likely to kill themselves. Might not be the best idea to advertise that they are your options for a polyamorous relationship.
Screenshot_20200818-144813.png
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Screenshot_20200818-144914.pngScreenshot_20200818-144920.png
Here's my helpful tip: Leave.
 
Last edited:
fuzzyrodent85 said:
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Click to expand...

"Nesting partner" makes me shudder. It's like they think they're animals. Animals at least aren't pretentious about what they do.


fuzzyrodent85 said:
Here's my helpful tip: Leave.
Click to expand...

"She's told me that this doesn't mean I'm not enough" yeah right. Sure seems like it. And of course OP wants to "understand the situation better". As we all know, if we get upset at our supposed partners fucking other people, it just means we lack understanding. If only she understood that she can GTFO.
 
fuzzyrodent85 said:
Screenshot_20200813-173838.png You're not being "basically forced to be mono" Just leave if you want to be poly.
Click to expand...

"I came out as poly" but also "I kinda don't know what it means lol". That's a great start. She can just wing it and blame everything on confusion.

"Crush developed into something powerful" yeah you want to get fucked. Quite powerful. And of course it's about her boyfriend's "friend". It's a trainwreck waiting to happen. At least they're not married and there are no kids involved.
 
Screenshot_20200819-190917.pngScreenshot_20200819-190927.pngScreenshot_20200819-190932.pngScreenshot_20200819-190937.pngScreenshot_20200819-190943.pngScreenshot_20200819-190952.pngScreenshot_20200819-190957.png
If going from monogamy to polyamory is so stressful, than don't do it. Also, anyone want to place bets on how soon the inevitable divorce will be?
 
fuzzyrodent85 said:
View attachment 1532826View attachment 1532827View attachment 1532828View attachment 1532829View attachment 1532832View attachment 1532833View attachment 1532835
If going from monogamy to polyamory is so stressful, than don't do it. Also, anyone want to place bets on how soon the inevitable divorce will be?
Click to expand...
Just saying from my own personal experience, but when your partner wants to "open up the relationship", shit's over. It's a pretty big red flag. I used to date a guy and when we decided to get more serious, said he wanted an open relationship. Quote "I love you but I might want to have sex with other people". I was young and dumb and really liked him so I just went "k..." and hoped it would never come up again. But I had self esteem issues even before then so I felt awful constantly. Like I wasn't good enough or pretty enough and he would dump/replace me the second he found someone better. I was just temporary.

So I dumped him. Now I have no patience for that sort of stuff. When I see people going along with their partner even though they're not poly I cringe, and want to tell them to gtfo. It's selfish, really. "Your partner bringing their date home for you to meet is one of the biggest acts of love and trust they can show"? Yeah okay then.
 
Coffee Druid said:
So I dumped him.
Click to expand...
only proper reaction to this kind of bullshit

exclusivity is one of the most important parts of a relationship, it's necessary to develop that special level of trust and intimacy that separates an actual relationship from just being fuckbuddies with someone. breaching exclusivity sets in motion a chain of events that eventually makes the whole thing come apart.
 
fuzzyrodent85 said:
View attachment 1532826View attachment 1532827View attachment 1532828View attachment 1532829View attachment 1532832View attachment 1532833View attachment 1532835
If going from monogamy to polyamory is so stressful, than don't do it. Also, anyone want to place bets on how soon the inevitable divorce will be?
Click to expand...

"What isn't changing: your devotion to each other". Yeah sure. Except that's the first thing that will absolutely change, and after that it's an uphill battle until you finally get to a point where you either leave or slowly become an irrelevant doormat full of collateral cum stains. This is why you need to read at least 30 books and check back with our subreddit daily, so that this completely natural and wholesome arrangement will make sense to you, regardless of how you feel.
 
I’ve seen a trio arrangement last 5 years and that’s the absolute most. A polycule is inherently unstable due to the shifting dynamics and too many cooks stirring the pot and that’s no environment for secure attachments to form. At least with swinging or an open marriage where its a couple that just sleeps around sometimes no strings attached you can keep it away from the kids and you can just tell them the people you swing with are just friends and the rest stays in the bedroom. But in a polycule structure there are multiple figures in the kids life and they’ll attach to them and get more emotionally involved.
 
Buer said:
^Even if he doesn't say yes to poly she's already in the early stages of infidelity so she's prob going to cheat on him and blame it on him controlling her or some shit. Like, if your polyromantic or something don't get with a clingy dude it's not that hard.
Click to expand...

The real sucky part is admitting she knows her boyfriend has personal trauma from a parent cheating and leaving and then trivialising it with "he's soooo clingy, omg it was *years* ago get over it!" and yet justifying staying when they are very aware they *want* to cheat anyway. You don't actually care how your partner feels, just looking at ways to build up excuses for what you eventually aim to do, and frame it so he feels shitty for being (very understandably) upset when the "oopsy" kisses/sex with hot friend happens.

If not this guy, then it'll be the next one, and she'll talk about how noble it was of her to not fall on the first guy's dick when the fall out happens.
 
RisingPheonix said:
The real sucky part is admitting she knows her boyfriend has personal trauma from a parent cheating and leaving and then trivialising it with "he's soooo clingy, omg it was *years* ago get over it!" and yet justifying staying when they are very aware they *want* to cheat anyway. You don't actually care how your partner feels, just looking at ways to build up excuses for what you eventually aim to do, and frame it so he feels shitty for being (very understandably) upset when the "oopsy" kisses/sex with hot friend happens.

If not this guy, then it'll be the next one, and she'll talk about how noble it was of her to not fall on the first guy's dick when the fall out happens.
Click to expand...
That’s what they mean by “poly people are good at communicating.” One party expresses their feelings, the other ignores them to their convenience.
 
Last edited:
Screenshot_20200824-113219.png No.
Screenshot_20200824-113542.png "I don't want to deny myself what I want" These people are animals. Her partner is struggling with chronic pain and she's out fucking random people.
Screenshot_20200824-113620.png More like: "Talking to sane people gets me frustrated."
 
"Perusing" her desires? The word is "pursuing", you conscienceless idiot.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom