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Screenshot_20200825-153026.png Lol she admits it.
 
queerape said:
I’ve seen a trio arrangement last 5 years and that’s the absolute most. A polycule is inherently unstable due to the shifting dynamics and too many cooks stirring the pot and that’s no environment for secure attachments to form. At least with swinging or an open marriage where its a couple that just sleeps around sometimes no strings attached you can keep it away from the kids and you can just tell them the people you swing with are just friends and the rest stays in the bedroom. But in a polycule structure there are multiple figures in the kids life and they’ll attach to them and get more emotionally involved.
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“Polyamory” is woke polygamy. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that all of the countries where the practice is normalized have terrible human rights records. In the US, religious splinter sects like the Fundamentalist LDS Church (FLDS) and Branch Davidians sexually abuse women and children. It doesn’t end well in egalitarian societies, either. Utopian communities like Oneida and Kerista never lasted longer than a single generation.

I question the ethics of any married couple who’d restructure the family unit in order to accommodate their sexual appetite for extramarital sexual partners; the thought of inviting mommy’s boyfriend(s) and/or daddy’s girlfriend(s) to live with them is morally repugnant to me. Even introducing them as “family friends” seems wrong. Children are a lot more perceptive than we give them credit for.

Overall, I’m just opposed to the normalization of polygamy. It’s bad for society and it’s bad for interpersonal relationships. There’s good reason why many cultures abandoned the practice.
 
Teenage FBI said:
I question the ethics of any married couple who’d restructure the family unit in order to accommodate their sexual appetite for extramarital sexual partners; the thought of inviting mommy’s boyfriend(s) and/or daddy’s girlfriend(s) to live with them is morally repugnant to me. Even introducing them as “family friends” seems wrong. Children are a lot more perceptive than we give them credit for.
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This is the main reason why so many people find it repugnant: To do it, you must value sex more than parenting your child.


Can't remember the last time I heard "yeah my parents cheated and fucked around but I turned out fine because they always focused on me" from those people whose parents divorced.
 
"Poly relationships are normal and can be just as functional as monogamous relationships!"
*includes a whole list of relationship rules that monogamous partners don't have to worry about*
 
Crunchy Leaf said:
it means ‘this is the person I live with and dump the kids on while I go have fun’.

A child is most at risk of sexual abuse from their mother’s male partners who are not their biological father.
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Over the years I've heard stories from multiple girls raised by single moms about being molested/raped by mom's boyfriend, so I completely believe this.
 
Crunchy Leaf said:
it means ‘this is the person I live with and dump the kids on while I go have fun’.

A child is most at risk of sexual abuse from their mother’s male partners who are not their biological father.
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BadTakeCrucifier said:
Over the years I've heard stories from multiple girls raised by single moms about being molested/raped by mom's boyfriend, so I completely believe this.
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yep this is true

it comes down to primal instinct. you raising another man's kids means your own genes are getting cucked out of existence, so the immediate response is to kill those other kids and replace them with your own. this happens in other mammals too, male lions for example do this: when they take a female from another male (by killing or driving off the other male) they first kill any existing cubs the female has.
 
DumbDude42 said:
yep this is true

it comes down to primal instinct. you raising another man's kids means your own genes are getting cucked out of existence, so the immediate response is to kill those other kids and replace them with your own. this happens in other mammals too, male lions for example do this: when they take a female from another male (by killing or driving off the other male) they first kill any existing cubs the female has.
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Yeah, I'm pretty sure humans have evolved passed their primal instincts, and anyone who tries to use them as an excuse is just a shitty person.
 
Bunny Tracks said:
Yeah, I'm pretty sure humans have evolved passed their primal instincts, and anyone who tries to use them as an excuse is just a shitty person.
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a spiecies can't ever "evolve past primal instincts" my dude
this shit applies on such a fundamental level, it'd take millions of years of selection pressure to eliminate from the gene pool
 
DumbDude42 said:
a spiecies can't ever "evolve past primal instincts" my dude
this shit applies on such a fundamental level, it'd take millions of years of selection pressure to eliminate from the gene pool
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I mean, it's not like humans also have complex thoughts and emotions that explain their behavior, but okay.
 
Bunny Tracks said:
I mean, it's not like humans also have complex thoughts and emotions that explain their behavior, but okay.
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no amount of complex thought can negate a basic instinct like jealousy that is hard-wired into peoples brains
im not trying to justify or excuse abuse here, but provide an explanation why step-fathers are so much more likely to become abusive towards their step-kids than other men in their lives are
 
Bunny Tracks said:
I mean, it's not like humans also have complex thoughts and emotions that explain their behavior, but okay.
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There is a tendency is separate mind and body, human and animal, but that's just not consistent with reality. You can't out-think hunger any more than you can make yourself consciously aware of things that are happening on a subconscious level. Things like scent a huge (thus the danger of marrying a man you met while on birth control) in how we feel about other humans, but it's not like we're walking around sniffing the armpits of everyone we meet, nor are we even aware half the time that we're even smelling anything at all.
 
DumbDude42 said:
no amount of complex thought can negate a basic instinct like jealousy that is hard-wired into peoples brains
im not trying to justify or excuse abuse here, but provide an explanation why step-fathers are so much more likely to become abusive towards their step-kids than other men in their lives are
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I get what you mean, but I still think humans should be held to a higher standard. It's natural to be jealous, but it shouldn't lead you to abusing your spouse's children just because they're not yours. Anyone who does that shouldn't be breeding in the first place.
 
While I do think a lot of crime is assholes and sociopaths, some humans are as dumb as animals. I have complex thoughts and emotions which I guess some people are incapable of and this horrifies me.
 
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