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I found a "Naked VampFae Polyamorous Witch"

Here's how she got famous:



 
At this point it just reads like a bunch of friends/roommates but they also fuck around with each other. Also maybe it's the use of tiktok, but all these adults come across as cringey man/womanchildren.
 
I mean, do we need to say it again? If your partner asks to open the relationship or they come out as polyamorous, dollars to donuts they're already cheating or in the process of cheating. The first time they so much as ask, break it off.
Same thing if they ask for a break where you're allowed to see other people. They're bored with you and want to fuck someone else, but too chickenshit to end it.
well someone has to work to pay the bills and fucking around hardly pays them unless you live in the Thottery world, which most don't because they see themselves as "higher than that" while being dumber by not making dough from it.
 
I brought it up earlier in this thread, but I really wonder if harem anime has poisoned some people's perception of relationships. I'm not talking about people who just watch it for fun/as a guilty pleasure and that's it. But there are people who seem to take away from them that if you're an average dude you can totally get a smorgasboard of hot chicks and it's normal. I've known some people like that.

I used to be naive and think "oh, it's just a different relationship style that works for some people". Now I'm just jaded (partly from personal experience) and every time I see someone on social media mention poly I just think "gross" in my mind. Call me pessimistic but this thread shows how dysfunctional it all is.

I saw some pages shared from a manga called Hare Kon. The art looked nice and the male love interest looked kind of handsome. I hadn't read a full on romance manga in forever so I tried it. The plot was apparently about a "Hare Kon", aka a legal polygamous marriage system a fictional Japanese town was doing. The main female lead got pulled into one against her better judgement to pay off a family debt. You know how it goes. I guess the comic does go into the relationships between her, the husband and the other two wives and their feelings on it but I haven't read super far. Wasn't interested in such a plot. Plus the male lead was a prick. The marriage system was supposedly to combat low birth rates, but why not just, you know, advocate for more couples getting married and having kids? They never mentioned any gender gap between men and women so it makes little sense. Also obviously it was "one husband and up to four wives." Women couldn't just have more than one husband. It's a little off topic for this thread but polygamous marriages with one (usually male) head of household bug the shit out of me. Props for a different take on a romance drama/love quadrangle but no thanks for glorifying that sort of thing.
 
brought it up earlier in this thread, but I really wonder if harem anime has poisoned some people's perception of relationships.
I think the majority it's just not being able to interpret their own natural urges of being attracted to someone else while in a relationship mixed in with being unable to distinguish between friendship and a relationship.

That or people who just want to fuck around but want to be oh so superior so slap a fancy label on it and pretend it's a working relationship rather than a disappointing orgy where the participants won't fuck off afterwards.
 
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It's a little off topic for this thread but polygamous marriages with one (usually male) head of household bug the shit out of me.
Only, historically, that's the only way any of this has ever, ever worked. No culture on earth, save maybe some tiny African tribe with a huge male death rate, has practiced polyandry. That isn't a coincidence.
 
Only, historically, that's the only way any of this has ever, ever worked. No culture on earth, save maybe some tiny African tribe with a huge male death rate, has practiced polyandry. That isn't a coincidence.
And asians* used to have such households irl anyway.

*atleast Mongol and Chinese, I think
 
I brought it up earlier in this thread, but I really wonder if harem anime has poisoned some people's perception of relationships.
i doubt it
i can see ecchi and hentai turning dudes into lecherous perverts, but as far as the portrayal of actual relationships go, anime overall is probably more healthy and normal than contemporary western media lol
(disclaimer: i dont actually know much about anime, this is just the impression i get from what little i am occasionally exposed to via second hand mentions from the weebs i associate with)
 
Polygamy doesn't work because it means you end up with a lot of unmarried young men.

Look up the ”lost boys” in fundamentalist Mormonism.
works when your society is belligerent enough to wage perpetual wars that constantly grind away the surplus men (they either die in battle or achieve victory and take slave-wives from the conquered enemy)

it's not suited for prolonged times of peace though cause then you indeed end up with a bunch of surplus men who have no wife, no family, no future
 
works when your society is belligerent enough to wage perpetual wars that constantly grind away the surplus men
Which was basically one of the reasons why the idea of polygamy was made up by Joseph Smith revealed to him after he looked at magical rocks in a hat.

Mormonism was mainly practiced by white settlers on the frontier who would naturally have come into contact with Indians, and the Mormons wanted a theocratic state in territory the US claimed which would have brought them into conflict with the US. I'd be very surprised if Brigham Young envisioned anything other than perpetual war with the ”gentiles” for Deseret.
 
Only, historically, that's the only way any of this has ever, ever worked. No culture on earth, save maybe some tiny African tribe with a huge male death rate, has practiced polyandry. That isn't a coincidence.
A lot of the times that worked only because the men would die in war and then their widow would need someone to look after them, so they'd marry their husbands brother or something similar.

It doesn't work in other situations because it leads to a lot of young, frustrated men which is never good for a society.
 
Only, historically, that's the only way any of this has ever, ever worked. No culture on earth, save maybe some tiny African tribe with a huge male death rate, has practiced polyandry. That isn't a coincidence.
Think it is literally the opposite. Women were in short quantity and needed to be shared. Think it is somewhere in Nepal this is practiced, where brothers marry one woman. It is a successful strategy when you think about it. She gets the resources of two males. The males know either way, she is carrying on their genetic legacy. Either the kid is a nephew/niece or son/daughter. Not excusing it, but looking at it that way, it makes as much sense as men trying to fuck as many women as possible.
 
Think it is literally the opposite. Women were in short quantity and needed to be shared. Think it is somewhere in Nepal this is practiced, where brothers marry one woman. It is a successful strategy when you think about it. She gets the resources of two males. The males know either way, she is carrying on their genetic legacy. Either the kid is a nephew/niece or son/daughter. Not excusing it, but looking at it that way, it makes as much sense as men trying to fuck as many women as possible.

why would that situation (tons of surplus men, not enough women to go around) arise in the first place though if they aren't practicing polygyny?
the opposite situation (lack of men) happens easily, almost naturally, cause men get themselves killed off in large numbers by waging war on rival tribes or nations. women don't do that though, so how would a lack of women arise? large scale sex-selective infanticide/abortion maybe?
 
why would that situation (tons of surplus men, not enough women to go around) arise in the first place though if they aren't practicing polygyny?
the opposite situation (lack of men) happens easily, almost naturally, cause men get themselves killed off in large numbers by waging war on rival tribes or nations. women don't do that though, so how would a lack of women arise? large scale sex-selective infanticide/abortion maybe?
Dunno, but you can run down the rabbit hole here https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/02/when-taking-multiple-husbands-makes-sense/272726/
 
why would that situation (tons of surplus men, not enough women to go around) arise in the first place though if they aren't practicing polygyny?
the opposite situation (lack of men) happens easily, almost naturally, cause men get themselves killed off in large numbers by waging war on rival tribes or nations. women don't do that though, so how would a lack of women arise? large scale sex-selective infanticide/abortion maybe?

IIRC, it's about preventing the fracturing of farms between brothers during inheritance in a tremendously mountainous region where fertile land is scarce and precious.
 
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