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What do you guys think is worse? A couple who enters a polyamorous relationship and the woman ends up falling for and leaves the man for the new man, or a woman?

Personally, there is something so much more cringe-inducing and pitiable about a man losing his woman to another woman. I can't imagine how soul-crushing and humiliating that must be. I feel like if a woman falls for another guy in these arrangements, it's sort of expected. She's just a horny bitch who wants to get out of her current boring relationship but is too scared to be alone, and in her mind she isn't a cheater. Hopping on another guys cock is what this type of skank would do. But another woman? A woman is the man's sexual and romantic competition and he lost? That's seems so much worse even though I'm having a hard time putting into words exactly why.
 
Black ContraPoints said:
What do you guys think is worse? A couple who enters a polyamorous relationship and the woman ends up falling for and leaves the man for the new man, or a woman?

Personally, there is something so much more cringe-inducing and pitiable about a man losing his woman to another woman. I can't imagine how soul-crushing and humiliating that must be. I feel like if a woman falls for another guy in these arrangements, it's sort of expected. She's just a horny bitch who wants to get out of her current boring relationship but is too scared to be alone, and in her mind she isn't a cheater. Hopping on another guys cock is what this type of skank would do. But another woman? A woman is the man's sexual and romantic competition and he lost? That's seems so much worse even though I'm having a hard time putting into words exactly why.
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For me the assumption that a woman could never choose a woman over a man really bothers me, and so that's why all of these "straight male, two bisexual females" arrangements exist, because the man assumes that his girlfriend/wife will always prioritize dick in her life and therefore adding an additional woman to the arrangement should have no ill effect (which to be honest is usually a correct assumption). That's why I would get an odd satisfaction out of said man being proven wrong for once. Just because you've added another female doesn't mean it's impossible to become a cuck, it's an arrogant belief. If he's the one who came up with the poly arrangement, it's his own damn fault.
 
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scathefire said:
For me I the assumption that a woman could never choose a woman over a man really bothers me, and so that's why all of these "straight male, two bisexual females" arrangements exist, because the man assumes that his girlfriend/wife will always prioritize dick in her life and therefore adding an additional woman to the arrangement should have no ill effect (which to be honest is usually a correct assumption). That's why I would get an odd satisfaction out of said man being proven wrong for once. Just because you've added another female doesn't mean it's impossible to become a cuck, it's an arrogant belief. If he's the one who came up with the poly arrangement, it's his own damn fault.
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I guess I look at it from my own perspective where, if my man was intimate with another woman it would certainly be painful, but if he was intimate with another man that would be a level of betrayal that would probably end with me doing some serious time.

I'm not shocked or offended that a woman would choose another woman over a dick necessarily, I just look at the guy a little differently. In my own mind that would feel so much worse but people clearly disagree.
 
scathefire said:
For me the assumption that a woman could never choose a woman over a man really bothers me, and so that's why all of these "straight male, two bisexual females" arrangements exist, because the man assumes that his girlfriend/wife will always prioritize dick in her life and therefore adding an additional woman to the arrangement should have no ill effect (which to be honest is usually a correct assumption). That's why I would get an odd satisfaction out of said man being proven wrong for once. Just because you've added another female doesn't mean it's impossible to become a cuck, it's an arrogant belief. If he's the one who came up with the poly arrangement, it's his own damn fault.
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This is kind of what I'm hoping for with the situation I'm monitoring.
 
NoReturn said:
Did you guys know there are multiple polyamory compilations on YouTube? Well now you do.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=F6N8BNv7Z1c@0:50: CUUUUUUUUUUUCK
https://youtube.com/watch?v=EbxlACSgzdk0:00: What the fuck am I looking at.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=aWyBNh5xsFY4:53: They always look like this
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Anyone that has to perform this hard to prove that their relationship(s) are happy and stable, are not in happy or stable relationships. Every single one of these polycules is one "ate the last pringle" or "left the milk out too long" or "won't stop dicking down the new girl and ignores me" away from a complete collapse.
 
Black ContraPoints said:
What do you guys think is worse? A couple who enters a polyamorous relationship and the woman ends up falling for and leaves the man for the new man, or a woman?

Personally, there is something so much more cringe-inducing and pitiable about a man losing his woman to another woman. I can't imagine how soul-crushing and humiliating that must be. I feel like if a woman falls for another guy in these arrangements, it's sort of expected. She's just a horny bitch who wants to get out of her current boring relationship but is too scared to be alone, and in her mind she isn't a cheater. Hopping on another guys cock is what this type of skank would do. But another woman? A woman is the man's sexual and romantic competition and he lost? That's seems so much worse even though I'm having a hard time putting into words exactly why.
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I mean, Ross from FRIENDS lost a wife to a lesbian and he is the laughing stock for it.

He almost loses another wife in the same fashion and another one had lesbian experiences
 
Dear lord, one of my close mutual friend couples has decided to go poly. The guy literally phrased it as “trying to build a harem.” It’s no surprise, since they’re both into that kind of anime. Apparently the guy already has a date with another prospective girl. I have the feeling the guy initiated it since the girl isn’t as interested in sex for various reasons. She phrased it as “being able to have female friends who are into the same guy.” Sounds like cope.

It primarily bugs be because they have a young child, and that might get confusing for the kid. Plus they made a big deal awhile back about breaking up, trying to date other people, and getting back together because they loved each other so much still. So I guess that meant nothing. In the end it’s none of my concern, but the fact it’s invaded my close friend group (though not the first time) is a little annoying. Maybe it will actually work out for them. Maybe not.
 
I'm honestly so glad I left most of my uni friends behind, they WERE those people who both wanted and pushed poly on everyone. While it might work for 1% of couples, it didnt work once out of the 50 or so people i knew who tried it.

Maybe its a part of growing up, but i absolutely swear by finding friends who actively/vocally dislike it. Past 25 those people were largely gone, by 30 they were all gone. Its really really REALLY not worth the drama/effort to be friends with these people. Anybody doing this shit past 25, the upper most limit for fucking around at uni and in life, needs to grow the fuck up.
 
Coffee Druid said:
Dear lord, one of my close mutual friend couples has decided to go poly. The guy literally phrased it as “trying to build a harem.” It’s no surprise, since they’re both into that kind of anime. Apparently the guy already has a date with another prospective girl. I have the feeling the guy initiated it since the girl isn’t as interested in sex for various reasons. She phrased it as “being able to have female friends who are into the same guy.” Sounds like cope.
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Sounds like she needs some self-esteem and he needs to stop the anime for keeps. If a man utters the words 'I'm trying to build a harem' and isn't with derision there's layers of failure on hand.

You're likely to be hearing a lot of bullshit about their attempts at the arrangement and so will that kid. Good luck to the both of you, especially the child given its either going to turn into a nasty environment or there's a divorce in their future.
 
Coffee Druid said:
The guy literally phrased it as “trying to build a harem.” It’s no surprise, since they’re both into that kind of anime.
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This is probably the funniest fucking line I've read in the thread so far.

I don't blame you on the kid though- if one invites the wrong person into their lives, the kid can get the ass end of it. And a house full of discord isn't easy either. That woman needs to fuck off from him, I feel sorry for her but her kid and her happiness is on the line. :(
 
DarkSoulsPhil said:
I'm honestly so glad I left most of my uni friends behind, they WERE those people who both wanted and pushed poly on everyone. While it might work for 1% of couples, it didnt work once out of the 50 or so people i knew who tried it.

Maybe its a part of growing up, but i absolutely swear by finding friends who actively/vocally dislike it. Past 25 those people were largely gone, by 30 they were all gone. Its really really REALLY not worth the drama/effort to be friends with these people. Anybody doing this shit past 25, the upper most limit for fucking around at uni and in life, needs to grow the fuck up.
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They're mid-20s so maybe they still have to grow out of it. I sometimes feel MOTI, but there really is no other place I know to even critique poly stuff besides the farms. The few social media I use will glorify it if it comes up, and a lot of my friends, even if they wouldn't be poly themselves, would still say "it can work with communication and respect and everything!" Maybe, but...not really if this thread is anything to go by.
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This is probably the funniest fucking line I've read in the thread so far.

I don't blame you on the kid though- if one invites the wrong person into their lives, the kid can get the ass end of it. And a house full of discord isn't easy either. That woman needs to fuck off from him, I feel sorry for her but her kid and her happiness is on the line. :(
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I do feel better in that the woman is the main breadwinner in the couple. The guy can't really hold a job for longer than a few months. And they're not married yet (just engaged), so if worst comes to worst it won't be as hard to break things off if she decides to go her own way. I'll just observe from the sidelines I suppose.

Lobster Cult High Priest said:
And then your women will constantly try to kill each other’s children/sons so that their son will be your heir
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I hate harem anime. But I find it hilarious the only "harem" manga I've ever read was a historical one set in a Persian harem where it went exactly like that.
 
Coffee Druid said:
But I find it hilarious the only "harem" manga I've ever read was a historical one set in a Persian harem where it went exactly like
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First of all, what is that manga called, I need that in my life.

Second, someone should show this guy how even countries that allow multiple wives imply you gotta care about them and provide equally, doubt he could do that.

And third, I seriously doubt he is hot enough for even two girls to be interested in him simulatenously. Let alone entire harem.
 
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Plus they made a big deal awhile back about breaking up, trying to date other people, and getting back together because they loved each other so much still. So I guess that meant nothing.
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It sounds like neither of them were able to get any dates, so they got back together. And now he’s going to try and build a harem….
 
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