Polyamory

[The Knife's Husbando]

Never seen the appeal of the whole "poly" thing. To me it smacks of just having a lack of commitment and honor.

Also, having sex with two people is like driving two cars across town at the same time by yourself: It involves a lot of starting, stopping, getting in, getting out- and you don't get anywhere in a hurry.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

Fact is, people don't behave rationally, and they're particularly irrational when it comes to love.

That just means that we need to be especially careful to not be irrational in relationships
(In this case rational means to do what is in ones best interest)

Lol have you seen the Polyamory Group thread

The fact that only low quality people are polyamorous is irrelevant to the issue of polyamory in the abstract

 

[Dr. Boe Jangles Esq.]

That just means that we need to be especially careful to not be irrational in relationships
(In this case rational means to do what is in ones best interest)

With all due respect, how new is this relationship of yours? The woman I want to grow old with has thrown a fucking lamp at me during an argument about laundry. To this day, she maintains it was warranted. Behaving rationally is kinda out the window once things get serious. I would also say that if you're always acting in your own best interest, you need to seriously reevaluate your approach to a relationship.

 

[The Knife's Husbando]

That just means that we need to be especially careful to not be irrational in relationships
(In this case rational means to do what is in ones best interest)

The fact that only low quality people are polyamorous is irrelevant to the issue of polyamory in the abstract

Using plain, cold scientific logic to try to plumb a healthy give-and-take emotional relationship is like trying to drive a nail with a tennis racquet.

 

[Hollywood Hulk Hogan]

I think the only time i ever used maths with a relationship was to integrate my natural log

My galpal likes it when I use a LaPlace transformation on her

 

[AnOminous]

That is an attempt to avoid the principal agent problem and is a completely different issue. People want what is best for their children and especially rich parents will likely be able to provide something better than what even a well functioning state schooling program can bring

Taking care of one's own children is genetically hardcoded into humans at the most basic level.

 

[Johnny Bravo]

The same reason why you should use mathematical equations while making a rocket to send into space. Sometimes the intuitive thing will not work and by using math you can think more critically about the situation and avoid a disastrous outcome

You should at least factor in the variable of human nature. I would think that you would need a much more precise equation in this case, as the people involved in the relationship will have an impact on the outcome, and for that you would need to know exactly what kind of people are in the relationship and assign values to them. Otherwise it's just random. That's why polyamorus relationships won't work in most cases. You would need just the right set of people.

 

[Magpie]

A good relationship takes time, dedication, and the right people in it. That is hard enough to pull off with two people unless their chemistry is spot on. People get jealous, people get insecure, people play favorites, people have aspirations that may strain the relationship - the list goes on. The concept of love is about as abstract as it gets. No amount of equations can take those things into account, and it's a waste of time to try and make things happen that way. Humans aren't robots. There is a lot more to relationships than finding a mate to pop out offspring with. It's almost insulting to see romantic interactions as nothing more than something utilitarian.

Monogamous relationships are easier to manage - not to discount them by any means - and they're as rewarding as polyamorous ones (provided they're both good). Most can't or simply don't want to engage in polyamory, and that just is what it is.

 

[Joan Nyan]

I think the only time i ever used maths with a relationship was to integrate my natural log

The limit of length of relationship as math used approaches infinity equals zero.

 

[*Asterisk*]

If anybody thinks polyamory is even remotely a good idea, they need to read Prophet's Prey. Traditional polyamory is fundamentally incompatible with human rights, and hippy-dippy "free love" polyamory is fundamentally incompatible with civil welfare.

There are also usually ways to scratch this itch without drama. Like if you're a guy who has a thing for girl-on-girl action. Just hire two escorts, and tell them to go nuts on each other. Sure, it'll damper your bragging rights. But if your egos so fragile that sex is only about assuaging it for you, your too much of a fucking baby to have a romantic relationship with anyone.

That said, if you and your SO wanna fuck around, even though it's a bad idea and is guaranteed to go south, I only think the law should step in if there's a family that needs to be looked after.

 

[Strelok]

I've mentioning this is other similar threads but, trying to boil everything down to "statistics" and "rational actors" is a completely meaningless exercise. People don't make informed decisions about everything, people are not robots, and attempting to use statistics on a personal relationship basis makes you a weird autist who thinks other humans are a video game you can"win".

Ontopic, the fact that 50% of 1 to 1 marriages fail these days should be enough to clue you in that adding more people in only exacerbates the problems. People change, and people make impulse decisions, and people grow distant over time. What happens when there's person A B C and D all in a relationship, and A and B fall out, but B is still friends with C and A is still friends with D and by friends I mean fucking each other in the same house.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

attempting to use statistics on a personal relationship basis makes you a weird autist who thinks other humans are a video game you can"win".

That isn't a bad thing either. In fact it is the foundation of economic theory and the free market

 

[Strelok]

That isn't a bad thing either. In fact it is the foundation of economic theory and the free market

Bro are you trolling us? Are you saying you use motherfucking free market theory when looking for a date?

 

[AnOminous]

That isn't a bad thing either. In fact it is the foundation of economic theory and the free market

No, being a weird autist is a bad thing.

 

[Vitriol]

I think this thread has reached its logical end. Most of us think polyamory is too complicated to work and ADK is doing his usual thing. If anyone desperately wants to continue pm myself or valiant and we'll reopen.