Forewarning, this deals heavily with sexual abuse of people I hold near to my heart. I can't expect or demand users of a shitposting site to not act like fools, but... Please.
I met my wife Jessica in high school, although we didn't date while I was in. She had skipped a grade so was slightly younger than the rest of the class, around 15 months younger than me. At some point after I came back from Georgia after emancipating we linked back up through our mutual then-friend Brittany. Vaguely April 2005.
At this point I was dropped out and working 2 jobs, a warehousing job during the day and Pizza Hut during the evenings.
I did have a cheap car, a 1986 Ford Escort in.... abysmal body condition but quite good engine condition. I was the first in Jessica's small circle of friends to have a car.
During a random mall outing Jessica told me she did not have a date to the senior prom, which is what prompted me to ask her out.
You'll never guess her answer. /sneed
This is what led to me meeting Jessica's mother, Michelle. She wanted to meet me before I took Jess to the prom - sensible enough. I'd been to the house a number of times but Michelle had always been working or upstairs (her bedroom was in the finished attic and she rarely came down while the kids were there; Jess did most of the raising.)
Michelle made dinner, Jess and her little siblings (oldest to youngest: Alexandria, Stevie, Whitney) and I played Super Nintendo in the living room, decent enough time. I get ready to go for the night and Whitney wants a ride in my car. She's maybe 5. I've always said not without permission. She gets permission, Jess gets her buckled into the back seat and off we go at the blazing speed of 10 mph around the block. I don't know this until years later: while I'm driving off around the block Michelle blurts out to Jessica (who is about 16) "He looks like a pedophile." Jessica is too stunned to say anything.
With that setting the stage, let's dive right into Michelle's history with "sexual abusers." This is mostly from either Ellie (Michelle's mother/Jessica's Grandmother) or Jessica.
Michelle has an history of... inaccuracy. She plays up the pain card (she does have some legit nerve issues in her feet) to avoid doing virtually anything at all. When there's drama she has to make it all about herself. One particularly egregious time was during the funeral of one of Alexandria's children, Michelle kept bawling that she doesn't know what she did wrong, she just wants to be back in her kids' life,
why was Jessica rejecting her?! *
According to Ellie, Michelle has had a habit since she was a teenager of accusing men of impropriety in response to some perceived slight. If memory serves there are 3 known: a teacher in high school, the dad of one of her friends, and one of Ellie's coworkers.
There is a chance I am offbase on the specific relationships. Whatever the actual relations were the accusation always came about after Michelle got huffy over something, and in at least 1 of the situations the guy was confirmed somewhere else entirely at the supposed time.
When Jessica and Alexandria (approximately ages 4 and 2) were being sexually abused by the adult babysitter (Chris) down the street she did actually confront him at some point. He swore up and down that nope, never, nuh uh, and so the kids stayed under his daily supervision for another year or so. It took a class action prosecution (probably not the right term) from ALL of the other girls in his care to get him nailed. His wife apparently was in on it or protecting him in some way. He died about a decade ago, Jess saw the obit and called me, happy-crying. It's the only time I've ever known her to be glad of another person's misfortune (and frankly I'm kinda proud that she was.)
Whitney was fathered by another man, nicknamed Bear (I don't know his real name.) He is an extremely tall, extremely bulky, and extremely fat black man. I have never met him. I don't know much about him except that he used to physically beat the kids (putting Stevie in the hospital at one point) and sexually abused Jessica when she was around 10 years old. I don't know if he sexually abused either Alexandria or Stevie. I do know that at one point Bear and Jessica and Whitney were in a hotel(?) when Bear was apparently feeling randy. He started to take advantage of Jessica and wanted to incorporate Whitney (who was obviously even younger than when I met her.) Jessica tuned out her own abuse but lost her shit when he started trying to bring Whitney over, actually screaming at him. To everyone's knowledge Bear did not try anything else with Whitney after that.
As I understand it, it was due to the beatings by Bear that Jessica was afraid to tell Michelle about the sexual abuse. Eventually Bear beat Michelle instead of the kids one night. Being the self-centered wench that she is Michelle decided THAT was when Bear went over the line, and kicked him out. Michelle was perfectly fine, however, letting Bear punch and belt whip the kids for such godawful offenses as "taking too long with after-dinner dishes."
Not long afterward he got kicked to the curb Jessica finally got the courage to tell Michelle about Bear. There was a police investigation but no charges were ever brought; Bear has never had any further contact with the kids in the couple decades since, including Whitney (afaik.)
I don't know about her choice in men other than her longterm, now deceased, permanent fiance. Darrell Yopp was a grizzled old asshole factory worker. He smoked even more than Michelle so the two of them together meant a tangible cloud of burned tobacco. For almost the entire time I knew him (so since 2005) he was dying of emphysema. He was literally one of those idiots that would take off his oxygen mask to take a puff on his cigarette. In the summer of 2005 I was invited to go camping with the family. A few days into it, some kind soul put up Darrell's sex offender notice, which was entirely news to everyone
except Michelle. He apparently did 7 years for raping a 14 year old in Massachusetts, with more pending except for an admin paperwork mess up. His claim was the the woman recanted. He also apparently made the news:
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Michelle has been chronically unemployed and in constant danger of losing both the house and her van ever since I met her. When the city had a window of time that they were going to remodel all the lead pipes out of the house on the taxpayer's dime she couldn't be bothered to fill out the paperwork. Eventually the city muscled in to replace it anyways. They did not muscle in for the lead paint that the exterior is covered with despite also having a similar program. The kicker is that she got the house when the old landlord didn't pay
his bill. The city decided not to evict the tenants (Michelle and the kids) and so it just sort of defaulted into her possession. In the 2 decades since this occurred Michelle has not paid off the balance of the loan, which was about 12k.
That's not for lack of money! Oh no, you see, Michelle helped herself to a loan in Jessica's name during Jessica's college admission timeframe. "Jessica" took out a 20k student loan with Darrell as a cosigner. Never mind the fact that Darrell was actually in jail on some short-term charge on the day the loan was signed - or that Jessica just plum forgot about signing it herself! The authorities got a handwritting expert to look at the checks and paperwork surrounding all this, concluded everything was forged, and issued a recommendation to the credit companies to take it of Jessica's reports - they always comply and then it magically pops back up in collections in Jessica's name again, so that's fun. Michelle has never been charged despite the money going into her account and a clear record of it being spent by her. We didn't know about the loan for several years, though, until which time it had ballooned to a nice 30k. To top it all off, about the time the loan happened Michelle decided to lock Jessica out of her own account ("Child on a Parent account" type of setup) and essentially froze ~150 bucks of Jessica's own legitimate cash. I was around by that point and we went multiple times to Great Western bank and eventually got the lock overridden... I raised a lot of hell for a lot of days, they were probably just sick of seeing the name and backdoored the policy on what was obviously Jessica's cash.
Age of majority is 19 in Nebraska so Jessica couldn't get married unless Michelle signed off, which she wouldn't. Jess turned 18 while I was in Basic so we went over to Iowa to get married while I was home on after-Basic leave. We had a courthouse wedding with a few friends in attendance. When Michelle became aware of our marriage she balked and demanded to know why she hadn't been invited. She did not like our response.
After I got in the military and Jessica and I found a place in Lawton we went back home to Nebraska for Christmas. I only had a 4 day pass so everything was kind of whirlwind. We were literally packing up the car and saying our goodbyes when Whitney asked to come visit since her winter break had just started. Told her to get permission, which was granted, and then we packed her up too.
This is the timeframe that the rape charge alleged to have occurred. We went back to Lawton where promptly nothing happened for 2 weeks. We watched DVDs, played PS2 (Whitney really liked Onimusha) and did a whole lot of nothing because we were too poor to do otherwise.
Jessica had arranged to meet Michelle in Kansas to hand off Whitney, so the day Whitney went back Jessica dropped me off at work and took the car. I hugged them goodbye, did whatever I did that day, and got a ride home. Jessica got home a little while after me, and a short while later she got a phone call from her mother.
According to Michelle:
Whitney had been really quiet on the ride home. Later, she woke Michelle up from a nap to say that I raped her, brutally, continuously, for two weeks straight. There were ropes involved and sometimes (but not always?) I would duct tape her mouth. All of this on a futon bed next to Jessica, who slept through the entire thing every time.
I am confused, and hurt, and angry.
So naturally Whitney was taken to a forensic examination that night and a forensic interview not long after (I think the next day.) The rape kit comes back entirely negative of any of my DNA, and there are no signs of any bruising, swelling, scratches, or abrasions. In the interview Whitney sits down and immediately starts drawing a penis, does some cartwheels, smiles for the camera, then refutes her own statements (she says maybe she had a dream about it) in the second half of the interview, after the staff member leaves for a few minutes then comes back. In short, it was a
wild and
bewildering little chat.
I explicitly told my chain of command about the Whitney allegations because I did not want them to be blindsided. Later on, LPD contacted my chain of command and informed them of the investigation themselves, asking to have someone escort me to the station for questioning. (They complied of course.) There is
no way the military did not know of the case at the time.
The Omaha police, the Lawton police, and CID all decline to prosecute at the time because of the decided lack of evidence. Michelle alternates between:
- telling people that the rape kit
is positive but that Omaha police are too scared to do anything (wtf?) and that
- the only reason it's negative is because my penis is so skinny it just didn't do any damage to an unwilling, tortured 7 year old. Supposing that's true, it doesn't account for negative DNA.
The family rather fractured over all this, some people siding with Michelle+Whitney and some people siding with, you know, the evidence.
Now, to be clear, I do not blame Whitney in any way. She's kind of a gullible child and prone to believing little lies her mom says, let alone being beat over the head with the mother lode lie of
JASON BRUTALLY RAPED YOU AND JESSICA CHOSE HIM for the last decade.
For a long time this boiled up and caused issues with things like Christmas visits, but sorta subsided over time.
When CID contacted Autumn for her interview in my investigation she told CID about Whitney. To this day I have no idea about how she knew. Now,
CID should have already known, but let's ignore that. To them this was considered a fresh investigation, for reasons. They contact Michelle and Whitney. Yay.
Michelle started telling everyone that they finally have a real positive rape kit featuring my DNA in Whitney (I can assure you, they did not.)**
Jessica started really distancing herself and no longer let my oldest son (only son, about 4 at that point) go over to Michelle's house after he came home one day in tears saying that Michelle was trying to get him to say that I was touching
him inappropriately. Jessica asked him directly if I ever did and he bawls even harder "NO! That's why I didn't say it! I didn't want to lie!"
I was furious when I found out.
Jessica kinda anticipated my anger and lead the conversation with, "before you say anything just know that Tobias isn't going back to Mom's ever again." She's a smart lady, my wife. I mean that.
When Jessica and Tobias finally moved back down to Oklahoma there was one concerning incident where Tobias got real moody because something reminded him of Grandma Michelle. The best we could get out of him was there was a game he didn't like. He seemed to indicate that he wasn't touched in anyway, but fuck it, just more fuel for the fire of getting this lady out of our lives.
It's around this point that Ellie begins to distance herself from Michelle, so we hear through the grapevine about how Michelle feels like her whole family is abandoning her.
*Fall of 2014 is the funeral for Jessica's nephew with Michelle trying to make it about her. I hope it's obvious why no one cared.
Shortly thereafter we learn there is yet another old allegation with Whitney. According to the report Alexandria (remember, middle sister) took a sharp kitchen knife, bent Whitney's bare body over her knee, and stuck the blade slowly and deliberately into her anus for an extended period of time. I don't know what happened in the aftermath of this report and Jessica hadn't heard it before discovery.
Leading up to the trial there's cheerful chatter from Michelle's way about all the cool STUFF they are going to buy with the victim compensation fund (3k/month!) once I'm convicted. The prosecutor also apparently treated them quite nice with a fancy hotel and multiple expensive dinners. Michelle also tells people that I had CP on my phone, that I took it to work, and that CID showed her the illegal porn on my phone in preparation for the trial. (Phone never had illegal content and they wouldn't have shown her if it did.)
**At the trial the prosecution objects to the rape kit's inclusion on the basis that it's a "routine business document." Since the judge
agreed the rape kit... of the alleged rape I was tried on... is not actually in evidence despite the
defense's attempt to submit it to the court. Let that sink in.
Ellie no longer associates with Michelle. While I was imprisoned she sent me a letter stating how awful she felt that her daughter contributed to all of the legal mess.
I don't really know much more than that except to know that Michelle is guiding Whitney to a seriously bad mistake already in action. You see, shortly after I got locked up Whitney met a boy and got pregnant (around 16-17 at this point.) The boy doesn't know because Michelle utterly refused to let Whitney tell him. I don't know why she didn't, but there you go. My guess is Melanie is going to be used as pawn in some backpay child support extortion scheme down the line.
Thanks for everything Michelle, you diseased stain on my life. I hope you choke on the lead paint your wretched ass wouldn't get fixed before you damage my wife and sons' lives any further.
Afterthought.
I am entirely pleased to report that Whitney (ergo Michelle) did not get a cut of that sweet, sweet pity fund due to not being a victim, both legally and in reality.