Question for creatives: How did you get over yourself?

[Paul-Denton]

This is an embarassing a general question for anyone who's undertaken a creative endeavor that they inevitably released for more eyes to see. Like everyone else on the planet I often have a lot of things to say about shit I love and have been wanting to make youtube videos but every time I sit down to do it I can't overcome my fear of ridicule or complete failure. Have any of you had this problem where your ego's protectiveness has superceded your desire to create anything at all? If so, did anything make everything click? I can tell myself that nothing matters and it's a literal drop in an ocean but for some reason I get stopped in my tracks no matter the medium.

 

[Gay Joker]

You should always upload it to kiwi farms first to use us as a test group so you know whether its good or not.

 

[twinArmageddons]

i just stare at it then all the courage goes to the finger and i click send and regret it later

 

[卐卐卐]

i just go damn ive been smoking a bunch of weed and im neurotic and this doesnt reflect reality. then proceed to do nothing and stall. pretty based imo.

 

[卐卐卐]

Also spending most of ur free time where any retard with half a beating heart can ridicule and a-log extremely minor things will def affect your psyche and desire to output creatively. JUST A GUESS.

 

[Paul-Denton]

Also spending most of ur free time where any retard with half a beating heart can ridicule and a-log extremely minor things will def affect your psyche and desire to output creatively. JUST A GUESS.

while true, I feel like i've always had this unshakeable fear of failure. Really just gotta bite the bullet and do it.

 

[peachlover669]

You dont and you lead a life of unfulfillement never realizing your potential. Or you could just stop caring about what other people think, your choice.

 

[We Are The Witches]

Sure, maybe you're a perfectionist, and the thought of being sub-par in something is not pleasing, you put heavier standards on yourself because it might be tied to your value as a person (in your mind); I don't know if you're this type, but if you are, you might need to evolve out of that.

If that's the case, and you value effort, then put it in your work. Whatever that comes as a creation will then be the genuine product of your skills, and even if lacking at first, greatness can be achieved through honing/improving over time, instead of remaining stagnant.

Also, consider the passion for what you do. Greatness often requires that, even if you're not that good at it during your fist steps; consider that it's better to have passion for something: having fun and enjoying it even while failing, rather than being a genius at it, but being bored or not as enthusiastic, breaking at the first sign of failure.

And finally, note that failing here (in your mind) is through the opinion of others, them not liking it or mocking it, which is ultimately irrelevant, when the real failure is you caring so much about that, that will impact how much fun you'll have with your creation.

In essence: if you enjoy what you create, put a satisfactory amount of effort in it & make it yours, someone not liking it is simply their opinion, and one that should not impact your drive (if you actually have it to begin with).

Think about it, if you like what you made, and they don't, then it's simply a different perspective, why would their likes/dislikes be superior to yours? Specially when in regards to art?

 

[Kamway]

My first video was trash. So were the next 5, but it was fine because no one watched them. Eventually I got gud & people started watching - this is the natural progression.
Everyone sucks at the start. Everyone.

 

[Paul-Denton]

Sure, maybe you're a perfectionist, and the thought of being sub-par in something is not pleasing, you put heavier standards on yourself because it might be tied to your value as a person (in your mind); I don't know if you're this type, but if you are, you might need to evolve out of that.

It's been an innate fear since being a child, ever being perceived as incompetent. I've picked up and dropped many hobbies throughout my life, gotten to a certain base competency, then abandoned because it feels continuing is pure folly or an insurmountable task. It protected me as an insecure boy but it's now a yoke on my neck because I see everything I do as cringy and lacking a distinct voice. I appreciate it

 

[Marc]

You grow desensitized to failure and, though you never grow to enjoy it, you do come to accept it. I may be confusing failure with a circumcision.

 

[dick brain]

I make stuff solely for myself and then let other people experience it because sometimes they like it too and give me money. I don't really give a shit what people want from me because the goal isn't to make stuff they like, it's to make stuff I like. If other people like it that's a cool bonus because I get money which means I have to spend less time and energy trying to get money which means I can spend more time and energy making stuff I like, but that's not the main goal because as soon as you start spending your time making things you don't want to make in order to get money from people who want you to make things you don't want to make you might as well be flipping burgers, it's the same thing.

Stop caring about what people think of you and start caring about how you're spending your time. You'll be dead soon, do the things you want to do while you still can.